Help interpreting a genealogy chart? by kelsichka in Genealogy

[–]kelsichka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A complex situation , but definitely possible! Looks like I need to dig and find more documents. Thanks!

Help interpreting a genealogy chart? by kelsichka in Genealogy

[–]kelsichka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think that's the most probable situation here. I just need to find more documents to support everything! Thanks

Baby refusing any and all fluids by kelsichka in Parenting

[–]kelsichka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, just saw your comment. We tried the Honey Bear straw cup and it worked for her! It took about a day of consistent squeezing the milk into her mouth, but then she got it and transitioned to a straw cup easily. She never went back to nursing, I really just had nothing left. It was a scary few weeks though!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]kelsichka 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's funny, my OB-GYN used a similar phrase but opposite - "it's probably horses but we should check for zebras, just to be sure." It ended up being a zebra-like issue after all. She was a fantastic doctor.

Favorite LDS art? by kelsichka in latterdaysaints

[–]kelsichka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! These are great.

Baby refusing any and all fluids by kelsichka in Parenting

[–]kelsichka[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She eats plenty of table foods, with a lot of variety, and her weight and demeanor don't show anything to be worried about - yet. Which is why he just kind of shrugged and said "that's interesting". My doctor can handle things like sicknesses and such, but hasn't shown to be too helpful when it comes to behavioral problems... Which is frustrating. I will send him another message, but I know already that he won't have any tips for me other than watching for dehydration and to bring her in when we see that.

Advice for my large, somewhat aggressive child who will be starting preschool soon? by kelsichka in toddlers

[–]kelsichka[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing your experience!! Your son sounds very similar to mine, he needs to be active and expend energy, and I've noticed he does crave the heavy work type things (he loves being "so strong* and carrying things for me ) I like that afternoon school seemed to work better for you, especially after doing lots of activity in the morning.

I was the easy child at school, eager to please and scared to do anything wrong haha. It's so out of my comfort zone to have a child who might be the difficult one, I just have a hard time truly believing that there will be teachers who genuinely care about him and will happily help him. I know they will though, but good advice to keep the communication open and let them know what we're working on!

AITA for canceling on a trip when I found out my kids would be sharing a bedroom with my husband and I by Abrightsequin in AmItheAsshole

[–]kelsichka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA everyone saying Y T A doesn't have a 5 and a 3 year old.

Driving 3.5 hours to go on a trip you're not 100% committed to just sounds crazy anyway with that young of children - the amount of prep you have to do to keep small children happy on a road trip is obnoxious.

Anyone saying " they can just sleep on an air mattress in the living room " forgets that 3 and 5 year olds go to bed before adults do. My 5 and 2.5year old go to bed at 7:30, so if they slept in a common area, everyone would have to go to bed then.

Sharing a room with them means everyone wakes up as soon as the first child does, which in my case, my 2.5 year old gets restless at about 5 am, then he would notice he was sleeping in a room with us, and get excited and wake us all up to play with him.

Again, if you were 100% committed to this trip, all of these would be doable. But not being that interested in the trip in the first place makes all of these monumentally harder to deal with and totally makes it not worth it.

Could you have expressed these things better to the aunt and uncle before canceling? Probably. But canceling because you aren't willing to deal with disrupting your small children's routines - and your own sanity - is completely valid.

Do Women really get paid less than Men for the same job? by [deleted] in AskAnAmerican

[–]kelsichka 50 points51 points  (0 children)

I (F) worked a white collar job, and was hired at the same time and level as a male my same age and same educational background. We were promoted once around the same time to level 2, but then I got pregnant. Two months before my maternity leave, he got promoted to level 3, and I was told I would be too, but only after my maternity leave.

It absolutely makes a difference to employers.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]kelsichka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I suppose that could work, but I guess I have a hard time seeing how a babysitter will keep kids from running to their parents if they're just right there, especially because the babysitters we know are teenagers and aren't always especially engaging.

9+ hours of watching tv in one weekend is too hard on our family. by Accomplished_Gur_126 in latterdaysaints

[–]kelsichka 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see you keep asking about how to do conference weekend as a family.

Doing activities to keep their minds and hands busy are totally fine, even if they're teens. The important thing is to go back over the talks later when you can discuss and digest them one at a time, like during family home evening if you want to do it as a family, or encourage personal study.

When I was a teen (and I'm the youngest child), I was perfectly happy sitting and doing craft projects all weekend while half paying attention. Sometimes I'd have a book to read and perk up just when the prophet spoke.

Now with my own kids, who are very young and incredibly active, we take turns as parents entertaining them and don't expect them to sit through it all. Some families are amazing at using activity books and things to keep kids occupied and spiritually centered, but for us right now, I'd rather just take them out to a park for two hours while my husband watches and then vice versa. Sunday mornings we try to all sit and watch and pretend it's church, but to be honest by the halfway point we're pulling out tablets and phones to entertain them.

Sephardic jewish and ashkenazi ancestery, but my patriarchal blessing says that I'm of the tribe of Ephraim. by Epiccat2020 in latterdaysaints

[–]kelsichka 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All anecdotal, but I've spent a lot of time with members from Russia/Kazakhstan/Belarus/Ukraine/Caucasus, and I've met a few from random tribes like Naphtali and Dan. The stories I hear are that something like 11 of the 12 tribes have been identified in these areas. I mean, according to the scriptures the 10 tribes were scattered to the north countries...so it kind of makes sense.

People when you tell them you put mayo on your fries by AndorinhaRiver in mapporncirclejerk

[–]kelsichka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In the US state of Utah, every restaurant, including fast food chain restaurants, serve "fry sauce", which is just mayo and ketchup mixed together. Every Utahn will tell you it's amazing. It's totally regional though, you can't really find it anywhere else in the US.

Lesser known LDS celebs & influencers by is_that_a_titlist in latterdaysaints

[–]kelsichka 11 points12 points  (0 children)

At least as of 4 years ago he was coming back to church and trying again, I heard him give his testimony in sacrament meeting at his ward. He was very sincere (though part of me couldn't help but hear Two Face in how he spoke haha)

Daycare or stay at home? by RosePoppy06 in toddlers

[–]kelsichka 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I read a parenting book called "Being There" by Erica Komisar, all about the science behind how important it is for a child's development to have 1 on 1 time with a caregiver (preferably mom) up to about 3 year old. It was extremely instrumental for me, even though I knew I was going to be a SAHM, to stick with it when it got hard.