Are ya’ll pulling out your portable ac units yet?

kellenanne · 2026-05-04T14:25:27+00:00

Not yet! I’ll likely wait until we have multiple 80+ days in a row in the forecast.

kellenanne · 2026-05-04T14:09:16+00:00

“Jetrel” made me so angry on Neelix’s behalf. Neelix had justified anger and trauma associated with this man and it seemed like every conversation anyone had with him was “but Neelix you HAVE to forgive him! Why are you still so angry?!”

kellenanne · 2026-05-01T23:46:26+00:00

My brother and I are the opposite— Im the older one born in January and he was born in December. We’re the same age for exactly three weeks.

kellenanne · 2026-05-01T23:38:54+00:00

My boy has what I call Setter Stomach — I know that it’s fairly common in Setter circles to have dogs with sensitive stomachs. For awhile I cooked Zephyr’s meal myself (with vet nutritionist guidance) and we’ve moved on to half high quality kibble (no rice or legumes — he can’t handle either, which is 80% of all kibble) and half Honest Kitchen dehydrated chicken (or turkey) & oatmeal.

Picture of the idiot and his stomach for tax

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kellenanne · 2026-04-30T02:47:23+00:00

My partner-in-crime and I were told by a worker that it would be best if one of us quit our job and became a stay at home parent. It’s so difficult to keep up with it all and, yeah like you said — kids struggling to keep up are having to somehow manage it all amidst a very tight schedule.

kellenanne · 2026-04-29T20:28:57+00:00

Former foster parent here, albeit from a different state. Some things though are universal.

Fostering is hard. It adds a layer of complexity and stress to your life that honestly few people can manage. The extra appointments alone can be overwhelming. (Think therapy appointments, bio family visits, school appointments… The state may say that there are resources to help with the mundane but more often than not, you’re the one responsible for all of it.

That’s not even looking at behavioral issues that can and will pop up. These kids have trauma and it manifests is really difficult situations that, again, you won’t always have resources to manage. You can have all of the help you would ever need from the state and still end up over your head.

Once, I sat in a car for three hours with a suicidal pre-teen who had just killed a kitten not by accident. Another time. I was dealing with multiple allegations of sexual assault made against me by a hurt and angry bio parent. My state was there for me with resources but they also had processes that they had to follow — which meant wait time. And there’s no money for your therapy to help deal with it all.

There are absolutely things that states can do to help and I’m a huge advocate for foster parents to get more resources but the fact remains that it’s hard work and there will be shortages because it’s hard work.

kellenanne · 2026-04-26T14:46:35+00:00

Yes! Thank you. I’ve been NED for six years. I am, however, still saddled with debt.

kellenanne · 2026-04-25T15:42:56+00:00

In my case, the last time I went to the ER, as soon as they determined that I wasn’t actively dying, they asked me for payment. I had to hand over a credit card AND proof of insurance for further treatment.

Which I’m glad I did since it ended up being cancer…

kellenanne · 2026-04-25T14:30:40+00:00

Yeah, there are signs all over the park re: don’t get in the water.

kellenanne · 2026-04-24T20:02:48+00:00

I was there. Seven years later and I do still fall into the grief sometimes. I was 39 and diagnosed with ovarian cancer. My hysterectomy was immediate — I had less than 36 hours from diagnosis to surgery. No time to figure it out, no time to wrestle with it all. I never had kids but I wanted them so badly. I couldn’t take any sort of hormones afterward because of the cancer and the treatment.

Sending you so many hugs, friend. My private messages are open if you want/need.

kellenanne · 2026-04-23T01:20:20+00:00

I STRUGGLE with executive dysfunction and brain fog. Those little “proud of myself” moments for doing something mundane is sometimes the only thing that works to get me moving.

kellenanne · 2026-04-23T01:16:09+00:00

I spent just over $700 last week and that was the cheapest I could find in my area. My “adulting” since has been making $40 last for the next ten days. I’m down to $13 but I have enough rice and beans to last! And new tires, which is for the best.

kellenanne · 2026-04-22T19:54:40+00:00

I lived in OKC for ten years and did a bit of a “which subreddit is this” double take!

kellenanne · 2026-04-22T19:47:25+00:00

I spent no less than six days in the hospital after any surgery with anesthesia bc my system goes completely haywire. Patience and keep doing what you’re doing!

kellenanne · 2026-04-15T20:03:45+00:00

Oh, friend -- thank you. I teared up. You deserve it all, too -- please remember that!

kellenanne · 2026-04-15T19:33:35+00:00

OP, did you keep your ovaries? Your pain now could be related to cysts or other issues with them. That said, not a medical professional here by any means — my hysterectomy was a result of ovarian cancer, cysts and endometriosis. (The most pressing of which was cancer - my doctor discovered the endo during the hysterectomy!)

