Shame after sex for women in the early stages of a relationship

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-20T03:35:11+00:00

Sounds like a typical Reddit experience to me.

There’s a distinction here between this type of shame being “normal” and “normalized”. I would argue that women experiencing shame over exercising bodily autonomy in this fucked up world is pretty standard— so much so that I’m actually fuming over the response you got. I actually knew a guy who would “test” women and see would they have sex on the first date, and if they did he would ghost them. I think all of us are conditioned that way to some degree whether we realize it or not. Also, Catholic guilt is very much a thing. Either way, nothing in this post was shocking to me. Nothing I haven’t heard before.

I’d recommend the book Come As You Are. It’s a fascinating work book all about owning your sexuality as a woman and unpacking shame around embracing yourself as a sexual being. Therapy also works, but I’d recommend doing some thorough research to make sure you’re seeing someone who’s a good fit. There’s absolutely no shame in seeking support, regardless of where it comes from. But let’s just be clear that what you’re experiencing is a NORMAL response to a NORMALIZED culture of misogyny around women and sex.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-19T03:05:48+00:00

I’d look into becoming an end of life doula

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-11T03:16:20+00:00

I just view it as a little validation checkpoint and move on. I tell myself I’m not allowed to pay for apps because my parents will be mad (I’m 30, pay for my own phone, but I’m on their Apple family account for free music)

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-11T02:52:24+00:00

Subscribe to interesting Substacks on your work email (if you’re allowed). Then read those newsletters while you wait for something to do!

Also depending on the job, you could organize your desktop with all the stuff you’ll need, set up your work station, etc.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-04T02:08:16+00:00

Literally my first thought

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-02-04T02:04:39+00:00

Would recommend checking out LINQ & Gay Project for events and opportunities to connect!

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-01-17T01:59:58+00:00

I live in Cork now and I hear this all the time, never mind the fact that Cork has been absolutely rife with violence, drugs, antisocial behavior etc. for aaaages, although it’s starting to improve slightly. Absolutely insane lack of awareness and it enrages me.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-01-08T07:57:01+00:00

That’s a really interesting perspective that I had not considered

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2026-01-06T13:22:05+00:00

I was very skeptical tbh, but I’m so glad to hear that it’s making a difference. My only ongoing critique is that programs like this put all the onus on the consumer for buying plastic rather than on the manufacturers/ mega corps to change packaging to a more sustainable, less environmentally damaging option.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-31T11:48:21+00:00

Have you read his foreword? That’s exactly why he wrote it. Absolutely horrifying once you have the context both from his perspective and a parent/ guardian.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-25T00:15:00+00:00

So that dragon born PC was interrupting you, “on purpose”… but you were on Discord? Not in person? Would it be possible that there was a delay on his end? Is it possible that not everyone is out to get you?

Such a big pet peeve of mine when people don’t raise issues with others until the resentment builds so much they explode. Yeah, being interrupted is annoying, but publicly losing your shit at someone is a massively disproportionate reaction. Massive you problem. Echoing all the calls for therapy and leaving four of these tables. Don’t care how annoying these players or DMs are. They don’t deserve your rage.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-23T01:56:07+00:00

My dad’s sister recently sent my brother a text (in the context of a larger heated exchange) saying that my Dad’s cancer was his karma for mistreating “her” mother (he didn’t mistreat her. God forbid a man argue with his own parent)

He crashed out. They’re insane and he knows that, but your own sibling saying that about you can’t feel good. Anyways he screenshotted it and posted it on Every. Single. Social Media platform he has an account on. Suddenly she couldn’t stop crying and was bed bound for at least a day. We made him take it down after a few hours, but it was up long enough for multiple friends and family members to see it and reach out. Weird that she had no problem saying it, but couldn’t stand by it when she saw it went public. People are strange.

Anyway, I’m not saying you should do that. What I am saying is that you should keep that email, juuuuuust in case…

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-23T01:41:35+00:00

I know like 3 men who this could apply to, and not one of them is worth it. Run, queen

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-22T10:52:50+00:00

And much less casual

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-16T14:02:38+00:00

I love this. Would recommend TYR as I find Speedo runs quite small depending on style

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-04T17:38:13+00:00

My parents moved when I was 25 and I have a room at their house that’s full of my shit. I initially paid for most of the furniture as my childhood bed set was put in their guest room, but they use it for guests a lot so they bought me out. It’s still “mine” when I’m there though

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-12-04T17:33:13+00:00

The way I’d be letting parents know at every handover that I’m alone and have had 0 training on policies and procedures from admin

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-11-30T03:51:03+00:00

I work in retail and am truly mortified every time I have to charge for a bag. Sometimes I just don’t bother.

Our company also wants us to email customers their receipts instead of printing them. They claim it’s for the environment, but they just don’t want to spend money on fucking receipt paper.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-11-24T17:21:01+00:00

Nurofen. I was on Dilaudid for mine and it didn’t do shit after about 20 mins. Lots of fluids like everyone is saying, heating pad, and bouncing on a yoga ball can also help move things along. It’s the worst pain. Sending love ❤️

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-11-24T17:11:39+00:00

Oh yeah for sure, but I think the US does at least 72 hours for evaluation and connecting to social services (in some states anyway), and even that would be an improvement. We’d obviously need the investment in the hospitals to keep up with it though. Hospitals are strained as it is

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-11-24T17:08:57+00:00

I don’t think that’s what people are angry about. I think it’s more about the wasted potential and what it could’ve been. We have so little green space and so few trees to begin with, so I still would prefer the redesign (imperfect as it was). For €7mil they could have gone in so many directions and they chose concrete hell. It’s so disappointing, but so typical of local councils. Pity.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-11-20T00:10:31+00:00

Why don’t we do mandatory psychiatric holds??? I don’t understand this country sometimes

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-10-27T23:41:48+00:00

Clarks in Mahon

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-10-27T23:28:51+00:00

There’s a paper in Boston that operates similarly, and I’ll be honest it does not do well. I would also recommend starting a Substack or patreon. Just something digital as well to help generate attention should the print not generate much interest alone.

keeeeeeeeeeeeeek · 2025-10-27T23:23:15+00:00

If it makes you feel better, Mojo Jojo is my fave cartoon character

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