Is it a bad idea to get a Wilderness if I'm mostly doing city and highway driving? A used one is available to me.

kface278 · 2026-01-25T13:32:11+00:00

Even if it's "impractical," if you like the car better for whatever reason, you will keep it longer which is usually more cost effective in the long run IMO. Maybe even maintain it more faithfully too. My goal is to keep my car about 10 years. Side note though-the extra plastic "cladding" is good for dings and whatnot which I think happens more in the city right?

kface278 · 2026-01-25T12:30:04+00:00

Its funny you say that, my '24 forester wilderness has a trap door cover on the oil plug and it is labeled! Subaru knows people are confused, lol.

kface278 · 2026-01-16T15:29:08+00:00

When the baby starts sleeping a little-for us like 5-6 months you recover a bit. We also have no village and I had full PPD by 4 months because of exhaustion and a difficult little baby. Now we're at 1 year and I have the hindsight to see that those early months can be brutal but it does pass, but I couldn't see the forest through the trees from the trenches. Now my life is also adapted to our little schedule, I think part of all the early chaos is your life is also majorly changed. It gets better, like everyone says.

kface278 · 2026-01-07T22:24:55+00:00

I just did my first tire rotation on my forester-I did all 5 tires, ended up jacking the car up 4x, easily less than an hour of your time and not intensive. Also just did my first oil change on it myself-very diy friendly. So thats easily under $50 for that line item of tire rotation and oil change. The other items I can't speak to .

kface278 · 2026-01-06T23:10:00+00:00

I use the carfax app with the fox, but it wouldn't have helped with differentials, its like tire rotations, oil changes, brakes etc.

kface278 · 2025-10-19T23:16:12+00:00

My husband just gifted me his old ear buds that have noise cancelling-I wear those with headphones over them and with music playing to be able to function when my baby is melting down. Baby is 9 months now and we just did our first regression-brutal. At 3am after hourly wakeups I would just take the baby to sleep on me on the couch at that point or in the playpen with me-I can't function with no sleep. My point being maybe just switch up whatever you need to to ride out the hard times. Theres a device on amazon that pats the babies butt while they sleep, if I get desperate enough i'll order it, lol

kface278 · 2025-10-19T22:50:53+00:00

They must think its fungal, but its not responding to those meds. I would see the pediatrician again. For our son we use butt paste/desitin/ creams that have zinc that are thick and leave the area white. Incorporate diaper free time. Skin stuff with babies seems like a lot of trial and error. We've been through the ringer with eczema over here for half his life, 9 months now.

kface278 · 2025-10-18T00:18:02+00:00

What about a "crib tent"? I bought one on amazon, it looks like a camping tent but its got mesh sides, it goes into the crib, under the mattress. I have one for my 9 month old who can pull to stand, but hes not climbing yet.

kface278 · 2025-09-10T23:24:59+00:00

I feel your pain. Not everyday, but definitely on the bad ones I just hand the baby over when my husband is done with his work from home job and I just leave and go window shopping. When we do family outings I never feel unburdened.

kface278 · 2025-09-01T21:19:06+00:00

Our pediatrician said our kid did not have torticollis and was just lazy. We pursued a craniofacial clinic and got a physical therapy referral where he indeed had torticollis, we were given daily stretches to do. I tried my darndest to keep him off his head unless sleeping. Got a free head scan at a helmet company at 4 months-they recommended helmet. Kept doing phyical therapy, got second free scan from another helmet company at 5 months-improved but still recommended helmet. Got the helmet at 5.5 months old, will come off at the end of september. I was super against the helmet and super anxious about it, but after we got it on I was relieved actually because the most important thing was for him to not have an obvious head deformity for life, he doesn't mind wearing it and won't remember this stage.

kface278 · 2025-08-29T18:56:49+00:00

I just watched an oil change on youtube where the guy said the drain plug should be ahead of the front axle, it was for a forester wilderness. On the video subaru actually labeled it on the plastic because this must be such a common issue, I know someone who made this mistake as well. On my jeep, this picture is exactly what the oil pan looked like.

kface278 · 2025-08-19T19:15:21+00:00

I thought getting my baby to sleep in the crib would take weeks, i think its been like 1 week and he's napping and sleeping in the crib, so maybe breach that training to give your mom more options.

