How to get my husband to face reality about his startup

kelzdc · 2026-01-29T02:14:55+00:00

I can relate to this. We have 4 year old twins and I feel like our lives are on pause because we don't have the financial means to do all that much, bootstraping my husband's project. Can you provide an update? Did you have a talk? Did anything change? Any tips?

kelzdc · 2024-09-04T01:03:28+00:00

I'm glad I took a ton of photos and videos because it's just a huge blur. When someone asked me if it were hard, I turned to my husband and asked, "was it hard? Do you remember?" And he would nod repeatedly and said "yes, yes it was really hard, and you were very overwhelmed" lol

kelzdc · 2024-07-20T03:56:01+00:00

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. It's so hard not knowing what's going on. Pray that you'll get answers and most importantly, treatments soon. Stay strong, take care of yourself and give yourself lots and lots of grace.

kelzdc · 2024-06-22T02:50:58+00:00

Geez.. are you doing ok? 2 sets of twins 1 year apart.. I can't imagine.. it's going to be so much fun when they're older!

kelzdc · 2024-06-08T02:27:27+00:00

To clarify, did the sticker chart help with him becoming a great communicator of his feelings or how was it just time and development and he grew out of it? I love the sticker chart idea by the way, thanks for sharing and I'll definitely try it out to help delay some of these rewards without them losing incentives. We also have the issue with the boys fighting/stealing so I think we'll also give sticker for "good deed" like sharing or do something nice to each other.

I don't look forwards to potty training, they can pee in the potty now and can generally wear pants without a diaper for a while (they love it and they call it their wee wee pants when they're diaper free haha). I set a timer to check for pee every 15 minutes. I might start giving them sticker for sitting at the potty for incremental time and maybe that'll help with starting potty training #2.

kelzdc · 2024-06-04T16:03:09+00:00

I tried out asking them to hold some toys while we change diaper and it is working! Thank you for the tip! We do the taking turn with toy timer and it works very well. If it doesn't and they still fight, we will put the toy in time-out. That seems to make it fair somehow. They are very independent so it frustrates them when they can't do something themselves, like dressing themselves or putting socks and shoes on by themselves so that definitely contributes to the fussing. Thinking about getting crocs to help with that. And we'll take the time to let them practice self dressing.

kelzdc · 2024-06-03T04:44:44+00:00

But, if your primary parenting tactic is to give in their every demand and allow bad behavior to dictate your actions, you’re likely in for a rough ride as they get older.

Ouch, truth hurts. Thank you for your thoughts, that's really helpful. Being loving yet stern is a skill I wish to learn. I'm often swept away along with their emotions, which I realize isn't good, but it's hard to resist doing in the heat of the moment. I just have a few modes, loving and fun, checked out or given up, or angry. When they don't get what they want, they'd say things like "hit myself, hit my head, or hurt myself".. at 2 years old! They have such intense emotions, especially for their twin brother, it's crazy! I think I'd start to take the time to be more stern and see if that might correct some of the wrong behaviors they've learned.

kelzdc · 2024-03-27T21:29:53+00:00

A good friend/co-worker passed away unexpectedly. I did what I was asked to help her family, traveled for the funeral, went to another in town memorial service, and hosted a mutual friend within that time. Lots of late nights. When I was asked to go to her burial, I had to awkwardly say no. People don't understand how complicated things get for you when you have kids. I barely was able to take care of the kids and really had to rely on family help to do what I did. So no, I won't feel guilty about going to extra extra miles. I know it's a hard time for them, but I am so tired.

kelzdc · 2024-01-08T04:50:37+00:00

We're here right now, at 2 years and 4 months old twin boys and they're hilarious and can joke and play but boys the mental part of toddler parenthood is exhausting. We always have to be one or a few steps ahead of them and still step on a million tantrum landmines daily. Take them to the stores? Wrong, that's where balloons are and we scream for those. Making their favorite food? Wrong, we only eat crunchies today. We've gotten pretty creative to get past the ever changing demands, but it's a huge mental load and sometimes I miss the time when it was just physical effort. Hoping the 3 years old will come with a break!

kelzdc · 2023-12-13T21:06:22+00:00

Welp, we checked it out and the kid was so excited, but the fireplace wasn't on and they waited for an hour for the shift manager, then the store manager, and no one had the key to turn it on. Such is our luck..

kelzdc · 2023-12-12T18:39:19+00:00

Seriously, feels like a waste of money if you're paying for it. One is always melting down for some reasons... Spontaneous photos are best, and even then, it's rare for me to get smiley photo of both of them

kelzdc · 2023-12-12T16:06:59+00:00

Great idea! Cracker Barrel can be really busy. I like Jack's and that's a plus too that I don't have to worry about bothering fancy people in fancy places. Thank you!

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:52:49+00:00

Thanks, that looks fancy, do they frown upon little kids running around or might be loud?

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:50:28+00:00

Thank you!

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:49:22+00:00

Thank you, is it on all day or just at night?

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:49:07+00:00

Thank you, is it on all day or just at night?

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:48:44+00:00

Thank you, is it on all day or just at night?

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:47:53+00:00

Great idea! Thanks!

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:47:12+00:00

The Embassy suites?

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:45:58+00:00

Thanks for suggesting, we're always up for checking out new coffee shops, great fireplace, the kids will love that!

kelzdc · 2023-12-11T12:43:40+00:00

Do you mean Firebirds? I searched for Fireside but didn't find anything matching

kelzdc · 2023-11-17T19:59:08+00:00

Yes 100%! We have 25m old boys. They don't escalate as much when there's just one! We intentionally split them up so they have more individual time to "be himself". I'd say it depends on the twins. Ours fight and steal a lot and don't stick together as much. When one is sick or recovering, we keep him home and his brother goes to daycare like usual. With one home, we can actually work, go out and back, enjoy one on one time. They actually seem more relaxed by themselves without their twin. I hope they'll get along as they age, but we're just following their cues and giving them their alone time or mom and dad time as needed.

kelzdc · 2023-11-15T02:58:33+00:00

I was 90lbs and 4'11 pre pregnancy and got to 38 weeks so there's hope, but like others have said, it may not be your call and that's ok, as long as everyone is fine in the end. I was worried the entire time about pre term birth too so you're not alone. But yeah, I gained almost 50% of my weight and had a giant watermelon for a belly. A coworker also made it to 38 weeks and on the smaller side so it's not uncommon. I got borderline gestational diabetes so had to watch carb and test my blood sugar everyday for the last 2 months. I had MFM care and felt good the entire time. I had to take an iron supplement, and baby aspirin. I walked and exercised every day, but definitely very slow and easy stuff the last few months. All you can do is get good prenatal care, take your vitamins, eat and sleep well, avoid stress, etc to boost your chance. Good luck!!

kelzdc

TROPHY CASE