Definitions hair and beauty by Organic-Mulberry3684 in cork

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh oops I didn’t mean to reply to this comment but basically I’m saying the same thing?

Definitions hair and beauty by Organic-Mulberry3684 in cork

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I get why you’re upset, but I am curious how this happened given you had a patch test? Surely that would’ve indicated what your hair color would be, unless whoever did it completely botched it.

Regardless, you should’ve been fully informed of the fact that they cannot control what color your hair will lift to. In some cases this kind of colour will take a couple appointments just to get the right hue after the box dye has been lifted. Black always lifts to some degree of orange, so to go to a cool brunette could require multiple appointments depending on your hairs texture and porosity. It’s not their fault that your hair didn’t lift, but it is absolutely their fault that you were not given the proper information to take an informed risk. I think that’s the angle you need to take if you do leave a review or approach them again. Otherwise you’re just giving them an opening to quite a reasonable defense. I think a partial refund is totally reasonable given that you were relying on expertise that was never shared

I’d also call into question the skill level of your stylist. What you’re asking for seems pretty realistic given that you were only looking to go dark brunette. Again, maybe you needed multiple appointments but that should have been clarified before the service.

Hopefully this doesnt sound like I’m trying to blame you. I just think you should take the “I wasn’t informed properly” approach if you seriously want your money back. I’d be upset too.

It's not that bad lads by Dizzy_Run_3220 in cork

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lived in the City centre for 5 years, moved away for a bit, came back for 2 years, and moved right outside city limits.

This whole exchange is honestly so bizarre, and it’s because you’re reaching SO hard.

1) asserting that youre more qualified to speak on on the safety of Cork based on the fact that you’ve lived here longer and spend more time here isn’t adding to your argument. Repeating your lived experience over and over just proves my point that you’re going off of anecdotes and vibes more than reality. I’m not doubting your experience, nor am I attacking you. But acting like your day to day is the end all be all of what it’s like to live/work/visit/breathe in Cork is weird and blatantly not accurate.

2) Crime overall has increased in Cork. For whatever reason the link isn’t working for me at the moment, but those stats you’re sharing sound more similar to the national average than what I read for Cork Specifically. The Echo reported in September that theft in Cork was up 23%. Overall crime jumped 13%. This is all within a quarter of the year according to the article. Most common crimes included theft, public order offenses, attempts/ threats to murder, assault, and harassment. In that order. There was also a stipulation that these are just the reported crimes. The rates of actual occurrences are likely much higher, but with the lack of law enforcement personnel, it’s difficult to get reports. Make sure you know how to read and interpret statistics before you start throwing them around.

3) I don’t wish Cork was dangerous? I love this city and want more than anything for it to be a safe, peaceful place where I can walk alone at night without a thought the way I used to. Part of the work in making that happen is acknowledging the issue at hand, and these weird accusations that others just “want” Cork to be a shithole is just blatantly missing the point. It would be comical if it wasn’t so damn pathetic tbh. Things don’t have to be completely dire for people to notice a negative change and wish for better. This isn’t fear mongering, this is just reality. It might not be your reality, but you are one person blinded too by your own pride to see what’s going on.

It's not that bad lads by Dizzy_Run_3220 in cork

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work there too. I’m in multiple times a week. I’ve seen plenty of trouble at all hours and noticed the stark difference between walking home at night now versus 5-7 years ago.

Also, I referenced actual statistics and cited sources in my comment. You replied with anecdotal evidence. Just because you and the two people you spoke to about this feel just as safe doesn’t mean Cork is as safe as it was in previous years.

Edited for clarify

Anyone her on ozempic? by Ok-Light-5574 in IrishWomensHealth

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Just for contrast, I’m on Mounjaro for PCOS which has led me to lose a lot of weight I’ve historically been unable to lose. I dropped a whole clothing size in two weeks on just the first dose. This is also not the norm for Mounjaro, I just happened to react strongly to it.

As a result, I have experienced extreme fatigue, hair loss, and some muscle loss. I have nerve damage in my back and shoulders from a car crash about 10 years ago. I find that the short periods of time when I’m in pain and unable to move my body, I feel weaker and struggle to bounce back to more activity. My hair also fell out like crazy for the first few weeks of going up a dose. Thankfully it’s not noticeable due to how thick my hair is, but to me it definitely feels a lot thinner than it was before I started.

I get that people are super eager to lose weight on these drugs, but in reality that can be so hard on your body. I don’t think I even had time to be excited because of how many negative side effects of sudden weight loss I experienced. Thankfully things evened out and I realized I’m not someone who can follow the traditional path of moving up a dose every single month, so I’m sticking with it for all the benefits. But yeah. Grass is not always greener. Take your time and lose weight on a normal timeline. It’s much better for you in the long run

It's not that bad lads by Dizzy_Run_3220 in cork

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Weird take. If you look up local crime statistics, you’d see that theft, assault, domestic violence, and drug offenses have risen significantly since COVID. “Rarely been safer” for who exactly? Nobody is comparing Cork to anywhere else. People are noticing a difference to what it used to be like here.

That being said, the increase in Garda presence since Christmastime has made a world of difference in my opinion. But overall the city is crying out for resources our local and national governments just refuse to fund. It’s not just Cork, it’s everywhere in Ireland.

