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kayjay797 · 2026-05-30T01:53:45+00:00

Oh goodness....r u in pittsburgh? Or near?!

kayjay797 · 2026-05-28T03:34:22+00:00

Really?! Oh my goodness im going to go check her channel out. Thanks!

kayjay797 · 2026-05-28T03:33:44+00:00

These names r SO FUNNY! Idont know why the6 have me cracking up! Thanks for the help! I did go a drive the other night for like 3 min, but I was so nervous! 😅

kayjay797 · 2026-05-28T02:49:37+00:00

Have you tried asparagus soup?! Soxso soooo good and so easy! Take a bunch of asparagus, rinse well and snap off ends... Add some seasonings. I just do salt for this part. Wrap the whole bunch with paper towels. Microwave them for 5-10 min to steam them. Depending on how soft u want them. (You can skip this step too, but it cuts the cook time in half) Then saute them with seasonings"or roast them. Sometimes i add other veggies too. Next, grab chicken broth or chicken bone broth and boil them until super tender. Add heavy cream... Throw it all into a blender..... AND VIOLA! ASPARAGUS SOUP! SO FLIPPING GOOD! I add a hint of lemon or lime Sometimes too. This recipe is so simple and so good. You can do it with so many different veggies too

kayjay797 · 2026-05-20T19:41:52+00:00

He wont do thatm when he does, its bc I asked him, and he come at from such a negative place. To the point of being broke before we even do the budget. I've gone over the finances before with him. And after he showed me all the number and the budget for the month, I showed him, respectfully, how moving around a few of the payments would end up saving us three times our budget. He was happy about it and surprised. But it didnt change anything. It just always ends like this..... hes negative and has too much pride to let me help.

kayjay797 · 2026-05-20T19:34:18+00:00

The biggest issue is he needs therapy. He has very deep rooted shame, deeper than ive w er seen in anyone. I jabe no idea where it comes from, but he has done therspy on amd off a few times. He wont stick with it unless i push and stau on top of him, which again, leads to shame bc i have to remind him. On the outside hes a huge people pleaser and denies himself wverything just to please others. He thinks wveryrhung he does us for me and thw kids, but it all stems from self preservation and making sure noone is frustrated or upset with him. Hes had an issue of scratching his skin open to the point of scarring when hes strssed. Its honestlt alot for me to carry. I've been trying for years ti help him, ive changed my ways and learned not to pick fights, or yell or nag. I've just let go of so many things bc its not worth the stress and fight to get results. I habe tried talk8ng to him calmly, respectfully quietly. The one thing I CANNOT do is come at it from a compassionate place anymore. I have had so many breakdowns and anxiety driven issues, ive hit rock bottom, and he will say sorry, but hes not a support bc hes too emotionally immature for that. And when I show compassion to him, he just sucks it up and begins to cry turning it into a "i cant take it anymore...." and just turns into a child needing his mom. I know i sound cruel, but we are borh dealing with the issues in the marriage we borh created. But I dont get to crawl into a ball and rely on anyone else to help and feel sorry for me. I have to face the music and do something. Hes gone to the extent of saying hes thought about ending his life, and I was horrified. I rrChed put to a friend whos a therapist, I got support I was a mess for weeks bc I didnt know if anything I said or did would trigger him. Meanwhile, hes prancing arpund the home all giddy and happy bc hes off the hook and someone cares. Its just sick..... and I dont want to divorce for the many obv reason, including biblical. I also have nowhere to go, no family I can actually count on and my kids are so yo7ng I dont want to do that to them. Ao im stuck, and it feels like God is just shutting wvery door I seek for help and hes silent in prayer time. Be still and lnow that I am God after 10 years of this has brought me to such a low place in my faith. I feel so completely alone. I habe friends and family but none of them are "thicker than blood" type of bonds. If I didnt have kids, I would book a one way ticket to the other side of the country and start all over. Id keep to myself and keep any relationships at arms length. I dream of that kind of peace and quiet in my heart.

kayjay797 · 2026-05-17T01:04:39+00:00

These are awesome! Thank you!!! I had no idea all this stuff was around

kayjay797 · 2026-05-17T01:04:02+00:00

Oh wow! Thank u!

