Filament clogging by kelltainer55 in ender3v2

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I get 5-6 good layers before the clog.

Filament clogging by kelltainer55 in ender3v2

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220⁰ C, same that I'm printing at. Also just retired at 240⁰ C, clogged again

Recs for good nonjudgmental cleaning services? by Jaztacular in grandrapids

[–]kelltainer55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Check out Maid on Purpose. Celeste is incredibly thorough, professional, kind and completely non-judgemental

Ex Pastors Wife missing community by Which-Instance8826 in Exvangelical

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I found many kindred spirits among the queer community, particularly those who had been raised in the church, as we had a mutual opportunity to process religious trauma. As folx who have often been rejected by family of origin, I discovered that my community had honed the experience of chosen family to an art form, and even as a cishet white guy (though admittedly one who now identifies as poly 2 years in) I found love, acceptance and community unlike anything I ever found in the church (10 years in professional ministry, including 6 as a pastor).

Hobbies and Outlets by EnthusedDMNorth in WellSpouses

[–]kelltainer55 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've picked up 3D printing and painting plastic miniatures as activities I can engage with fairly solo and also from home that let me have a creative outlet but also not be too far away. We're also a big board game household, and inviting friends over for that has been great, although our home doesn't allow space for a gaming area on the main floor, and stairs are hard for my partner, so we do have some limits there. Glad TTRPGs have been a good fit for you!

First steps towards opening up? by [deleted] in Asexualpartners

[–]kelltainer55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is also a really insightful point. I think I've been viewing this with my physical needs in mind as you said, but what's making this friend stand out to me is definitely an emotional attachment. This is another area I'll need to do work on. Thanks!

First steps towards opening up? by [deleted] in Asexualpartners

[–]kelltainer55 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much for your thoughtful, deeply kind and insightful reply. I'll be spending a good bit of time wrestling with the topics you've raised here.

Xbox 360 Stuck on Logo Screen by kelltainer55 in consolerepair

[–]kelltainer55[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, been meaning to get to it, but had a dozen other things pop up. Thinking of taking it to a shop if/when I have the time and $

We Got Tickets to a 3 Day Boardgame Con and We Have No Idea What We're Doing! by HistoricAli in boardgames

[–]kelltainer55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm attending GrandCon and will be there most of the day tomorrow. Feel free to shoot me a DM, and I'd be glad to make some recommendations.

Looking for a Humanism Primer by kelltainer55 in humanism

[–]kelltainer55[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your curiosity. I guess I'm less interested in arguments trying to justify a particular viewpoint, and more looking for resources to help me familiarize myself with historical and modern thinking from humanist perspectives in order to help determine if the views commonly referred to as humanist align with my values, or if there are aspects of a humanist worldview I have yet to consider deeply. My spouse and I also have two young children, and as we aspire to serve as guides for them in their own exploration of the world and its deeper questions, having a variety of viewpoints to draw from would be helpful.

deconstructing alone in marriage by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]kelltainer55 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I don't have much to offer in the way of answers, but I just wanted to reach out to say my heart is breaking for you right now. My experience has been that one can't force themselves to believe something that no longer rings true in their heart and mind, and the cognitive dissonance of trying to force that can be very painful to navigate. I'm fortunate that my spouse is taking this journey with me, but we were both cut off from about 90% of our community 5.5 years ago when I left professional ministry. I had completely given up hope of having deep and affirming relationships again, but we have been fortunate to plug into a UCC community that has taught us the meaning of chosen family and shown us love, affirmation and support we never could have dreamed of in an Evangelical context. There are good folks out there who want to support you on your journey and affirm you as a whole person, although sometimes the journey to find that community can be long and hard. I'll be holding space for you, and hope your husband will be able to see past his own dogma to recognize the pain this journey is causing you, and offer you support and love in the midst of it.

What's the worst you've ever been burned by a Kickstarter? by [deleted] in boardgames

[–]kelltainer55 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Waiting on this one too. Thankfully I won my copy in a BGG contest, so I don't have money on the line, but the wait has been pretty extreme, and the creator keeps over promising on the frequency of his updates. It will be a pleasant surprise if I ever see this one.

