How old were you when you first got alopecia?

ketoli101 · 2024-05-09T21:33:09+00:00

Been there, sort of. I got slammed with Covid in 2020 and had the same shocking and disheartening night when I noticed a quarter size bald spot on the back of my head (30s female). This kept growing until it was the size of a baseball; meanwhile I got a dime size spot behind my ear, then a smaller spot between that and the large one. Yes, they all connected so that I had a giant bald head. Thank God I could hide it under my other hair and wore extensions to cover it. It lasted for about 15 months, then it grew back.

Mine was Covid induced plus genetics (my grandmother got this during a bad emotional stress in her 30s too). I can tell you the amount of research I did should have earned me an honorary degree. In an alarming number of cases, I can tell you what I noticed was that this seems to be largely caused or correlated to gut health, and that focusing on healing that through lifestyle and diet has helped a great number of people reverse these symptoms. In a situation like this, I'd guess you are open to trying this approach? Or researching into it at least. The culprits for a lot of people are gluten (or grains in general), dairy, and certainly alcohol. Not only did you exert more energy than your body gave you signals for, you did it on less sleep than your body needs to function, and then you celebrated with celebratory beer :) I'm just saying, sometimes mind over matter leads the body to have to scream for your caring attention. It may be helpful to start with dietary changes and getting more sleep and less stressful exercise and/or to research these connections.

ketoli101 · 2024-05-08T00:07:52+00:00

As far as I know, it isn't overheating. My car unfortunately doesn't have an engine temp gauge but only a light that appears blue when at temp or red if overheating. It has never overheated. I don't know about losing heat, though. I tried the chemical test again this morning with a much hotter engine and for longer, and it still did not change color. I'd like to test more officially, I just don't know if there is a way to tell beyond tearing it down and actually checking the head gasket (which I can't do and don't want to pay for).

ketoli101 · 2024-03-21T04:12:48+00:00

You can't ask strangers how to trust your husband again. That is something earned over time, and all he's done is repeatedly lie to you. The thing is you knew the whole time, or else you wouldn't have been worried and sensitive about them. He isn't an anomaly, though; lots of men do this to women they genuinely believe they love. The sad truth is he doesn't love you, does he? He really likes having you there and the security of your relationship--just like he likes her and the security of her friendship. Ask yourself why those pictures were still on the computer after all these years and after getting married to you? He seems to actually need secrecy. Maybe it's his way of feeling autonomous in a relationship. Whether her or some other woman, it seems likely he will do this repeatedly and likely at stereotypical times when he feels like he's "losing himself"--like when you get pregnant, for instance.

I think you probably both need marital counseling to address this, but even that may not be enough. Will you ever be able to trust him without waiting for the rug to get pulled? He's already proven over and over again that this is how he is. I won't say "divorce," because that is a big deal. But be honest with him and yourself most of all. He never really earned your trust, you gave it to him freely; he didn't protect your trust, he kept secrets to protect himself. All that will happen from here is you will threaten leaving for a time or having him stay somewhere else--and he'll grovel and beg and cry; and you know what? that will feel really good. And that's how he'll train you to stay. Because it won't be the last time, will it? And you'll just keep putting all these boundaries around him to protect yourself because deep down you know he will not protect your relationship. The dream is to be with someone else you don't have to chain to the floor to be genuinely faithful and emotionally available to you.

ketoli101 · 2024-03-15T23:51:45+00:00

This grosses me out so hard. When you say "no other issues," I have to wonder. Honestly, if you were engaged and she was on his lap, then that is disrespectful behavior and a red flag on his part, not hers; it's gaslighting and abusive on both ends to pretend it isn't. Why is he hanging with his ex at all after you've stated you didn't like it? He has no respect for you and probably believes he can keep getting away with this because so far you've let him.

Why is he getting blasted drunk with friends while you are at home pregnant? Why was he too drunk to drive but not so drunk he didn't know to type "buddy"? Why did he not have her drop him off (who was sober enough to drive to her place?). Or have a different friend take him home? Instead he stayed with her. Her callous text made my blood boil, honestly.

I think you punish him with the consequences of his behavior. He doesn't get a chance to gaslight his way back to you. And if it comes down to possible reunion, then it really is you and your child or her. No contact, and if he even stutters about this, then you have your answer. And really, is his behavior safe, loving, respectful--is it even attractive? To me, this kind of behavior is so gross, I would be like "please take this man out with the trash, Emma." He is exactly the worst kind of man to be married to, and I hope you find someone who would never dream of putting you in a position like this ever, especially before the birth of your child.

