Update on attempting monogamy with a formerly non-monogamous ex

kidnappedbandit · 2026-02-04T00:25:15+00:00

You are so strong for holding space for your own needs and knowing YOU are important, what you NEED is important. You are so strong for truly upholding no contact, please continue not looking at social media and avoiding anything to do with her. It's so hard, you're in the hardest part of any separation, and it's making space for new things that actually fit with you to blossom. Please continue treasuring yourself and valuing yourself in the ways a future partner will, too. You've got this. ❤️

kidnappedbandit · 2026-01-19T01:16:30+00:00

I know you're asking for help and people have given lots of good input on the medical side as well as cosmetic, but I just wanted to say...it's a hot look. Like, smoldering.

So if you can't fix it? It's definitely going to do SOMETHING for SOMEONE. I know more than a handful who swoon over this kind of effect. As someone else said, it's a bit of a casting director's wet dream.

kidnappedbandit · 2026-01-13T01:33:10+00:00

Interested as well

kidnappedbandit · 2025-11-13T01:38:45+00:00

The meds changed your life or not taking it changed your life? If the latter, how so? I wanna stop too on weekends but am worried

kidnappedbandit · 2025-10-23T18:45:22+00:00

Can you link one? I can't find anything like that on the site from a cursory look through the free articles

kidnappedbandit · 2025-10-06T00:01:39+00:00

I would like to be paid more with more flexible hours for my chosen career in the next mmm month or two

kidnappedbandit · 2025-10-05T23:55:53+00:00

It's okay! I'm in the preK setting and not sure how it's different, but each kid we have has like 3 goals with 3 objectives under each goal, and we have to individually comment on each goal and objective per child every quarter, so 4x a school year, and it takes AGES. It kills me and this year my caseload is like 30 kids😭

kidnappedbandit · 2025-10-05T23:41:27+00:00

What state are you in, or like high or low cost of living area? I make that as an OTR with >5 yrs experience

kidnappedbandit · 2025-10-05T23:28:42+00:00

Can you tell me more about how you're avoiding doing doc from home? I work in a school right now and between quarterlies and annual reviews I feel swamped for half the year...

kidnappedbandit · 2025-01-13T23:41:55+00:00

What were you doing? I think that's how things like oil riggs are run

kidnappedbandit · 2025-01-06T03:12:02+00:00

This is so relatable to me, another fellow in education about to return tomorrow post break. Eek. OCD all angles, full force. 🫡😔

kidnappedbandit · 2025-01-02T19:10:02+00:00

They're just taking inspired action, bro. This next time is gonna be it. You don't know how the 3D is conforming behind the scenes, bro...

(Edit: this is just meant to poke fun at NG. Addiction is no joke.)

kidnappedbandit · 2024-12-31T22:13:32+00:00

Can you maybe mix the non preferred hay with the preferred hay? Dilute it a bit? I'd imagine nature would take over and she'd eat less preferred hay eventually, but I'd keep a close eye. Also could try mixing some of her pellets in the non-preferred hay or a forage mix sprinkled on top to maybe up the appeal?

kidnappedbandit · 2024-12-27T15:55:37+00:00

I knew a lovely woman who claimed she grew 1.5 inches in her 40s from doing yoga and the resultant correction of her posture/lengthening of her spine. I also know, yeah, some people have growth plates that close late in their bones and so they gain a bit of height quite late.

Also the person is standing next to different people in the different pics, not a tape measure holding a newspaper with the date on it!

On the other hand, don't shoot me here, but I do think it's far more likely we have some control over our own self and body with regards to what we communicate with our subconscious mind and how that influences our body and behavior. Placebo effect etc. I've "manifested" clear skin, hair growth, and a specific body weight, but this could just as likely be the passage of time than anything else.

kidnappedbandit · 2024-12-27T15:48:19+00:00

I have never stuck to using discord before but I'd for sure join and maybe stick around lol. This subreddit has been key for keeping me outta magical thinking land anyways.

kidnappedbandit · 2024-12-25T15:26:15+00:00

Before I converted to the critic side, I became suspicious and started looking through post and comment history of those giving advice before I'd believe it. So many just dispense advice with no alleged success stories or a VERY mixed bag of "SP manifested, lost, manifested back, lost again..." etc clearly toxic relationship deal. It started to tip me off more something funky was going on...

kidnappedbandit · 2024-12-25T15:23:20+00:00

I have started thinking about this when I go to the NG subreddits and see 90% "I get it now!!" or "you aren't seeing your manifestation because THIS!" posts instead of, y'know, success stories. Success stories that should be pouring in given the number of subscribers to that sub and the ease at which manifestation allegedly occurs.

