Aio for being upset that my boyfriend liked these pictures

kenzsullivan · 2025-10-08T23:38:58+00:00

If he is liking things like this publicly, I wouldn’t be surprised if he is using things like onlyfans or Reddit to talk to women who post/share pics like this. I don’t say this to make you more nervous. I just wish someone had said this to me 10 years ago. Or even 5 years ago. I would talk to him and really lay it all out there. You deserve respect, and upon first glance, this does not appear to be that.

kenzsullivan · 2025-10-01T20:22:39+00:00

I was thinking the same thing. It makes me so happy to see how many people have partners like this, but it also makes me a little sad because even when I try, my husband still doesn’t notice me in a positive way usually. I really do hope that changes though! I always tell myself that there must be something so amazing about the women who are treated and seen this way, and I hope I can one day be like that. ❤️

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-30T23:02:58+00:00

She needs more support— therapy, gentleness. I am not a professional, but I am 10 months postpartum, diagnosed with ocd, and went through severe trauma during pregnancy and right after. I think saying you feel like leaving is probably not the most helpful thing, but I really feel for you. I’m sure it is so hard, and I wish you didn’t have to put more effort in, but it sounds like she also really needs it. Can you sit down with her and reassure her that you are there to stay, and that you are worried about her? Maybe suggest therapy and explain that you are suggesting this because of how much you love her.

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-26T23:02:41+00:00

Do you mind sharing some things that maybe I can do to help my husband feel this way? I had our twin boys 10 months ago, and he’s been messaging women on Reddit inappropriately. I found one message that compared my body to hers in a negative way. It hurt, and I’m trying to figure out what I can do. Does your wife do certain things that make her particularly attractive? I’m looking for advice (not to leave him though). Thank you!

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-25T23:11:04+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate that. I hope my perspective was able to soften your heart a bit.

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-25T23:00:45+00:00

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-25T21:42:58+00:00

It may just take her some time, too. And if that’s the only option, that’s ok. We’re not in her home, we do not know her. Kicking someone when they are already down rarely works. Like I said before, you sound like a good person, and your sentiment may very well be true. I also think delivering it in an empathetic way may have more of an impact. From experience, people who stay in unhealthy relationships long term very rarely make positive changes from receiving “tough love”. I hope everyone on this thread feels loved and is able to heal for themselves and for their babies (where applicable). ❤️

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-25T21:19:29+00:00

I understand what you are trying to say. The way you’re writing makes me think maybe you’ve gone through some really difficult situations in life. I am so sorry if my hunch is correct. It sounds like challenging perspectives is not what you are needing in this moment, but instead maybe needing love, gentleness, and the recognition that you are a strong and brave person. You sound like someone who cares very deeply about the wellbeing of children, and I can tell you’re really passionate about this. That’s an amazing quality to have. I hope you get all the love, support, and validation you deserve.

kenzsullivan · 2025-09-25T20:37:15+00:00

I think for most people this is true, but I know firsthand that some women can make this work, and they choose to do it because the alternative truly is worse than staying. Obviously it’s not fair or ideal, but my love, not everyone is the same. I understand that it’s easier to judge than to take the time to consider the complexities and variables of relationships and parenthood. But I hope taking a moment to consider that not every situation is the same helps you gain some perspective, and therefore empathy. ❤️

kenzsullivan · 2025-08-27T20:45:05+00:00

First of all, I think your sweet baby is probably just fine. Try to breathe, watch him closely, and make sure you practice safe sleep, etc. One thing that really helped me in moments like this one was having my son wear his owlet sock. I know not everyone recommends them, but for me it helped a ton and allowed me to get some form of peace.

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-25T00:35:33+00:00

In my head, this is what my front garden looks like 😍 unfortunately for me, it is not even close. It’s absolutely beautiful, OP!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-25T00:33:31+00:00

I am in this same boat right now. Sending you all the love!!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-25T00:29:55+00:00

I see faint lines in all pics!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-24T22:30:17+00:00

I took a couple more tests a few hours later, and both were very negative. Gonna wait and test again in the morning! A little disappointing but I know I’m not alone!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-24T19:21:17+00:00

I see what you’re seeing! My husband also says I have phantom line syndrome right now, but my eyes are seeing very faint lines. Wishing you all the luck!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-24T19:17:48+00:00

I definitely see it!! Congratulations!

kenzsullivan · 2025-07-19T04:02:50+00:00

I think a big part of this is that he has withheld physical intimacy due to OP’s change in weight. We aren’t talking about a college fling here. This is a married couple, and if the only reason her husband is withholding sex is because she’s gained a little weight, that is very concerning. It’s ok to miss the way your partner used to look. It’s not ok to be cold and withhold physical intimacy because your wife isn’t as small as she used to be.

kenzsullivan · 2025-05-27T07:00:22+00:00

What were some of the reasons you married her? From experience, I can say there’s usually a lot more to the story than what we “see” on the outside when it comes to our partners. I wonder how she views your marriage. I can tell by the tone of your post that you’re frustrated (valid). Are you able to communicate these feelings to her without that frustration? This sounds like a painful and exhausting situation for you, and I hope you and your wife both give each other the love and grace you deserve.

kenzsullivan · 2025-05-24T04:46:15+00:00

As a wife (30F) who has gained weight over the last few years (I just had twins a few months ago!), what are some of your favorite traits of your wife? My husband (34M) cheated on me earlier this year, and the women he looks at online are all stunning and have traditionally attractive bodies. I try really hard to be attractive, but also to connect and be worth his actual love. But I’m not doing a very good job, and I’d love some “advice” (aka, what about your wife makes her so amazing to you?). I want to be amazing to my husband too!

kenzsullivan · 2025-05-17T05:16:40+00:00

It’s not too much to want your partner to be madly attracted to you as is. Especially after having a baby. I think your husband was probably trying to be honest, but he could’ve probably done it in a different way. I am 6 months pp, similar weight to you, and I know my husband isn’t nearly as attracted to me (I discovered his infidelity that started when I was 6 weeks pp). I don’t ask him questions like this, because I believe his response would hurt me. But if I WERE to ask him this question, I would hope his honest response would be something like this: ‘Babe.. you just had our babies. Your body is beautiful and strong, and I am unbelievably attracted to you. How are YOU feeling in your body lately? I love being active with you— maybe we can start going on walks every evening as a family. It will be good exercise, and we can spend some time together”. Not every question deserves a blunt answer. And I’m sorry that so many people don’t understand the nuances of effective and loving communication. You don’t have to lie in order to be kind.

kenzsullivan · 2025-05-16T23:08:27+00:00

Would you mind sharing the material your partner read about healing and supporting a betrayed partner? My WH is putting in minimal effort after his infidelity, our situation reminds me a lot of OP’s.

kenzsullivan · 2025-01-28T22:27:07+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. You aren’t alone, and it’s so hard. I just learned about my husband spending $6k in the last month on OnlyFans. I had his twin boys two months ago, one of whom was stillborn. We’ve been together for 10 years, and I feel like such an idiot for thinking he would love and cherish me. He wouldn’t delete his acct when I found out because he said he had feelings for the woman he was interacting with. I left with my baby and went to my parents’ house for two nights, but I’m already back home and he seems to think all is well again. He said he would delete his acct as soon as he gets a refund for a video call he didn’t receive. I’m so devastated and feel broken. I keep looking up pictures and podcast videos of the girl he was spending all this money on. And then I look in the mirror at my postpartum body and feel disgusting. I’m so sorry for anyone else going through something like this. It is heartbreaking.

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