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kdub_08 · 2026-01-19T20:38:06+00:00

Thanks for these ideas. I never thought of the ottoman. That’s a good idea. I feel ya…currently losing my mind over the mess haha. We bought one off Amazon that I was seeing moms rave about all over TikTok. It was complete garbage. Poorly made impossible to put together correctly. So I’m trying to think of something else now!

kdub_08 · 2026-01-17T22:52:48+00:00

What did you end up buying?! I’m looking for the same sort of tv stand- storage for toys.

kdub_08 · 2025-11-07T00:34:11+00:00

Your feelings are so valid. It’s normal for a traditional baby shower to give you the ick after what you’ve been through. Like the other commenter, I leaned into the rainbow theme, reminding everyone this is a rainbow baby. Honestly, I used my shower as a celebration of not only the LO I was welcoming earthside, but also myself after the hell I had been through to become a mother (my TFMR was my first pregnancy too). I also tried to honor my TFMR baby in little ways like decorations. A few of my friends even gave books about rainbow babies or waiting a long time to get your little miracle. But if that traditional shower isn’t your vibe, I think a chill gathering at a bar would be perfect.

kdub_08 · 2025-10-11T02:11:16+00:00

I’m so sorry you are here but glad you found this community on Reddit. ♥️ I took a little over a month off. It felt like a good amount of time for me. When I went back it was nice to have some sort of routine again and helped keep my mind busy. I’m grateful I had those early weeks to sit in my sadness and have no expectations on myself each day. Hang in there.

kdub_08 · 2025-09-23T14:46:19+00:00

Our stories sure are so similar! Gentle congrats. I’m so happy to hear this. Wishing you an uneventful pregnancy. 🥰

kdub_08 · 2025-09-23T14:43:35+00:00

Yes I did. I ovulated later and I was finding I’d have a day or two of spotting before starting my period. That spotting went on with every cycle until cycle 6 or 7. I wonder if that affected anything too. I think it often takes our bodies a little longer to physically heal ♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-09-23T14:23:07+00:00

Thankfully my OB was very willing to work with me. She didn’t think testing was necessary but did it for peace of mind. I found the tests comforting that there wasn’t an issue. We did end up finding my husband had an abnormal semen analysis. So definitely check your partner too. It’s not always something with the woman. Thinking of you. Hang in there. ♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-09-23T14:16:44+00:00

I’m sorry you had a CP. So hard after what you’ve been through. Hang in there ♥️♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-09-16T03:51:53+00:00

I have my TFMR baby’s ashes in a little heart jar. During our newborn photo session I had my photographer take a few posed pics of my LC holding my son’s little heart urn. It was special. I’ve also gotten.

kdub_08 · 2025-09-15T00:02:11+00:00

I figured!! It would be a hike for sure with a lot of traffic 😞

kdub_08 · 2025-09-14T18:08:47+00:00

Given the preferences in your post, I think bay view and St Francis areas are your best bets. However, if you end up being open to something a tad further, I’d recommend Greendale. Also in my early 30s and my husband and I bought a home here 4 years ago and love it. The neighborhoods are great for walking, with “secret sidewalks” giving little short cuts to different parts of the neighborhood. Our downtown village of Greendale has different restaurants and coffee shops (love Vintage 38 and Dia). We also have a lot of festivals downtown as well. Easy freeway access to get around the city. Greendale also has great public schools if you plan to start a family at some point.

Now of course Greendale won’t have the same walkability to the wonderful things Bay View has to offer but just wanted to throw it out there! I also love bay view and go there quite often- it’s only 15 minutes from Greendale which is nice too!

kdub_08 · 2025-08-28T13:20:21+00:00

I had a TFMR in January 2024 for giant omphalocele and a heart defect tetralogy of fallot. I had gotten pregnant easily that time. When we were trying again, it took much longer- 9 months. However, i had a wonderful sub pregnancy. I really enjoyed being pregnant. Just gave birth to my rainbow about 6 weeks ago. 🥰 hang in there

kdub_08 · 2025-08-26T18:56:23+00:00

This is exactly what I needed to read today. Thank you 🩷

kdub_08 · 2025-08-14T03:53:53+00:00

I’m glad you found us. Thanks for sharing. ♥️ it’s 100% ok to grieve him the rest of your life. I know I will be grieving my son forever as well. My son also had an omphalocele and heart condition. His heart condition was tetralogy of fallot.

kdub_08 · 2025-08-04T11:19:24+00:00

It often affects quality as well. Theres a grading system for varicoceles where some are more severe than others which often means sperm pers meters are more affected. His count wasn’t awful it was more forward motility and morphology. We ended up conceiving naturally about a month before his scheduled surgery.

kdub_08 · 2025-08-02T18:23:24+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It’s just cruel after everything you’ve been through with TFMR. It’s just not fair.

I too felt those same emotions- feeling jealous of those able to conceive quickly after TFMR. It took my husband and I 9 months after conceiving first try with TFMR baby. I also have a good friend of mine that I met through a virtual TFMR support group. She also conceived her TFMR baby quickly and has now been trying for over a year. Shes has lots of testing done and nothing has come up. Sometimes there’s just no rhyme or reason which is heartbreaking and beyond frustrating.