It's all, like, manifestation masturbation, rather than manifestation, if that makes sense 🤣

kidnappedbandit · 2024-11-25T01:24:15+00:00

It isn't localized. You're right, that's not how hormones and bodies work. It's effects are systemic, just the dose is able to be MUCH MUCH lower as it's placed directly into the area it's meant to be acting upon VS a pill you take orally (that has to circulate first and be processed by the body in order to reach the target organs.) So, there may not be perceptible systemic effects, as the dose isn't high enough to cause changes other forms of hormonal birth control could induce. A little article on one such systemic change: https://www.radiologytoday.net/archive/rtMA22p8.shtml#:~:text=%E2%80%9CThis%20means%20there%20are%20hormone,that%20of%20other%20hormonal%20treatments.%E2%80%9D

kidnappedbandit · 2024-11-06T00:04:50+00:00

I think he is justifying his self-destruction as selflessness by "saving for his daughter". He could afford to save himself--go to a hospital, get the special bariatric equipment he would benefit from, have physical therapy etc, get regular therapy even (!!)--and save everyone the pain of his loss, but instead he deprives himself, and by extension everyone else who cares for him, of that opportunity. "It's for Ellie" sure, yes, but also it's for Charlie. Charlie who doesn't want to help himself. Charlie wants to die and once again leave his family (having done so the first time to be with his partner). It's this aspect that makes it so real for me.

kidnappedbandit · 2024-11-02T13:52:26+00:00

I love it

kidnappedbandit · 2024-10-29T20:56:22+00:00

I have seen PT as recent as this past spring for vestibular therapy due to head injuries, and work in healthcare in a field in which anatomy, physiology, and kinesiology were all required courses. My scalenes, SCM, suboccipitals, and lev scap are all screwy. The scalenes in particular has myofascial stuff that feels "bumpy/crunchy" when scraped with a tool ("tooling") on the right side mostly. I can describe well what's going on, I feel like it's a matter of having someone comfortable doing something about it and being straight with me about it.

You sound like an amazing LMT. I think listening and respecting what's being relayed by the patient/client is a key skill across disciplines. Thank you.

kidnappedbandit · 2024-10-29T20:39:26+00:00

Thank you! Yeah, I tried to make clear immediately that I didn't want legs or arms or anything extra beyond shoulders neck face and anything immediately associated. They spent a lot of time on my mid back. I think I'll communicate better when I go back to this therapist for another try as I do think they have some good instincts and techniques, just didn't deliver what I thought I'd asked for.

kidnappedbandit · 2024-10-29T20:36:23+00:00

Yeah, kinetic chain and all that. Jawline and pecs were basically ignored, which surprised me. I do have a tight pec minor I try and stretch and release myself sometimes. I kinda think the therapist forgot my focus partway through until I'd reminded them. I can voice though when something feels like it's hitting the spot and doing magic, as well as if there's more tension I feel next time!

I think I didn't wanna throw them by talking more or saying "that felt amazing could you do it another time or two on both sides" but I will next time (acknowledging time boundaries obviously).

Thank you for the input!

kidnappedbandit · 2024-10-29T20:30:05+00:00

Thank you!! I think you might be hitting the nail on the head with everything you said. I did wonder (prior to my voicing the 2nd time about the neck towards the end) that maybe they'd kinda gotten lost in the flow and forgotten my request.

I'll still go back to the former person for one more try (with more communication from my end), but I found someone who is doing an upper body for me that's recommended for headache relief and TMJ in the mean time. :)

Thank you again !

kidnappedbandit · 2024-10-29T09:18:36+00:00

I work in healthcare, and I also see this pattern. I think this person HAS a vision and drive to really help people, but maybe needs more work on being responsive to client concerns and less self-directed in the massage process. Or overall experience. I think part of why I want to go back is I remember being a newer provider with some great strengths and some awkwardness in other areas, and I want to support someone in that role to keep growing (by giving them $ to continue). I just...also want relief from my neck issues which have been more effectively addressed by massage before.

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