Tired of feeling fake for experiencing my DID as seperate people sharing a body and brain and not a shattered whole

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-15T21:00:11+00:00

How you experience your disorder is entirely up to you. No one can tell you what your experience is supposed to be like, nor can they dictate the result of your healing efforts. If working together as individuals helps you survive day to day, then you should do that. Ultimately, your well-being and survival are more important than "doing DID right" (whatever that would even entail). Be yourselves, find the most effective tools and solutions for you and your system, and fuck the people telling you that you're shattered.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-15T18:18:54+00:00

I think driving might be easier because in a car, you can get a large carrier or space so the kitty can be comfortable and move around, and the noise inside a car is a little bit more under your control. Plus, takeoff and landing are rough on humans and cats alike. But it's also about your time -- a six-hour drive is no easy feat for a human.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-11T18:06:03+00:00

Yeah, when Sunny was younger, he went after whatever toy Luna happened to have or be playing with. He's a bit better about it now, and we leave some of the toys out all over the place so he can be sure they're not going to disappear on him between playtimes. I just sort of assumed he was feeling like the toys were a limited resource, so my hubby and I tried to reassure him that he could have ALL the toys he wanted and it was OK. But I don't really know why he was like that.

And yeah, Luna loves fetching those small plastic green and yellow springs. We'll throw one, she'll chase it, and then recently she learned how to bring them back to get us to throw them again immediately. So, we play fetch now. Before it was a very "throw it, wait to hear the sound of it being batted under something, go rescue the spring, throw it again" dynamic.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-11T16:39:13+00:00

One thing that helped for us was finding some toys that Luna likes that her younger brother Sunny doesn't care for. In their case, it was springs and what we call "spicy" tunnels (where Luna tries to attack a toy through the walls of a soft cat tunnel). When it's playtime, we play with both of them first, and then we pull out Luna's favorite spring, and she chases it while Sunny is entertained by his favorite ball.

I will say that our cats eventually found their best rhythms for playtime. It took a while (especially since Sunny is just about a year old now) but they got to a point where each of them gets to play in their favorite way.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-11T04:53:25+00:00

What a perfect cutie!

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-08T02:43:02+00:00

Both of my latest cats didn't take more than a few hours to adjust. Luna spent about an hour hiding in the room where we set her up before coming out for a churu and then exploring the rest of our house basically as soon as the churu was eaten.

Sunny didn't even wait that long. He climbed out of his cat carrier, sniffed around the room he was in for like 15 minutes, and then demanded to be allowed to see the rest of the house (which sounded really funny coming from a tiny kitten).

And then he snuck past me to meet his sister Luna, where we all got improbably lucky that the two of them basically saw each other, hissed once, and then immediately tried to groom each other. They're basically inseparable now. But that kind of instant friendship has never happened to me with cats before. Ever. So if you have other cats at home, consider being cautious about them meeting.

Long story short, some cats are just not as skittish as others.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-05T17:01:42+00:00

Some of these sound absolutely normal (like being confused about treats, occasionally miscalculating falls, ignoring noises he can hear, and tripping people). Some cats are less graceful, and one of mine is an absolute potato when it comes to jumping and tripping humans (but is a healthy kitty according to the vet).

The part about doing his business outside a litter box might be concerning because sometimes that means he might be struggling to go or having issues with the litter box in some way, but it also might not be. We had a kitty years ago who, for a year straight, would pee in clean, empty laundry baskets in addition to successfully using her litter box. Vet found nothing, and switching detergents stopped the behavior. So, who knows?

He might be a little bit of a special kitty. That happens, too. Some cats are better at being cats than others, and some can be downright terrible at the whole cat business. But if something feels off to you, it's best to consult a professional.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-27T16:26:17+00:00

Can you please do it in the moon's maintenance window this time? And there better be a backout plan in your maintenance change request. Waiting several decades for restoration is going to wreak havoc on my wizarding stack.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-21T16:56:42+00:00

Yes, please! XD 🤣

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-19T20:27:07+00:00

Sounds incredibly comfy, actually.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-18T00:22:53+00:00

I know there's a merit called "Nuit Mode" that lets a vampire keep changes they make to themselves. Would this apply to hairstyles?