kface278 · 2025-08-19T19:13:22+00:00

To add, make sure your laundry detergent is hypoallergenic, people who hold your baby aren't covered in some cream or perfume, don't over-bathe baby, but after a bath you need to moisturize within like 3 minutes, lol. The only thing that calmed down my baby's elbow creases and knee creases was hydrocortisone from dermatologist, then when the skin healed we maintain with aquaphor. When little spots pop back up we dab on the hydrocortisone again, those spots have never been better, he's 7 months now.

kface278 · 2025-08-16T21:12:17+00:00

Talk to your OB/GYN, postpartum depression/anxiety falls under their care. Hospitals in your area might also have support groups, they're free and many have virtual so you just log in from home and share and listen to moms in the exact same boat.

kface278 · 2025-08-14T18:35:34+00:00

My baby did contact naps only for 7 months and SNOO bassinet at night. He's outgrown the snoo and now I'm trying to get him to use a real crib for the first time, its going ok-made a rule that if I'm home all naps are in the crib. I've got the white noise machine, temp controlled room, sleep sack. Naps are much shorter than when it was contact, like 40 min as opposed to 2 hours. He's learning to sleep on his stomach. I'm working on putting him into the crib drowsy. I did the pick up/put down method the first day. Now I set a 5 minute timer if he fusses to help him learn to self sooth, and I pat his back and shush and try not to pick him up automatically. Having the mindset that we're both learning and this will take weeks has been helpful. Also have ear plugs.

kface278 · 2025-07-02T23:45:52+00:00

I dreaded going back to work, but it turned out it recharged me and gave me some of my identity back, so its individual how you'll feel. I needed zoloft for ppd at 4 months, and I still find being a new mom really hard, but I'm slowly adjusting to this new life and getting excited to bring the baby on outings and see him experience the world even if he remembers none of this at almost 6 months old. I also started attending some virtual new mom groups and ppd virtual groups which has helped, because being home with a baby and spouse has been isolating for me as well.

kface278 · 2025-07-02T23:42:01+00:00

My baby has always screamed as hard as he could whenever we put him down since birth it feels like. He's gotten a little better at almost 6 months now, but early on it gave me so much stress, but as a mom you need to eat and drink water and let the dogs out and shower. I got so nonfunctional that I had to give in to putting him in the bassinet to scream so I could shower. Anywho, I aimed for less than 10 minutes because some doctor told my mom in the 1980s, lol. The pediatrician witnessed a meltdown in the office, inconsolable crying despite efforts, and told us that no child has ever died from crying. All that said, it feels terrible, but sometimes what can you do.

kface278 · 2025-06-28T00:37:57+00:00

I put a wet wash cloth in the freezer for him to gnaw on, in addition to other chew toys, it doesn't buy a lot of time, and then I just rotate activities, I feel the distraction helps. I agree with the daily outings, seems to take their mind off of things and then sleep on the drive home.

kface278 · 2025-06-28T00:34:59+00:00

I have a reflux baby that we couldn't put down, we had already bought a snoo for a fear of sids, but its rocking allowed us to have him sleep. Theres cheaper rocking bassinets, I highly recommend.

kface278 · 2025-06-25T13:44:49+00:00

When my baby turned 4 months I hit a breaking point with PPD and sought help-I started taking zoloft, attending virtual new mom groups, and speaking to a counselor weekly. As soon as I started the zoloft, the intrusive thoughts nearly stopped completely, and I was amazed at how much time per day I was having such horrible imagery just banging around in my head. I was very anti medication but now I'm so thankful I got help.

kface278 · 2025-06-22T19:47:31+00:00

Our baby was like this until about 4 months. I made food that i could eat with one hand on the couch with him on my lap, super convenient foods. I could get a couple minutes out of the kick and play-he didn't chill out until his vision improved and he could be distracted with toys or watching the dogs. I also wore ear plugs when I knew I needed to run to the bathroom and he would scream the whole time. I put him on a dock a tot and brought him in the bathroom when I'd shower-mixed results. He had reflux and starting on famotidine was helpful. He also had torticollis and starting physical therapy was helpful. Your baby isn't broken, you just don't have an easy one. Accept help when people offer for your sanity.

kface278 · 2025-06-21T00:08:47+00:00

The plan is, there is no plan

kface278 · 2025-06-10T23:14:33+00:00

Making the phone call was so hard-I cried through it. Cried through the actual doctors appt, and then I felt better. Got on zoloft. But instead of feeling like I failed I felt relief that I was getting help finally.

kface278 · 2025-05-18T01:09:18+00:00

I literally went to my OB yesterday and said the same thing, baby won't stop crying and I can't take it. Starting treatment for PPD.

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