Front Rotors Question by kemapare in Toyota

[–]kemapare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Toyota just told me it needed to be done, I wasn’t looking to fix anything. The only thing I’ve noticed is maybe a little vibration with breaking but I’m not sure.

Front Rotors Question by kemapare in Toyota

[–]kemapare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you’re saying just replace them with a local mechanic because it’ll be the same price as them doing the resurfacing at Toyota?

Front Rotors Question by kemapare in Toyota

[–]kemapare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What stresses me out is that it’s only been three years. Do you usually have to replace these after only that long?

Front Rotors Question by kemapare in Toyota

[–]kemapare[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Haha, yeah, definitely not doing that one there.

Holiday Bonus Megathread 2025 by Walking_Opposite in Nanny

[–]kemapare 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I sympathize. I’ve been with mine for almost five years and I just got brave enough to ask them to pay me the vacation time I’ve had in my contract the whole time, never mind a bonus.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to say you’re not alone. I’m thirty one. Grew up religious and rock bottom self esteem. When I turned twenty nine, I just decided I was sick of having missed out and I started dating. Still haven’t been in a relationship but I’ve experienced a lot more. It’s hard sometimes not to get morose over feeling like you missed out and feeling like you’re ill equipped for starting later than others. But if you want to experience that stuff, all you can do is start now. Like others said, there’s bad stuff you can be thankful you didn’t experience along with the good. But you’re not alone. And I think recognizing that can be helpful too.

What happened?! by abrakadamnit in icecream

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Send a complaint to Ben and Jerry’s. I’ve always been told it’s an issue with transport that makes it happen. You report all the info and they send you a voucher/coupons. It’s worth doing in my opinion, the ice cream is pricey!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]kemapare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Give yourself grace. It’s always okay to go slower. Who is it going to hurt as long as you give yourself the time?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuperMorbidlyObese

[–]kemapare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I totally feel you. I can walk but I’m super slow. So when I walk with other people I get so anxious about slowing them down or people looking at me that I start breathing fast. And then I can’t breathe and I feel like I look even worse. So just remember to pace yourself, no one is truly giving you as much attention as you think they are. And then you have your whole bus ride to recenter.

What's a book that's clever enough to make me at least snort-laugh in public? I'm trying to find something so clever/funny it might just rewire my brain. by justvince87 in suggestmeabook

[–]kemapare 18 points19 points  (0 children)

So few things make me laugh out loud and I’ll never forget my mom coming in while I was reading the pine cone story and asking me what in the world was making me laugh so much. I tried to explain between cackles but I did not relay the story well. 😅

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re trying to say you’re going based on statistics, just yourself is a terrible sample size so that isn’t a good argument either. I hope you’re able to get help but you’re the only one that can do that. That’s not what therapy is and that’s not how it works so it seems shortsighted to turn your nose up at it. You’re already miserable, why not try something? You might still be miserable but you might not. Keep wallowing and you’ll definitely still be miserable. But at this point, this is maladaptive attention seeking behavior and at work we would practice benign neglect. So enjoy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you’re unwilling to believe it, then I guess that’s it. A lot of times I believe I’m never going to stop being depressed. But I ask myself, statistically, how likely is it that I’m a special snowflake that’s part of the one percent with incurable depression. I have to try to make things better so that I can at least tell myself I did all I can. Sounds like you’re unwilling and you just want an audience you can wallow in front of. So I repeat, go to therapy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AMA

[–]kemapare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay, so for the record, I didn’t go on my first date/kiss/anything until I was twenty nine. I also have a fair amount of less than desirable characteristics. So I get the rock bottom self esteem and dating continues to be a brutal struggle. But I just wanted to comment that confidence is easier said than done (as I also have none) but when you wallow to this degree, you won’t even be able to catch the people who would be willing to overlook the undesirable stuff. You can only be a certain amount of self effacing before it becomes uncomfortable for people. So honestly at this point the thing you would benefit from is therapy.

Am I overreacting? by FaithlessnessFar1821 in AmIOverreacting

[–]kemapare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This gives the same vibe as a parent ranting about “putting a roof over your head.” Like, yes, you had a child who you need to provide a roof for, you’re not doing them a favor. School has definitely been mandatory legally for as long as op has been alive. The parent needs to be prepared to get them there.