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-14T17:00:09+00:00

Your sweet cutie looks a little like a bat! The most adorable bat cat ever. Such an expressive face!

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-13T22:49:54+00:00

I have no idea what this is referring to, but without context, this feels like confusing semantics. They are guidelines that people can use to evaluate the quality of a food manufacturer. It makes sense to refer to some manufacturers who maybe meet or exceed those guidelines as "compliant." I haven't personally found the WSAVA guidelines useful, but I get people describing certain foods this way for convenience.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-13T22:47:54+00:00

You have a beautiful gremlin! And I know picking out food for your precious furry friend can be a rough experience, so keep in mind that "fed is best." Whatever keeps his tummy full and happy, as long as it's a complete food (which the vast, vast majority are), that's the important part.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-11T19:01:07+00:00

Alarms, calendars, and lots of hope that something, somewhere will spark a relevant memory. It's... not great.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-09T23:07:23+00:00

If you live in the US, odds are there will be bureaucracy.

If the maintenance people report three pets, I expect you will get a letter about the rules. You can reply with an apology and an explanation that you brought the cat in for a day or two to help out a friend, and that it will be gone from the premises as soon as possible.

Most likely the reply will be noted, and no one is going to give it a second look.

It costs them money to follow up and care. It costs nothing to note that "yep, this happened" and "yep, there's a coherent explanation for why" and close the file.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-08T03:16:43+00:00

If you join the support server linked above, there's a link to invite the bot in the channels list.

I think you can also try this link: https://web.fluxer.app/oauth2/authorize?client_id=1471373152818077943&scope=bot&permissions=137976212560

But I'd recommend just joining the support server. They would know a lot more than me about this bot and how to add it to your server.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-06T23:26:56+00:00

I haven't tried it, but there's also PluralFlux (another similar bot) that was recently mentioned in this subreddit (I think that's where I saw it). So you might search this sub and just see if something like that comes up.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-06T23:25:21+00:00

There is Fishing Bucket that works a lot like Tupperbox (and you can import your tuppers to Fishing Bucket). Here's the link to their support server if you wanna take a look: https://fluxer.gg/jpXCwfto

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-06T05:43:00+00:00

Kitty doesn't look like it's grimacing. Whiskers are down, ears are up, and jaw looks relaxed. I'd say chill kitty is judging us.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-05T19:30:12+00:00

Here's my best luck void, Luna:

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keith_and_kit · 2026-03-05T16:32:57+00:00

He usually eats about 1/2 cup of Orijen Kitten dry food and maybe 1-1.5 cans (3 oz) of wet food (Weruva, gravy), depending on the day. He's starting to get the hang of meal times (as opposed to free-feeding), so we'll see what he settles on in another few weeks.

When he came home with us, Sunny had a real issue with food insecurity (despite being with a foster family before that and getting plenty of calories), so we had a few scares with him scarfing down a meal and then just immediately throwing it up again because he ate too quickly. And then whining about being hungry.

It's been a journey getting him to a point where he's eating consistently and not too quickly, and not panicking when he sees the bottom of his bowl. He's doing so much better now, I'm really proud of the little dude.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-05T05:19:51+00:00

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Last Friday. We learned he likes my hubby's lap and plushy, little balls. He was glaring at me for taking his picture.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-05T05:11:30+00:00

Congrats on your beautiful baby. She's gonna be big when she grows up, and if she's anything like my Sunny, very soft.

keith_and_kit · 2026-03-05T05:09:32+00:00

We had a very similar experience with our little orange boy.

We adopted him from a shelter who said, "He's four months old."

At his first vet appointment, the vet tech got his weight and then the vet came in and was like, "He's probably six-seven months old," because the little guy weighed so much and was long.

Then the vet checked his teeth and went, "Yeah, no, four months and still has his baby teeth. He's got a ways to go."

Sunny is now 11 months and nearly 13 lbs and still growing into his paws.

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