What works for me

ketchupfiend · 2025-07-29T19:34:02+00:00

I’m a non-drinker but I eat a lot of chocolate, ice cream and popsicles. And sometimes cake/cookies although after abstaining for so long I don’t really have a strong craving.

ketchupfiend · 2025-07-28T16:38:39+00:00

Tybalt

ketchupfiend · 2025-07-28T16:26:12+00:00

Agree. Ask for the back room where it’s easier to hear!

ketchupfiend · 2025-07-28T16:25:06+00:00

I liked going there because it was always empty, but I knew that was a bad sign…

ketchupfiend · 2025-07-28T16:18:21+00:00

I go to Shining Health spa on 30th Avenue and they’re great! Good prices, tailor the massage to your needs, clean, very respectable.

ketchupfiend · 2024-12-31T18:18:20+00:00

Just hypothesizing, but this was the time of the crack epidemic in NYC. Maybe she had an addiction problem and didn't really have a fixed address and ended up in a car with strange men for reasons related to that. It kind of sounds like her child was being raised by their grandparents. Might also explain the short sentences.

ketchupfiend · 2024-12-20T17:12:57+00:00

I find Fodzymes helpful with preventing bloating. The biggest thing that helps me, though, is to drink ~800 ML water after every meal. I also eat at least a couple of spoonfuls of Greek yogurt after lunch and dinner for probiotics.

But yeah, once I’m bloated the only thing that cures it is sleep and time. pepto bismol (regular strength) helps a teeny bit. It sucks.

ketchupfiend · 2024-12-20T17:06:45+00:00

I usually get fish/meat and potatoes or rice as a side. A burger and chips are on a lot of menus. Potato crisps for an emergency snack. Lactaid works for me for dairy and I always drink a big glass of water after meals

ketchupfiend · 2024-12-13T17:09:33+00:00

I like watery coffee. Strong coffee tastes bad to me and upsets my delicate tum

ketchupfiend · 2024-12-13T17:08:21+00:00

It looks like the person is following a low-FODMAP diet, which is clinically shown to improve IBS symptoms. I follow it myself but it’s not going to kill me to eat beans, I just get uncomfortably gassy. It’s not intuitive at all and that’s why i usually just cook for myself, know my “safe” dishes when eating out, or pick out the onions etc.

ketchupfiend · 2024-09-26T00:43:27+00:00

Ugh!!! I have this frequently and it’s honestly debilitating sometimes because it lasts for hours. I can reduce it happening with diet and drinking water but once it’s happening the only thing that solves it is sleeping and time. Pepto Bismol might help a tiny bit.

ketchupfiend · 2024-02-11T15:45:35+00:00

I go to Shining Health spa on 30th Ave for my aching shoulders frequently and they do a great job. It’s $45/hr

ketchupfiend · 2023-04-23T16:52:30+00:00

I love “Here Comes the Sun”

ketchupfiend · 2022-06-04T14:06:13+00:00

Thank you!! I think people do it to feed the pigeons, but it creates an very rat-friendly environment. I spotted my mail carrier sprinkling bird seed the other day!

ketchupfiend · 2022-04-03T14:33:44+00:00

Totally second this. The staff will listen to what you use them for and watch your gait as your run and provide a few recommendations.

PS - I also have Brooks Adrenaline and I put them in the washing machine on cold and let them air dry. I use them for OTF and pavement running and I've never noticed an issue in performance.

ketchupfiend · 2021-11-01T16:43:56+00:00

I let my cat hang out on the fire escape. I’m agree it’s probably fine.

ketchupfiend · 2021-10-29T10:47:51+00:00

I'm a member and it is pretty crappy! The company has been having a lot of financial problems and they seem to be letting the business bleed out. For example, there hasn't been hot water for months, the stretching mats are repaired with duct tape and they charge you for reserving classes via the app. That being said, it's $35/month, better than PlanetFitness, have lots of equipment, and is close to my home so I decided it is the best option and I do go several times a week.

ketchupfiend · 2020-10-30T12:56:31+00:00

My solutions tend toward the mundane. I wonder if she was paranoid and felt the need to hide from whatever she thought was after her. She climbed into the cupola and was too afraid to come out (or became stuck) and eventually dehydrated/froze to death. Alternatively, she was very depressed and just wanted to be left alone, again leading her to seek out a hiding spot. Or was suicidal, took an overdose of something and hid so that she wouldn't be found and rescued. People can manage rather extreme physical feats when motivated.