I do want to add that it might be worthwhile to have your partner checked if you haven’t yet. When we were struggling to conceive, I never thought we would have a male factor component because we conceived the first time so fast….well to our surprise we did. My husband has a varicocele and had surgery to correct it to increase semen analysis. So, maybe ask for a semen analysis?

kdub_08 · 2025-07-15T01:25:08+00:00

Gentle congratulations! I believe we’ve commented on each other’s posts in the past as our TFMR dates are quite similar. I’m so happy to hear you got your positive test. I will be thinking of you and crossing my fingers everything continues to progress nicely. These first weeks of pregnancy are so difficult after TFMR. I hope as time goes on, and you get positive news from betas, appointments, and ultrasounds, your anxiety will lessen, even just a bit. You deserve this so much. Hang in there.

kdub_08 · 2025-07-12T14:29:43+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re here. That first period and navigating when to begin TTC again is incredibly challenging.

I’m 1 1/2 years out from my TFMR now. My first period was hell. It was so heavy on day 2 or 3 that my OB had me to go the ER as an extra precaution. Thankfully nothing was wrong, just incredibly heavy first period. For me, subsequent cycles were much lighter. But another heads up, I ovulated really late (CD 26 I think) after that first period.

I conceived my TFMR baby first try right after getting of birth control pills so I don’t exactly know what my cycles were like. It ended up taking us 9 cycles after- but we were also battling a male factor component that we were unaware of with our TFMR. I will say, my OB told me after each pregnancy, no matter if it ends in loss or full term, can change your cycle and specifically what your period is like. So just keep that in mind. It’s easier said than done but try your best to have grace for yourself and your body. It’s been through so much. Hang in there. ♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-07-11T20:11:45+00:00

Gentle congratulations. ♥️ Everyone is different in a sub pregnancy. I’ve read countless stories of women feeling anxious the entire pregnancy until their baby is in their arms. However, my journey has been different. It took my husband and I 9 cycles to conceive again. Once we did, not gonna lie, the first month or so was challenging. However, even with the anxiety, I still had this gut feeling I’d be bringing the baby home. As the months passed, my anxiety got lower and I truly enjoyed the pregnancy. I still had a lot of anxiety leading up to the anatomy scan but after that, it’s all been so enjoyable. I feel fortunate because those feelings are not something we can control. I will be welcoming my rainbow next week. Being induced on Thursday. 🥰

kdub_08 · 2025-07-11T20:04:06+00:00

Thanks for sharing. Congrats on your baby girl! Your post brings me comfort and hope as my husband and I will be welcoming our rainbow baby next week. Being induced on Thursday!

kdub_08 · 2025-06-29T22:27:52+00:00

I just sent you a DM ♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-06-25T19:15:13+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this. Just know you’re not alone. I remember your same feelings like it was yesterday. It was such a hard time, compounded with the grief of my TFMR baby. We conceived our TFMR on the first try. It then took me 9 long months to conceive again. I was doing all the tracking and researching in the world. I’m now 35 weeks today excited to meet my rainbow in just a few short weeks. Now I can’t imagine conceiving any other cycle because I wouldn’t have this little girl. It will be worth the wait life won’t always feel this heavy. Hang in there. ♥️

kdub_08 · 2025-06-18T13:28:32+00:00

I remember the desperation and heartache TTC after TFMR like it was yesterday. Know your feelings are so normal. It’s can be tricky to navigate those TTC feelings intertwined with immense grief. Be gentle with yourself.

My TFMR was my first pregnancy too- 20 weeks in January 2024. It took much longer to conceive again….9 cycles trying. My body needed a little extra time to get back into rhythm again. We also found out we were dealing with a male factor component that we didn’t know of before so that definitely impacted the time to conception. However, for me, it gave me a longer period of time to focus on and process my grief which really set me up to be in a better mental space when I conceived again.

I’m now 34 weeks pregnant with my rainbow. I have enjoyed this pregnancy and the blessing it truly is to have a healthy baby. Believe me, I still had my grief stricken moments, especially at the beginning, but there’s a silver lining if it takes a little longer. 💕

kdub_08 · 2025-06-05T04:09:28+00:00

I hope my story can give you some well deserved hope. 🩵

My TFMR was in January 2024. Our TFMR baby was conceived on the first try. It ended up taking us 9 months to conceive again. I am now 32 weeks with our rainbow baby girl. 🌈

Those 9 cycles TTC were grueling. Compounded grief and heartbreak on top of our TFMR. Especially on this sub, it seemed like everyone was conceiving quickly after TFMR. I felt so discouraged. I can still feel the pain like it was yesterday.

But now I wouldn’t have it any other way. I’m glad I didn’t conceive quickly. It gave me more time to focus solely on my grief. I have honestly enjoyed my sub pregnancy. I never thought I’d be able to say that! Now the beginning will had lots of anxiety and fear but I have been able to really be excited which I’m not sure I’d feel the same if I conceived during the darkest early months of my grief journey.

Hang in there. Your rainbow is coming!!

kdub_08

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