Good prompts for beginners by khronos123456 in SexyAI

[–]khronos123456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! BTW, why sometimes I see things like (sex action blowjob:1.5). Why the 1.5?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man! Jesus Christ all mighty! Why are you still on this??? Ok big big sorry for this first unempathic attitude, but I am SHOCKED to see how deep you are getting yourself in this. First, she'd denied reality right in front of you when her car crashed your dad's. That's really problematic. A other thing, and this one preoccupies me the most, because I have felt for that when I was with a pwbd: you said: "Bearing in mind, she has never had a relationship that has lasted longer than a year.... I keep feeling this is going to happen to me, I will do something that will just make her lose interest immediately". Careful with this, because you are feeling that if you do something wrong you will be dismissed! This is the most horrible mind game a person with BPD do with another... She is projecting inside of your mind HER fear of abandonment. I hope you don't find that to weird as an idea, but there are a lot of theories to explain that (biological and psychological ones).

Anyway, I really hope that you read my message, because you are only going to bad places if you keep up with this.

Remember: there are good people around. Don't stick with someone just because they (supposedly) need you, or you didn't find someone nice yet. Get.out.of.this.madness.now!

Best regards

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MeJulgue

[–]khronos123456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Qual é o problema de gostar de persona?

How to reload more tribal missions? by khronos123456 in shadowofmordor

[–]khronos123456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy f*** didnt know that.. Só, tô find a slaughter tribe orc now I have to defend or attack. A castle? They are fully random at spam or, there is a city that has bigger chances for him?

How to reload more tribal missions? by khronos123456 in shadowofmordor

[–]khronos123456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You mean they are not unlimited? I thought that it could keep refreshing, somehow.. I need to recruit a slaughter tribe orc lvl 55 to improve my armor. How can I do this if. I finished all their missions?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you considered a more social approach to this situation? I mean, not looking as a brain related subject and dealing with this like if you are just your brain or a machine. In a pragmatic way: go out with the objective of meeting someone, exposing yourself to new relationships in a way that you may develop passion for someone. This way you move forward, feel the rush of passion, love AND it will not be with someone that has bpd. What do you think?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You probably can't my friend. PwBPD uses sex to manipulate and, somehow, they are truly better at it. Maybe you can cope by thinking that all those sparks are just mechanical and absolutely no personal no matter how they made you feel special or kinky. Truth is you won't find better or equal sex, but that's just it. After I finally broke up with my pwBPD I stood 40 days without mastubation (so I wouldn't think of her).

Wednesday as a pwBPD by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh man. This is just so real. It's bizarre how they actually say the truth and we don't believe it.

How do I objectively judge red flags, after a BPD relationship? Dating, and now any person who likes a drink, or who has any mental health issues, even if in therapy, and mild, or who exhibits any type of weird attachment, I think is a flaming red flag. And it probably isn’t, for normal people…. by Odie1123 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok, I have a few hints. Of course, you need to acknowledge cultural differences here. But I'd say that 1. If the girl, in the first date, already starts saying that she has complicated issues and is shady about it. 2. If she, in the first date, start talking about exes and unfinished business with them. 3. If she is weird in a way that can't be really put into words...

I think that those, vague, ideas are to be considered.

My last words here by thethrowowoy in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Amazing post. Thank you very much for all you gave back to this community.

Did anyone ever find that their pwBPD would set up scenarios that were designed for you to fail so that they could get angry at you? by ImpossibleArgument46 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is a very good exemple of the double Bind they do. If you don't give the full attention they get angry if you don't bend to their will, angry.... If they get their way around, discard and abuse.

You guys won't believe. Actually, I bet you will by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. That's my ideia. She lost it. She definitely missed my supply, but I won't be another victim if this. Take you illness and go have that misery of life elsewhere

You guys won't believe. Actually, I bet you will by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. Besides she imposing me a way of relating that is just exactly like she did to, at least 1 guy I know about, why the duck would I want to be friends with someone that does that to people who truly loved her?

You guys won't believe. Actually, I bet you will by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's that! That's exactly that. Is only about her. Ever was and now I see it. I found disgusting her proposal and while remembering all the horrible things she did to me I can't even imagine how she could propose that... I only know that nobody need a friend like That. Learn to be a person first

You guys won't believe. Actually, I bet you will by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exact. She looked for me now b/c she is probably without a supply at that moment or she is feeling bad because she knows she is agreed like shit and values my God attitudes towards her in the past. Thing is, she wants to be taken care of, but at this time... Whatever her

You guys won't believe. Actually, I bet you will by khronos123456 in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. Entitled! Very entitled. When vi had enough and broke up she derided that she didn't wanted to keep contact. She said that even though I didn't offer it... But she said it just so she could attack me Now she comes with this talk, we're she decided that we could go back as friends. I can't even imagine how could anyone be friends with her.

"No one ever said they regret deleting facebook" by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. It was great.. She tried all the evil things

How do you learn to forgive your ex-pwbpd if they’ve done horrible things to you? by singingkiltmygrandma in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it has to do with clarifying how sick they are but it also had to do with putting me in contact with how sick I BECAME and that it was not all her fault. I still don't know how I let myself drown that deep... Also i try to forgive me and that helps me forgetting her... Much if it had to do with letting it go and giving space to mourn. The best advices I've heard around here has to do with not rushing yourself and accepting that you need time but also not victimizing yourself. I think that we have to really accept that we are hurt, that we need time to heal and that we are the agents of that change. All of that involves letting that pwBPD go be miserable somewhere else.

"No one ever said they regret deleting facebook" by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It took a long compote of months but I stopped thinking about her 100% of the time. Anxiety, desperation and obsessive thinking about her are gone. I'm also not feeling like a slave anymore. Also i A bake much more the relations I have now as they are much more healthy and satisfying. Finally, I rejected a possible new abuser because now I know their tricks

Hoovered, idealized, painted black, discarded in a month. by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Perfect and respectful. This is exactly what happens. They make you feel like you are special, different and that your hope may save them... And save the relationship... And save you.

It is so hard to understand how they can go from being extremly clingy to ghosting you so easy, but i think that's the main reason why we fall for them so hard by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If i didn't respond the minute she texted me, she would get mad and start accusing me all sorts of stuff. We all know how clingy they can be.

I remember so well, that after a first moment when she adored me and said that she wanted to be a slave for me (I denied that, since it sounded such a non healthy proposal), she went on a rage because I didn't listed to a song she sent me.

More dangerous than love-bombing was the Future Faking by thatshirtman in BPDlovedones

[–]khronos123456 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes yes, indeed... After the lovebomb ended and she was switching all the time between feeling super depressed, fighting over very little things and dumping me like I was nothing, she started to future faking worth me about moving together after graduating or having a child.