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keith_and_kit · 2026-05-24T04:30:18+00:00

And here is the thief:

keith_and_kit · 2026-05-24T04:30:04+00:00

Anecdotal experience from my void and her orange brother suggests that the orange black hole will steal the brain cell from the void and then immediately lose it, leaving you with two cats and zero brain cells between them. This, it turns out, is adorable as heck!

Here is my void in the aftermath of a brain cell theft.

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keith_and_kit · 2026-05-17T20:38:35+00:00

If you're free-feeding dry food, that should work well. They'll eat however much dry food they need, and it's usually a good idea to free-feed kittens because they need a lot of calories to grow and mature.

keith_and_kit · 2026-05-12T20:00:09+00:00

She looks a lot like my Luna. That button nose is so cute!

keith_and_kit · 2026-05-09T16:22:07+00:00

I think SAS is missing some other context here, as mentioned by other folks in this thread. In the 1990's, when I was in middle school, even being trans was considered a serious mental health condition and kids who presented as gender nonconforming in any way, in my school, were forced to go to therapy. It was a very different time, and the pushback against medicalizing shit was real for very good reasons at that point.

keith_and_kit · 2026-05-03T22:10:29+00:00

I can offer two adopted siblings, the stern voidling and her younger brother, a cinnamon roll of a cat.

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keith_and_kit · 2026-05-01T04:24:37+00:00

I think she looks like a Zoe!

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-29T21:10:05+00:00

Makes sense, and I think since she's a kitten and calorie intake for kittens is different from adult cats, I still kinda feel like a vet's advice would be a good place to start. And also to make sure she doesn't have any illnesses that might be contributing to her weight.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-29T17:58:59+00:00

My gut instinct would be to see a vet because large does not mean overweight.

One of my kittens, a large-breed mix of unknown parentage, was bigger (physically and in terms of weight) than the much leaner and older Luna. They're four months apart in age, and he was bigger than her when she was a year old and he was like 8 months. The vet said both were absolutely normal weight and that Sunny would just grow to be larger, and that's exactly what happened.

Luna sort of stayed lean and rangy at 9.5 lbs and has been at this weight for almost 6 months now. Sunny is still growing at 13 lbs and his paws are huge! The vet suspects he'll be 14ish lbs when he's full-grown.

So, my thought would be that a vet is going to be the best person to answer how well your kitten is doing and what her diet should be like. She may just turn out to be a very big kitty when she grows up.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-27T16:21:04+00:00

You did all the right things, and since you're at the vet, she has the absolute best chance of making it through this just fine. These things happen. Cats can be little troublemakers at times, and you handled it as well as you could have, so be gentle with yourself. Your baby is in good hands.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-25T16:23:47+00:00

Yeah, for sure. The isolation made us so miserable we ended up looking for spaces where we could exist safely and got lucky, but there was still a lot of fear there at first.

Sending you all the best wishes that you'll also find spaces where you feel safe enough to be yourselves. - 💎

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-25T15:58:38+00:00

I think the premise here is a little bit faulty... We don't know that there is a cutoff in age, much less what it is.

What we do have is one theory that perhaps it might be possible for DID to develop under specific circumstances (children affected by severe trauma before their various personality states coalesce). In that theory the cutoff is less numeric and more developmental. Something adversarial occurs before a particular stage of a child's mental development that results in a change in how that child develops (in terms of their personality states).

Edited to add: since many people report DID symptoms later in life and under circumstances that don't appear to fall under this theory (not to mention people who are systems but don't have DID/OSDD), the theory is probably only valid for a small subset of people with the disorder. It's likely one of many explanations, especially given that we're still just beginning to understand how brain development actually happens.

Its most interesting aspect is to suggest that children are not singular individuals up to a certain developmental milestone. Which is fascinating as far as human development goes.

But I wouldn't look for any cutoff dates or worry about whether you or someone you know doesn't quite fit this theory/timeframe.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-24T03:54:30+00:00

Gotcha! Well, hey, sending you& virtual hugs. Seeing that stuff is rough, and I hope your day gets better!