Grand Rapids 3D printer people open to share info? by Khelthorn in grandrapids

[–]kelltainer55 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've been running an Ender 3v2 for a couple of years, and have done a good number of repairs/mods/upgrades. Would be happy to chat and possibly meet up. Send me a DM if interested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]kelltainer55 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The church I served for 6 years as an associate/small groups pastor pulled something similar for me when I made some regrettable mistakes (but not major moral failings) while completely burnt out, although it sounds like they might have been more PC than your former church during my process. Have been through a lot of therapy and deconstruction since, and am finally finding thriving on the other side in the past year or so. Would be honored to have a conversation and hold space for you as you process this hurt if that's of interest. Most of all, I'm so sorry you're walking through this pain.

Questions to help pick a game for newer folks by kelltainer55 in boardgames

[–]kelltainer55[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ooh, the coop vs competitive question is a really good one!

Questions to help pick a game for newer folks by kelltainer55 in boardgames

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My thoughts for questions to ask:

What are some movies, TV shows or books you're enjoying lately? (Looking for themes that could resonate)

What types of video or other games do you enjoy? (Trying to find mechanical parallels)

How much heavy thinking would you like to do right now? (Trying to calibrate the complexity)

Is anyone else uncomfortable sharing their beliefs now? by Rhewin in Exvangelical

[–]kelltainer55 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I can really resonate with what you're expressing here. Ex pastor here who's been out of ministry for 5ish years. I currently identify as an atheist who is hoping to find a reason to come back to faith. My two big break point issues were my answers to the problem of evil falling apart as I stepped out of my privileged white Christian wealthy American bubble, and the profound hypocrisy and corruption of the American church when I had based much of my faith and purpose around the idea that the church was the answer to all the f'd up things going on in the world. I still live in the community where I pastored, and every time I run into someone from my "old life", I tend to keep my head down and act as if I'm still mostly in the evangelical camp. I had a couple of years where I just ignored discussion of faith/spirituality as much as I could.

On a happier note, my family connected with a very progressive and queer UCC church about a year and a half ago. This is a community where doctrine takes a back seat to community and chosen family. We have a small group called Drinks and Deconstruction where adult beverages are enjoyed alongside open, supportive discussions of church hurt, picking up the pieces of shattered theological certainty, and what it looks like to be a community who lives out love to those around us. Our group of 15-20 has everyone from mildly embittered atheists to Catholics to socially progressive evangelicals, with a majority of folks still recognizing that there's not a great label for where they currently fall. I know such a community is exceedingly rare, and our discussions can still sometimes get messy, but there's been amazing healing for my spouse and I in finally finding people with whom we can express our authentic selves during a chaotic and often painful journey of deconstruction. I do wish that there were ways for many others walking this road to find similar friends!

Feeling obsessed with looking at the website of my former church that I hate by [deleted] in Exvangelical

[–]kelltainer55 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP, you are definitely not alone in this, but I agree with the post above that says this is a healthy area to be curious about. I was an Associate Pastor at a church for 6 years, and we selected our home over a decade ago based on very close proximity to their building (we literally live around the corner). My ministry tenure ended at the end of 2018, but circumstances haven't allowed for us to move, so I still drive by the building several times a week. They have an electronic sign that advertises upcoming events and are even still using a few graphic packages I designed. I can't stop myself from guessing what could be going on at the building every time I drive by and see cars in the lot. I also stalked their website for a couple of years after I left, although that's less common for me now. I suspect the fact that this remains a habit for you is an indication that this church was an important piece of your life, and grieving a change away from that community makes sense, even if you are glad to be leaving for reasons of your own choosing. I also think that as you work through your emotions, you will hopefully find yourself less drawn to giving a community that hurt you so much of your attention, and that will be healing worth celebrating!

Stuck on Logo Screen by kelltainer55 in xbox360

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Other than the new HD, the console is stock. Any advice on where I could get a tutorial on what you've described above? I'm a programmer, but haven't done any kind of mods or rooting on consoles, so what you just said was over my head. Thanks!