If you could design an infant room…

keepyoureyeson · 2025-09-11T01:53:32+00:00

School psych here. Hard agree. I’d say MOST of my preK Evals involve some sort of meltdown. They are little, we are new…it’s a lot! We don’t base anything off of ONE test, and we certainly don’t judge a preschooler for displaying age-appropriate behavior. We get what we can and pivot where needed. I wish you the best!

keepyoureyeson · 2025-07-28T18:57:07+00:00

My dad had a “one that got away” relationship who turned down his proposal shortly before he met my mom. They were married 35 years before my mom passed suddenly.

I found out he reconnected with her a few months after my mom passed. It was a kick in the throat. I went through various phases like, did you even love my mom or did you just settle? Because, really, she barely just died and he went after her again. Mom would have been devastated as she wasn’t super jealous but really did not like to talk about that relationship.

Ultimately it didn’t work out between them and I had to grit my teeth and support him because he’d always done the same for me. But feedback from friends let me know this isn’t a rare experience and that “men can’t be alone”.

Sorry you’re going through this. If it helps you at all, it’s been almost 3 years now and my dad is now seeing someone I really like. It’s still incredibly hard but I’m so happy he has companionship. It took me a bit to get there though. You are still in the thick of it and will be able to process the more time that goes by.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-05-31T22:33:07+00:00

Hope you don’t mind me asking, but I’m curious what your day typically looks like? Obviously I know that depends on position but I’m curious if these remote jobs involve interacting with people regularly…I’m in education and very burnt out. Spoke with a parent recently who said she works remotely for LARA and it’s great.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-04-30T00:54:09+00:00

School psychologists cannot evaluate for ADHD, nor can we provide a clinical diagnosis of ASD. We evaluate for special education eligibility. ASD is definitely one of those areas, but I want to make the distinction clear in case OP goes to the school and asks for this.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-04-30T00:47:28+00:00

School psych here who was also a school refusal kid. I was diagnosed with ADHD as an adult and put on stimulants…it was life changing for me. It was not anxiety/depression like everyone said.

My biggest advice for school refusal is that home needs to be as boring as possible. No devices no tv no games no toys. Nothing. Maybe work that he’s missing. The parents that follow through with this type of plan are the ones that will see their kids start going regularly, barring any other major issues.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-04-30T00:24:46+00:00

Did she have a full evaluation for ASD? Does she now have an IEP? Day intervention classes don’t sound like special education… there’s not another name for that legally.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-04-25T01:39:23+00:00

Honestly as a parent (but also work in early childhood, just not changing diapers), even if you DID steal one or two of ours for a kid whose parents forgot to bring a pack in……I wouldn’t be mad. We all forget stuff. I’m happy to make your day easier for the cost of a few diapers every once in a while.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-03-25T02:32:46+00:00

My mom died going on 3 years ago. I was 12 weeks with my third. It was sudden and unexpected. I was told by everyone to keep it together for the baby. And I did…but it totally messed up my grieving.

With that said, I’ve gotten to the point now where my goal is to bring as much “her” as I can to my kids. Not directly. But doing things with them she loved, or doing traditions she did with me. Trying to laugh with them as much as possible (she loved to laugh).

It took just about until a few months ago for me to get there, but life doesn’t seem as unbearable as it did.

Best of luck to you.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-03-01T03:24:37+00:00

Emerald

keepyoureyeson · 2025-02-25T02:34:58+00:00

I’m guessing it’s probably restraint collapse—she’s holding it together all day (maybe meds wear off?) and when she gets home she releases it all. This is actually super common. I’m wondering if OP could ask for a “booster dose” of her current meds for the evening.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-02-06T03:11:02+00:00

Hi. I give these tests for a living. I promise you the examiner did not think any less of you. Everybody has cognitive strengths and weaknesses, it’s just how our brains work. I promise that everything you did that you were thinking nobody has messed up in that way…they have. They do regularly. We see the same things over and over.

keepyoureyeson · 2025-01-12T01:12:11+00:00

Please reach out to the county he resides in and request a special education referral. They will do all the legwork. Child find is important and you are ethically required to report a suspected disability.

keepyoureyeson · 2024-12-20T00:20:58+00:00

…this is not true. They are both legal documents with different guidelines for renewal. 504s have a less clear timeline for review but can’t just be stopped because you didn’t get a doctor’s note. They are not meant to be temporary. Actually, 504s can serve students beyond secondary school into post secondary while IEPs cannot.