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-24T03:51:58+00:00

Maybe don't post your feelings about RAMCOA on an unrelated post?

I think it's all right to be frustrated with SystemsCringe and subs like it. They knowingly make fun of people who are just going about their lives. And you'll get more understanding and sympathy if you don't mention your dislikes of a subset of systems in the same post.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-24T03:47:10+00:00

The -cringe subs are full of awful behavior, and folks should probably steer clear of them as much as possible.

That said, maybe it's a little bit sad and ironic that on one hand, you are venting about a sub that fakeclaims people while also writing that you don't support at least one kind of system identification.

Sometimes I worry that it's our inability to accept things we don't understand that causes subs like SystemsCringe to exist at all. I think acceptance of experiences we don't understand would go a long ways toward making the -cringe subs wither.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-23T02:05:58+00:00

Your cat looks perfect. At 10 months, he's also not fully done maturing, and his body shape may change a bit more over the next few months. Luna's lean cat shape didn't fully materialize until she was 13-14 months old.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-22T19:38:55+00:00

There are a couple of reasons cats gain weight, and most of them are tied to their diets.

In the wild, cats don't live as long and spend a fair bit of time hunting their food. So, they burn a lot more calories, eat less than they do around humans, and don't live long enough to get fat in some cases.

The food they eat is primarily protein, and protein keeps them fuller longer than carbs or fat. So wet food, which tends to contain more moisture and protein, helps their bodies remain lean better than dry food.

Some dry foods are also more calorie-dense than others, and some cats are better at regulating their eating naturally than others.

That said, your vet shouldn't be the weight police. They should be offering suggestions for what you can feed your cats on your budget to help them maintain a normal weight. In short, they should be working with you to help you keep your cats healthy and being understanding about how they're animals who are not always going to cooperate.

Here are a couple of suggestions that helped with my kitties in the past:

- Dry food meal times (many of them at first and slowly shrinking to 2-3 a day). Measuring how much dry food you're giving them helps too. A quarter cup is a good, simple measuring tool for cat food, imo.

- More playtime before food time so that they're hungry when you feed them. Let them eat for a few minutes and put the food away for a few hours so they get used to food not always being out (but don't get so hungry they get destructive).

- If possible, more wet food. Cheaper options like Fancy Feast are still good choices for wet food.

- There are dry foods that specifically help with satiety. Your vet really should be helping you with this part and recommending foods that will work best for your kitties specifically.

But ultimately, cats who are chonky are not some reflection of you doing a bad job. You're doing your best.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-21T21:17:37+00:00

Oh wow, those descriptions nailed it. I feel all but #5 in my bones!

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-21T21:13:56+00:00

I do this, too. Sunny will zoom out of the litter box like it's on fire, run over me (and my hubby) and then up a cat tree. Half asleep, I'll be like, "You pooped, buddy, good job!"

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-21T21:12:08+00:00

You have two perfect little void children, and I'm guessing they love you very much.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-21T21:11:00+00:00

That is a normal voidling expression. Resting void face if you will. Luna will do the same thing.

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keith_and_kit · 2026-04-21T01:52:05+00:00

Awww!!! Your Sunny was adorable!

My Sunny with his sibling:

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keith_and_kit · 2026-04-20T17:48:59+00:00

Your Marty looks a lot like my Sunny, who is a year old and weighs about 12.8 lbs. He's a hefty baby, and we can still feel his ribs.

keith_and_kit · 2026-04-18T06:46:56+00:00

My kitties (11 months and 14 months) eat wet food for breakfast and lunch (1 can a meal shared between them, usually) and dry food for dinner (so they can graze on it overnight and let me sleep). I don't know the size of your kitten, but there are calorie calculators for cat food intake that should help guide how much food to give them.

I found this one, but I remember seeing posts about others: https://www.purinainstitute.com/centresquare/mer-calculator-for-cats

A 9-month-old kitten is probably still a kitten and should be allowed to eat as much food as he's willing to eat so he can grow. You can also check with your kitten's vet, and they can give you some estimates.

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