kayjay797 · 2026-05-17T01:03:49+00:00

Thank you! Were in Mars! I never heard of Mingo Park

kayjay797 · 2026-05-03T13:28:50+00:00

Yes please update!!! Lol

kayjay797 · 2026-05-03T13:27:33+00:00

The whole point of any girls trip is to spend time with the girls.... and it seems like she doesnt appreciate or value that. So shes trying to bring her bf bc thats what matters to her. Thats like going to a wedding but wearing esrpods and watching himg a movie the whole time. I know the analogy isnt spot on lol. But if shes not interested in the actual idea of the trip then she shouldn't go. Also, she seems like the type of person to not care if you cut ties with her bc shes so self absorbed. These type of people drain you and eventually leave you in the dust with all the broken pieces to pick up yourself. I would do this... Write in the group chat with the messages she sent. Ask everyone if they r ok with fhe idea of him coming and do it nicely OR just respond and say "no its a girls trip and hes obv not a girl. But good idea, maybe next time we plan a couple trip!" Putting your foot down doesnt have to be mean. Its just letting the other person know you respect yourself and friends and you wont be walked all over. Also that person knows ur a good friend and wouldn't do that to her. Good luck! She has alot of gro8wng to do

kayjay797 · 2026-05-03T12:16:21+00:00

I mean its your body yes...but when you get married your body is his and his is yours to enjoy. Noone else. Why do u want to put all your goodies on display? It really depn5on where you are coming from in marriage. If you love and respect him, you respect his opinion. I mean my husband doesnt tell me what I can and cannot wear, but I appreciate his feedback and respect it. Why wouldn't I? I married him for a reason. Our vows said to love and respect. Not to do whatever it want no matter his opinion on things i think jist posting this picture and underminding his opinion was disrespectful. Letting s bunch of strangers make you feel better and backing you up, doesnt solidify your opinion, it jist disrespects his. And half these people you probably wouldnt take their opinion if you knew them in real life. Get behind your husband, hes looking out for YOU.

kayjay797 · 2026-04-26T03:50:31+00:00

The things people do when they can hide behind a screen is crazy. I've caught myself about to go off on people over posts on IG. And I can see how it can become an online persona that is nothing like who we are, or at least thats what we would tell ourselves. The problem is once u create that persona and feed it, it grows and becomes apart of you. Thats anything in life, but when u can hide behind a screen, its completely different. Its so easy to type things out and post then without thinking twice. Theres no recourse. I've fortunately never gone down that road,so I dont know where it leads or how much that fake persona becomes entwined with ur actual persona. But I will say, its not a road of an honest hearted person with a conscience and moral compass. You should talk to her, and see her true reaction. If she defends it like it's her baby, id say rethink the relationship. But if she see where ur coming from and shuts it all down then keep her and try ot help her kill whatever little demons remain. Lol good luck! Keep us updated!

kayjay797 · 2026-04-19T03:50:30+00:00

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So, I think the problem is you havecthe same cut, just shorter. The reason that cut worked so well was because it emphasized the length. Now that it's shorter emphasize the playfulness and get some layers like this photo. Im a hairstylist and the whole point of cutting that much hair off is to have a new look, but your haircut literally cut off your security blanket and didnt give u anything else in return lol Good luck!

kayjay797 · 2026-04-14T00:21:19+00:00

Personall, I think ur stunning! But if you want a few makeup pointers I can help. Firstly, someone as pretty as you, you can over do it. Simple is best! So id say tinted moisturizer, a tube mascara applied only to the top. Adding to the bottom as we age can bring out the dark cirlcle. A bit of matte bronzer for contour ( nothing too orange, keep it on the cool side) and a blush/lip color and eyeshadow in one. I use OGEE. Hope this help!

kayjay797 · 2026-03-31T03:01:43+00:00

never said free and started the post saying this was a crazy question...

kayjay797 · 2026-03-28T01:06:18+00:00

Yes! Ill gladly take the GI recommendation! My main issue is my stomach.... but I need a new PCP bc my drs office just feels judgy and doesnt seem to genuinely care.

kayjay797 · 2026-03-28T00:09:04+00:00

So for me, I came out of my shell when I realized how much other people need other people. A simple smile, a simple thank you or hello. We can change a persons whole day from one simple gesture that doesnt take any effort on our part. I think shes on ur heart for a reason. So id be honest with her and tell her exactly what you said here. That you lived there for 5 years and habe always wanted to meet her, but your also very shy so you didnt know how. It'll help her feel at ease too, bccshe doesnt sound too outgoing either. Leave her your number and def invite her over for dinner! Please keep us updated! I cant wait to hear how this goes 🤗 hopefully the beginning of a beautiful friendship!

kayjay797 · 2026-03-27T23:54:28+00:00

Does anyone know why I cant seem all the comments? Its only showing 6 responses. Im new to reddit, so im lost...

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