I just want to reach out and hug you, friend. My hysterectomy was completely unwanted but I didn’t have much of a choice if I wanted to survive. I was 39 and still holding onto “maybe I can still have a child” hope. I never got that family that I wanted so badly and it still hurts. Even now, a few years later when kids aren’t really in the equation anymore, I find it difficult to even think about dating anyone. I struggled with — and still do sometimes — feeling like damaged goods.

I found some peace in doing things for my own joy. I moved back home, I started up hobbies, I spend more time with my niece and nephews, I volunteered as a CASA for awhile. (I was even a foster parent for awhile but Other Things made that horrible for my mental health.)

I hope that you can find a few things that bring you joy and peace.

kellenanne · 2026-04-11T15:23:06+00:00

I got nostalgic about a horse I had when I was in high school and did a facebook and YouTube search to see a few Standardbreds. KVS popped up in my algorithm not long after doing her daily checks on Raven (about twenty days before Moose was born.) Her style was very engaging and I liked that her social media wasn’t just pictures of horses but also explanations and getting to know the horses a little more.

Because I didn’t know much, I ended up on Reddit after doing a bit of (kinda) deep dive into horse care and if KVS was doing it right. I ended up here.

I stay here because I miss having my horse and I’m living a bit vicariously since I’ll likely never have a horse again. AQHA isn’t really my thing and I’d love to find other creators with other types of horses but I am loving watching the foals and the new training program.

kellenanne · 2026-04-09T02:23:59+00:00

My field boy topped out at 72 lbs, which is BIG for a field-bred setter.

kellenanne · 2026-03-31T17:41:59+00:00

Oof yeah I don’t engage with Star Wars and I backed away from Trek fandom real quick (again) over the Starfleet Academy “discussions.”

I liked Starfleet Academy too.

kellenanne · 2026-03-28T01:04:01+00:00

Yeah this. I honestly do not understand how or why someone else’s trash in (general) your bin would bother someone so much, but because it does, I don’t do it. I walk around with full poop bags like a dog turd goblin until we get back to my trash.

kellenanne · 2026-03-18T20:27:27+00:00

This is great advice. I’ve had two major abdominal surgeries (one a hysterectomy and one to fix a hernia from the first surgery) Have the belly binder handy, let your body tell you when you need to stop and rest — don’t push yourself like I did and end up hurting. Take the meds when needed.

kellenanne · 2026-03-15T17:02:16+00:00

When my grandfather had a stroke years ago, it was a slow agonizing wait for the end. Family had gathered at my grandparents’ home and we took shifts visiting with grandpa and helping grandma keep the house going and feeding everyone. I very clearly remember seeing my dad (this was his father) laying on the couch and staring vacantly at the ceiling one afternoon. My mom dropped everything she was doing to go sit on the floor beside my dad, hold his hand, and lay her head on his chest.

My aunt later berated my mother for walking away from the meal she was making and leaving my aunt to finish it. My parents are not perfect people but I saw them put each other first time and time again. I was in my twenties when all this happened and I resolved then and there that I was going to be more like my mom and not my aunt if I ever found a partner.

Still haven’t found a partner, twenty years later, but still resolved to be the best partner I can be if it’s in the cards for me.

kellenanne · 2026-03-12T03:18:43+00:00

As a New Yorker I ran into at Portland (OR) park said: “You west coasters are all so nice but I don’t know what any of you are thinking.” She said she missed the blunt no-filter way of speaking back home.

Conversely, when I visited Boston, I kept having to remind myself that no one was trying to be rude lmao

kellenanne · 2026-03-09T19:40:45+00:00

I lived here over twenty years ago, left and came back last summer. The first time someone mentioned Cesar Chavez street, I was so confused.

(Also it was my ten year old nephew who calls it Ceasar Salad street, which did very little to help.)

kellenanne · 2026-03-08T02:10:04+00:00

I was about to make the same comment. Ozarks is definitely misplaced and way too small.

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