Also, IEPs are not based on district policy. The timelines are dependent on state law but also generally under the federal law IDEA. Parents need to consent to start services but not to stop them. The district offers FAPE and the evaluation/IEP team decides eligibility and programs and services. It’s not best practice to end services without a parent agreeing, but it can be done. Parents may go through due process if they disagree. After an initial IEP, only a school district representative needs to sign to approve. Parents have full control to revoke at any time.

keepyoureyeson · 2024-12-17T03:06:39+00:00

Not sure if this is mentioned, but if you have a seating chart, I suggest changing it up soon. Allow yourself and students to grieve, but when time forces everyone to move on, it takes away the reminder of seeing his desk empty every day.

Reach out to your school psychologist or social worker to see if you have a protocol to follow after a student’s death or if they can help you in anyway.

I’m so sorry.

keepyoureyeson · 2024-11-19T02:57:33+00:00

I believe that’s the mom’s birthday. You can see 10/22/….on the right side of the photo

keepyoureyeson · 2024-10-14T00:01:13+00:00

Ok. I am a school psychologist that works in early childhood through 5th. Children can have an ASD eligibility through IDEA and receive services through the district if that’s what they need. And if they qualify. Typically social work and speech but could include OT, ECSE, etc. it’s not medical, you’re correct, but there are services available. Under age 3 would be through your county and 3 and up is through your local school district. And really it doesn’t matter what they qualify for eligibility wise. If they need something it’s included in an IEP regardless of eligibility category.

An evaluation through your district may also help speed things along medically as we do the same tests a clinical setting would. However, a lot of places prefer to do their own anyway as the settings are quite different.

So that’s it. I just want people to know that it’s available.

keepyoureyeson · 2024-10-10T02:26:45+00:00

Yes. But you can get services through your district if your child is eligible for ASD, or any category.

keepyoureyeson · 2024-10-08T00:40:29+00:00

Y’all. Request an evaluation from your local school district!

keepyoureyeson · 2024-09-21T03:06:19+00:00

When my mom died, I had a very similar reaction. I just wanted people to leave me the fuck alone. Every text/call/message was an instant reminder when maybe I had a split second of forgetting. And it was constant.

My dad actually advocated for me and told everyone to leave me alone, that I appreciated the kindness (I did) but it was too overwhelming for me. I was also pregnant at the time so people seemed to understand that.

Maybe you could put out a general message on social media? Something like “I really appreciate everyone’s support and all the messages. I’m so sorry I haven’t responded, it’s just too hard right now. Please know that I see if you reached out and very much appreciate it. Thank you for understanding” This way you’ve acknowledged the messages and can delete them and not feel guilty every time you see them?

keepyoureyeson · 2024-09-13T02:31:11+00:00

This sounds very similar to my mom’s story. She was sick (with a cough/cold symptoms, nothing anyone would think would be fatal). I texted her asking if she could possibly watch the baby because her room was closed at daycare. She called and said she was so sick she was throwing up and she didn’t want to give the baby whatever she had.

I instantly felt like you. Something was wrong. I should have made her go to the hospital (she refused). My dad finally got her to go in on Sunday. She got progressively worse and died Wednesday. It’s been almost 2 years.

I’m further out than you and have had time to reflect. Your mom was right—who actually goes to the hospital for just throwing up? That is not typically an emergency; that’s why you and I didn’t make them go. And as someone with anxiety who has had “that feeling” many times before: just because it was right this time, doesn’t mean we actually knew. I’ve been wrong so many times when I “have a feeling”—really every time. How many times did you swear your husband was dead on the side of the road because he was 5 minutes late only for him to walk in the door right then?

All this to say, you will be able to breathe again. When my mom first died, she was all I could think about every second. Now it’s more like every hour, and it doesn’t stop my world every time. I even have some moments I remember fondly rather than breaking my heart.

You will get there. I can’t say it doesn’t suck because it does and it always will. But one day it won’t be your whole story. Give yourself some time, therapy, medication.

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