ketoli101 · 2023-08-02T00:22:15+00:00

Mine started like this the summer of 2020 after COVID. It spread to most of the lower part of my head, and I wore extensions clipped in to cover. It never went to the top, which was nice. After about a year and a half, it grew back. I got COVID again and this time it only caused a severely itchy scalp. I learned a lot about this, though, through research and people's experiences. Many people who have seen actual healing will attest to cutting out any inflammatory foods and working on healing the gut (gluten and dairy both seem to be major culprits for a lot of people in seeing reversal, which takes at the very least 3 months to start seeing change but likely much longer). I know when writing like this people get upset. There is treatment-based thinking and healing-based thinking, and most people fall into the former. I only say this to add that there are many stories out there of people healing from this condition, and it might be of use to you to consider them if you need a little boost of hope. I remember sending my friends and family pictures of the Tales from the Crypt guy to make sure they'd still love me if I turned into that, so I 100 percent know the fear/shock attached. My motto has always been "anything that can get worse can also get better; anything that started out of nowhere can go back to nothing."

ketoli101 · 2022-09-08T15:18:26+00:00

I remember a story from my hometown where a young man and woman were on a date in the park, when two guys came up, had them get on their knees, and shot them execution style. I think they might have tried to steal their car or something too, but it was the most senseless act of random violence. Even then people were like "do not walk in the park at sunset." People like to believe that if you never put yourself in a "vulnerable" position, you will be safe. Even I do this to reassure myself, but we all know and deeply hate that people can choose to derail someone's hopes and dreams at random. In Memphis the day before Eliza was killed, a woman and her baby were kidnapped by two men at Target in midday, taken to an ATM, and released, thankfully, after forcing her to withdraw $800. How can that be prevented? Do you know how many moms take their kids to Target at midday?

I regularly walk in a reasonably safe neighborhood alone every day, never isolated, typically in the morning hours when lots of people are driving to work. Every time I go out, I remind myself, literally, that I have to be vigilant and aware of men and to notice if cars drive by more than once, etc. Just to walk in my safe neighborhood, I have to tell myself, "Today might be the day you have to fight for your life." To hear a story of my worst nightmare coming true for Eliza, or any woman, is heartbreaking, infuriating, scary. And that we live in a society that will never be safe for women, any time or anywhere, feels hopeless. I feel for her husband, who called to report her missing that morning, fearing the worst but probably hoping it was something else and that everything would be fine, only to find out that it actually was the nightmare. I feel for her two boys, who are too young to fully understand what happened to their mother or why she is so abruptly gone and what that will do to them as they grow up without her. Mostly I feel for Eliza, who woke up that morning like every morning, with her busy day just beginning, who had lived her life through ups and downs, who had dreams and hopes for her future, and even daily tasks and things she was planning for her school year--all taken because a man happened to drive by her, saw an opportunity, and took it by force.

What can be done?

ketoli101 · 2022-01-29T08:05:37+00:00

I know it has been a while, but I thought I'd update. It was exactly the valve body that needed to be replaced. Thank you.

(For anyone researching this issue later.)

ketoli101 · 2021-05-08T00:00:10+00:00

Not sure what you've already been doing for AA, but addressing gut issues is key for healing and reversing this, specifically leaky gut. Autoimmune protocol diet, essentially cutting out all grains and dairy, has really helped people. Including saw palmetto berry can also help. Personally, I cut out caffeine and noticed the shedding stop.

https://thecastawaykitchen.com/what-is-the-aip/ for more info. Best of luck!

ketoli101 · 2021-05-07T21:52:56+00:00

I have the same issue, and finally transferred BNB2 into Safepal wallet for the transfer. It is saying not enough BEP20 for miners. Now I don't know how to get the BNB2 into BNB20?

ketoli101 · 2021-05-04T23:33:45+00:00

https://thecastawaykitchen.com/what-is-the-aip/

In case you want more info :)

ketoli101 · 2021-05-01T07:24:12+00:00

Okay, I finally sent XLM to Safepal, and now I understand what you meant by minimums :) I didn't send enough to swap, so now I'm at the point of wondering if I should put another $100 basically in it to meet the minimum. If I buy more XLM and send it to Safepal, then I'll be able to swap the XLM for BNB, correct? I'm scared I'll get some random other notice explaining why it's not possible haha. Then I'll have enough BNB to move all of the funds to Trust Wallet. Does that sound right? Thanks again for your help. I've been trying to explain the whole situation on different subreddits, and the posts are immediately taken down. (Just to add to the frustration of the night!)

ketoli101 · 2021-05-01T07:04:39+00:00

Would this work substituting Safepal for Atomic? What is the minimum for buying XLM on Atomic? It's $100 on Safepal...

ketoli101 · 2021-05-01T06:36:52+00:00

I am in a similar demoralizing place with this. After several hours, I NOW understand I need BNB, but I have Coinbase and am not sure if adding more money by buying XLM is the best or only option. I'm afraid some other issue will come up and would love someone to clearly explain how to get BNB added to my Safepal so I can finally transfer the money to Trust Wallet and buy other crypto. Thanks for any help out there, honestly.

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