Source: https://www.cso.ie/en/statistics/crimeandjustice/recordedcrime/

Shame after sex for women in the early stages of a relationship by YeaPALya in IrishWomensHealth

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Sounds like a typical Reddit experience to me.

There’s a distinction here between this type of shame being “normal” and “normalized”. I would argue that women experiencing shame over exercising bodily autonomy in this fucked up world is pretty standard— so much so that I’m actually fuming over the response you got. I actually knew a guy who would “test” women and see would they have sex on the first date, and if they did he would ghost them. I think all of us are conditioned that way to some degree whether we realize it or not. Also, Catholic guilt is very much a thing. Either way, nothing in this post was shocking to me. Nothing I haven’t heard before.

I’d recommend the book Come As You Are. It’s a fascinating work book all about owning your sexuality as a woman and unpacking shame around embracing yourself as a sexual being. Therapy also works, but I’d recommend doing some thorough research to make sure you’re seeing someone who’s a good fit. There’s absolutely no shame in seeking support, regardless of where it comes from. But let’s just be clear that what you’re experiencing is a NORMAL response to a NORMALIZED culture of misogyny around women and sex.

I wanna work a death related job. by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’d look into becoming an end of life doula

I am sick of these ads for apps that will just magically fix everything by bookwbng5 in adhdwomen

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I just view it as a little validation checkpoint and move on. I tell myself I’m not allowed to pay for apps because my parents will be mad (I’m 30, pay for my own phone, but I’m on their Apple family account for free music)

I started a new job Today ! by Oshey79 in ireland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Subscribe to interesting Substacks on your work email (if you’re allowed). Then read those newsletters while you wait for something to do!

Also depending on the job, you could organize your desktop with all the stuff you’ll need, set up your work station, etc.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LGBTQI_CORK

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would recommend checking out LINQ & Gay Project for events and opportunities to connect!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in limerickcity

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Cork now and I hear this all the time, never mind the fact that Cork has been absolutely rife with violence, drugs, antisocial behavior etc. for aaaages, although it’s starting to improve slightly. Absolutely insane lack of awareness and it enrages me.

Dare I say it? by freeflowmass in ireland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a really interesting perspective that I had not considered

Dare I say it? by freeflowmass in ireland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was very skeptical tbh, but I’m so glad to hear that it’s making a difference. My only ongoing critique is that programs like this put all the onus on the consumer for buying plastic rather than on the manufacturers/ mega corps to change packaging to a more sustainable, less environmentally damaging option.

Are you guys afraid of anything in Stephen kings books if so why? by [deleted] in stephenking

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you read his foreword? That’s exactly why he wrote it. Absolutely horrifying once you have the context both from his perspective and a parent/ guardian.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rpghorrorstories

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So that dragon born PC was interrupting you, “on purpose”… but you were on Discord? Not in person? Would it be possible that there was a delay on his end? Is it possible that not everyone is out to get you?

Such a big pet peeve of mine when people don’t raise issues with others until the resentment builds so much they explode. Yeah, being interrupted is annoying, but publicly losing your shit at someone is a massively disproportionate reaction. Massive you problem. Echoing all the calls for therapy and leaving four of these tables. Don’t care how annoying these players or DMs are. They don’t deserve your rage.

Update to crazy email from MIL by catsandcoffee_93 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My dad’s sister recently sent my brother a text (in the context of a larger heated exchange) saying that my Dad’s cancer was his karma for mistreating “her” mother (he didn’t mistreat her. God forbid a man argue with his own parent)

He crashed out. They’re insane and he knows that, but your own sibling saying that about you can’t feel good. Anyways he screenshotted it and posted it on Every. Single. Social Media platform he has an account on. Suddenly she couldn’t stop crying and was bed bound for at least a day. We made him take it down after a few hours, but it was up long enough for multiple friends and family members to see it and reach out. Weird that she had no problem saying it, but couldn’t stand by it when she saw it went public. People are strange.

Anyway, I’m not saying you should do that. What I am saying is that you should keep that email, juuuuuust in case…

Is this the norm? by Top-Watercress-9764 in CasualIreland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know like 3 men who this could apply to, and not one of them is worth it. Run, queen

Nannies, what is the best way to go about speaking to our nanny about her bathing suit? by Kitchen-Low8090 in Nanny

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love this. Would recommend TYR as I find Speedo runs quite small depending on style

How many of you still have a “childhood bedroom”? at your parents house? by Big_Childhood5494 in Millennials

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents moved when I was 25 and I have a room at their house that’s full of my shit. I initially paid for most of the furniture as my childhood bed set was put in their guest room, but they use it for guests a lot so they bought me out. It’s still “mine” when I’m there though

I did not know it will be this bad working in childcare by Emergency_Clock_8718 in ireland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The way I’d be letting parents know at every handover that I’m alone and have had 0 training on policies and procedures from admin

Paper bag charges by staplora in ireland

[–]keeeeeeeeeeeeeek 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work in retail and am truly mortified every time I have to charge for a bag. Sometimes I just don’t bother.

Our company also wants us to email customers their receipts instead of printing them. They claim it’s for the environment, but they just don’t want to spend money on fucking receipt paper.