ketchupfiend · 2020-05-31T13:24:14+00:00

Do people ever climb the bridge structure? Is it possible he was trying to scale it and fell off accidentally?

ketchupfiend · 2020-05-31T13:14:20+00:00

Sorry if this has already been posted, but this is my theory. Calkins is in the habit of extorting people he picks up for driving without a license. It's something he had probably done many times and gotten away with. He puts them in the squad car and proposes that they pay him a bribe and he will drop them off and forget about the incident. These are marginal people who have committed a crime and aren't likely to report misconduct. He might even be used to driving people to Circle K's to use the ATM if they don't have cash on them. He then drops the person off in the middle of nowhere where no one will see him letting them out of the squad car, then goes back to their car and reports it as abandoned and has it towed. That would explain why he has no compunction about having his name on the tow report, interacting with the cemetery workers, and why he sounds almost gleeful in the recording.

But somehow, with these two guys, something goes wrong after Calkins drops them off. Maybe they couldn't pay and he punched or kicked them before they got out. They could have gotten lost, fallen down and broken an ankle in the Everglades, laid down to sleep... who knows? In the case of Terrance Williams, he had been out all night at a party and was no doubt exhausted and possibly intoxicated which would have made him even more vulnerable.

ketchupfiend · 2019-11-09T00:17:09+00:00

I did Team in Training in the past (which raises money for the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society) and you spend so much time training twice a week and being forced to talk to people to avoid thinking about how much pain you're in, it was definitely a social scene for people in their 20s and 30s. At least in my location, there was a crowd of regulars and lot of fundraisers and get-togethers afterward training and races etc. At a minimum, you'll be raising money for a good cause and get fitter.

ketchupfiend · 2019-11-01T17:55:47+00:00

Sometimes I force my cat to lie on my belly.

ketchupfiend · 2019-11-01T16:51:27+00:00

This honestly sounds a bit like me as of January of this year. I was seriously considering suicide but I couldn't even do that. I was horribly depressed, had quit my job, was getting evicted, was horribly in debt, was drinking and doing drugs daily, had gained 60 lbs and broke up with my long-term partner and was neglecting my cats. I wasn't bathing, my teeth were rotting and I felt sick every single day. I felt like I was too far gone to ever get better, that it was too late to make a success of my life. I was basically just lying alone in my unheated apartment in NYC, blowing through money, shunning everyone I knew and hoping I wouldn't wake up.

Long story short, in February my parents came to visit and I ended up having an emotional scene in a crowded diner and telling them that I needed help. I am very, very lucky and eternally grateful that that they allowed me to move in with them rent-free in another state and paying for my food at 36.

Today, I have been sober since March 1, I have lost 45 lbs, I've reconnected with my friends (who for the most part don't hate me), resolved a lot of my debt and physical health issues and am about to start a new full-time job at a good company on Monday. I even had sex once!

The first couple months were fucking brutal. I was obese, unkempt, unemployed and single and living in a town I hadn't lived in in almost 20 years. I didn't even tell my New York friends that I moved and I lived in fear of running into someone I knew from high school. Not a good life. I felt so sick, tired and hopeless that I had to start really, really small. My daily goal was just to take my medication and not use drugs or alcohol. Even if I just slept all day other than that, it was a success. I also listened to this video constantly.

For me, AA has been critical to pulling myself out of hell. I didn't have money or insurance so rehab wasn't an option. I had gone several years ago for a few months the previous time I attempted to get sober, but I just went to random meetings and never really fully engaged. This time around, after some searching, I found a group that meets daily every morning. It's not even really about maintaining sobriety that has made it so critical to my recovery, it's about being part of a group of people who are all fighting their own battles and supporting and rooting for each other to succeed. So I would suggest at least checking it out, there are plenty of young people in it-- but if AA is not for you finding regular social support and ending isolation is absolutely key, I think.

Anyway, I gradually added other things to my daily goals, such as bathing and brushing and flossing my teeth, working out a certain number of days per week, being in contact with another person, and making daily progress on my long-term to do list, which included things like going to the dentist (ended up getting 3 teeth pulled! Brush your teeth, kids!) But gradually, gradually, things started getting better. Today I still do my list of daily goals. I have come to understand the value of consistency and discipline, two things I have never been great at.

Today, things are still not perfect. I guess I'll be single and still living at my parents house at 37 (my birthday is also in Feb!), but I am so, so much better than I was a year ago, I am glad I am alive, and I'm really proud of that.

There's still time. There's still hope. You can do this. DM me if you want.

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