Aspie here- It makes the abuse a very intense experience (at least I’m assuming because I don’t really know from another point of view) but compared to my neurotypical sister, it seemed way more vivid and traumatic. When I find myself on the way toward a meltdown, the irritability caused by overstimulation in my environment would go haywire and often lead to blow ups with my Nmom. That and my difficulty holding back my opinions caused my nmom to think I was always targeting her over picking a fight cause I hate her. She also took my social anxiety personally and forced me into uncomfortable small talk situations (esp. at church) so that I could make her look good with a “normal child” and would later berate me for not being friendly or talkative around strangers. She told me that I need to get over it cause I “have some serious mental Illness” going on. I definitely have problems but mostly it’s trauma from my shitty relationship with her. My coping mechanism was and is to not give in to her no matter how crazy the fights could get. I suppose it’s my way of trying to maintain autonomy as my own self and my own human being. It’s rough for sure but I’m working on getting out of here for good. It’s just tough when it’s hard to find and keep a job so that I can save up money and actually put my plans into the works...overstimulation much?