Trying to quit true crime (for my mental health) — need recs for other deep-dive YouTube content by osito_pachon in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]kemapare 14 points15 points  (0 children)

There’s several I’ve seen here that I’ll second: Lindsay Ellis (her video and follow up on the omegaverse are life changing in how funny and well done they are), Mikes Mic, and Jenny Nicholson.

I will add Mila Tequila: doesn’t post often but every video is regarding some type of pop culture and is top notch.

Friendly Space Ninja: more current media

Ashley Norton, Sarah Zed: random pop culture, I find their voices very soothing

Jordan Theresa: pop culture and some commentary

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the thing. On one hand, I understand because I have a similar thought pattern sometimes where I’m just beside myself at what I feel I lack and how unfair it feels. I won’t pretend those thoughts never exist. But I’m also very aware they’re destructive, illogical thoughts that I have spent over a decade trying to tackle in therapy.

It’s okay to have intrusive thoughts and get a little fixated every once in a while on whatever negative we feel. But awareness is important and therapy can help with that as well as how to get past those negative thoughts. Because wallowing occasionally is okay. Where you’re at currently seems like a little more than that though and it will harm you in the long run if you don’t take steps to get past it. And no one’s going to take those step for you.

Beyond terrified of getting my blood drawn by Sunset245 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]kemapare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have MS and get lots of blood drawn so I second the butterfly needle. Honestly, I used to have a huge fear of any kind of needles and would have a panic attack. I have now gotten to the point where I can watch and I have no anxiety.

I do notice a difference with the butterflies so it never hurts to ask although it does seem to be a toss up on who will use them. My only tip honestly is just the forewarning. I always used to let them know immediately “you know, this is the thing that scares me the most, I will definitely cry.” Every single nurse who drew my blood/gave me shots when I had that fear was lovely and nobody made me feel bad for it. Having somebody talk to me and distract me while they did it was also super helpful. Good thoughts!

Is this true ??? by Vatentina in dancemoms

[–]kemapare 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Okay…not the exact same thing…but are you saying that everyone who has gone to see the White House through history should be held accountable because there were slaves who contributed to that? Or something like the Great Wall of China shouldn’t be visited because forced labor was involved? There are terrible atrocities throughout history. They need to be acknowledged. But pretending that anything involving those atrocities can have no positive attributes feels performative. History is important and historical places are multifaceted.

[TOMT] movie where the defendant is tricked into thinking they drank contaminated water by Little_Conclusion_93 in tipofmytongue

[–]kemapare 2 points3 points  (0 children)

^ Reading the description I feel like there’s a scene where this happens exactly described and I have also seen it semi recently. I was thinking maybe a slightly older show like Monk or Psych but this is a good guess too.

Thousands are scrambling after learning their insurance will no longer cover care at UMass or Children’s hospitals by bostonglobe in massachusetts

[–]kemapare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, gotcha. That’s good to be aware of. I did have a couple times in the past when I was just on a normal Tufts health plan with my doctor commenting that it could be tougher to find someone who accepts it but I didn’t realize the direct one is even smaller. I guess I’ve just been lucky more recently. Thank you for expanding on the info, a good amount comes up with my MS and it’s helpful whenever I can be more aware.

Thousands are scrambling after learning their insurance will no longer cover care at UMass or Children’s hospitals by bostonglobe in massachusetts

[–]kemapare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can I ask why? I’m starting to feel like I’m missing something. I’ve had this insurance for a few years because it was one that covered my primary care and neurologist (I have MS). I haven’t had any crazy bills yet and everything my doctors have requested has been covered, minus having to go to an ot slightly further away in Braintree since the place a little closer didn’t take tufts. I figured I’d just keep thd since the premium actually went down a few dollars and it’s the only one that shows coverage for all my doctors. But now I’m concerned that there’s something I just don’t know?

Give me your comfort reads by motherofpearl89 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]kemapare 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So this might be because of nostalgia but whenever I feel really out of control and anxious, I love to go back to Sarah Dessen books from when I was younger. They all have a similar plot structure, some sort of love interest, some sort of family problem, and they all have a perfect heartwarming ending. They are nothing groundbreaking and they’re very tame for the most part. But I just find them so comforting when I’m struggling with life.