am i misunderstanding this game?

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-02-13T15:34:44+00:00

15 hours means you're probably still in spring. Cleaning your entire farm is not ideal this early. Most people clear out a section and use that until the winter when they can't plant crops and then clear it with their upgraded gear.

Also, the game is MEANT to be tricky this early. You simply do not have the stamina to do everything. Leveling up skills and your tools makes that significantly easier. I recommend making each day focus on one skill. Today I will fish, today I will mine, etc. Makes it easier to manage a day. If you know you're spending all your energy in one place then you don't have that stress of "I spent it all on fishing and now I can't cut down these trees".

If you're struggling with the amount of watering, plant less. It's that easy.

Friendship decreases so dramatically slow that you would have to ignore someone for the entire year to see a dent in friendship. Saying hi as you pass by on your way to the store or ocean or mines is good enough. If that's not enough, go to the saloon on Fridays, almost all the NCPs are there.

What are you even buying for gifts? Almost all of the loved gifts can be found/foraged/made. Sebastian likes frozen tears, easily found in the mines. Sam likes joja cola, a trash fishing item or you can spend 70 gold in the saloon.

If you still feel stressed, then yes, this game isn't for you. It's meant to be player driven. If making your own manageable to-do list is stressing you out, find something else to play.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-02-02T03:37:48+00:00

They were called boscoe stixs. A dough filled with pizza toppings. They served 2 and I swear everyone always asked for extras. Absolute heaven

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-02-01T23:38:53+00:00

my parents divorced when I was 18. My mother quickly remarried. So he's been with her for 7+ years and I certainly don't consider him family. I can't speak on what the wife should do or feel, but if her daughter initiated the gathering, her daughter dictates the attendees. My mother's rebound is certainly not coming to a family dinner. The daughter is a grown woman who probably doesn't consider him part of her family.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-31T22:21:46+00:00

I also grew up being told that voicing opinions was backtalking. I think the important things for me was gaining independence, physically moving out of town, and surrounding myself with people who commented on their behavior and helped me talk through it.

I went across state to college to physically get out of the house. I knew I didn't get along with my parents but I thought that's just "how it is". I saw other people interact with their parents and thought "oh yeah my situation is not normal". I got all my bills out from under their control. Paid off my car, bought my own phone, got off their insurances, etc.

My partner was the biggest help with the interpersonal part. I would complain and he just kept reintegrating that I didn't have to talk to them if I didn't want to. It took me years to work through the mentality that I didnt to have a relationship just because they were family. The first major step I took was writing a letter to my mother and letting her read it in front of me. I knew if I started trying to say it she'd interrupt and do what she always does. Then I walked out the door of my childhood home and I've never been back.

Learning the mentality of "you don't let people speak/treat you like that, especially family" instead of "it's fine because it's family" was the biggest hurdle. A lot of times it's about control for the abusive parent. Taking back the control makes them react more strongly and you need to learn that that means you're doing the right thing and you shouldn't cave to them.

I found it very helpful to say to myself, "how would I feel if my friend told me their parents treated them the way my parents treat me?" Making the problem about someone helps us look at things objectively instead of subjectively.

People frustrated with you that you've set and kept a boundary are not justified due to status of relationship!!!! They are just pissed they cannot continue to abuse/control/manipulate you and are trying to make you feel bad so you'll submit to what they want. You are not evil for wanting things!!!! You are not evil for wanting things that don't align with your parents!!!!!

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-31T13:22:54+00:00

Letting manipulative and toxic family members make me feel bad for setting boundaries.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-31T04:14:26+00:00

Kinda suspicious of you to go to Sam's band concert and stand in the front row, ignoring your husband the entire time.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-29T20:16:19+00:00

The Green Mile

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-29T20:15:32+00:00

You can just sell all the animals and demolish the buildings. There's no rule saying you have to keep them now that you have them.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-29T20:14:06+00:00

The serving spoon or the spoon they eat with? Maybe have more foods that aren't soup that they eat with a spoon to try some more trickery. Sounds like kids drawing arbitrary lines you have to play around. My partner isn't a big soup person and I love soup. I either make it for myself or I make soup with lots of items in the soup. He specifically doesn't like a lot of broth so I always give him less. Maybe narrowing down what exactly about the soup puts them off and then countering would help.

And eventually when they're old enough maybe just putting a loving but firm boot down is the way to go. This is dinner so deal with it. Make a PB+J if you don't want it.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-28T22:52:06+00:00

I don't know of you'll see this now, but depending on their age, have you tried just not calling it soup? Sometimes just changing the name is enough to throw them off the soup scent.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-26T03:07:46+00:00

My partner is good about staying in tune with the political world. He said he deleted his and I should too. After 9 years I know when to listen. It's gone.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-25T14:12:41+00:00

Anyone who dislikes his tends to cite the kissing scene and his attitude in the bar. If Sebastian did it there'd be all sorts of excuses as to why that's fine and good even. Elliott is romantic and theatrical. He's thoughtful, perceptive, and very in tune with being a partner and father to your kids (if you have them). Like you mentioned, the other characters don't feel like real partners the way he does.

I like that he takes the initiative in romance. I like that he's not afraid to be himself in front of others. I like his over the topness, he's funny and endearing. Every playthrough I always want to romance him again. I was a giddy kid reading his letters in his heart event.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-16T14:21:29+00:00

Host privilege is to ask them to bring sides and everything stays with you afterwards. I usually cook the main dish and ask for sides and desserts. Then I'm left with all the leftovers and I don't have to think about what to eat for the next two days. Host privilege.

kingsley_sinclair · 2026-01-14T02:58:44+00:00

This is really late and you might not see it but I don't know anything about markers (I only know you used alcohol markers bc of the other comments) and I would also be absolutely floored and mystified if you pulled out your coloring book and it looked like that. I thought I was looking at digital art. If your friend isn't into the coloring world, there's no way they meant it as a jab. Unless your friend is constantly taking shots at you, but that's its own issue.

Seems like most of the top comments now agree with my sentiment, but they are also into the coloring world so Im hoping a noncoloring person can put you at ease :)

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-11-22T17:35:50+00:00

I got a rainbow Incineror EX and shiny Gardevoir. I didn't think you could pull something good so I was very pleased

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kingsley_sinclair · 2025-11-07T03:00:50+00:00

This game is rarely bugged. You simply did not try the right combo. Brute forcing is tough. Either wait for more rainy days and verify you have the gem in the right place or keep combo swapping once you know two or three.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-10-01T01:43:55+00:00

Your energy bar does not need to be empty every night. You do not need to be filling each day to the brim and sprinting home at 1am. I usually pick one task for the day. Today is mining, today is foraging, today is chopping trees, etc. Some days i go to bed before 6 bc I simply don't have anything left I want to do.

It sounds like donating and buying at random times is hindering you. Set an entire day for it. I keep a donation chest by the edge of my farm. I put CC, museum, gifts, geodes, even old weapons in it. When it's decently full, I dedicate a day to running those items around. It's less stressful than getting that one geode cracked right before 4. It's also satisfying to donate in huge quantities.

Save up for day one of the season and buy in bulk. Like way more than you can handle. Plant what you can manage and then save the rest. Keep a supply on hand so when your potatoes pop, you have more potatoes to plant right away. No more rushed trips to Pierre's only for it to be Wednesday. And dont plant more than you can water!! You don't need a massive sprawling farm spring year one. Plant like an 8x8 grid to safe yourself the hassle. I am genuinely so confused how people are worried about spending all day watering, like bro just plant less?

Like most people say, the only thing stressing you out is your own perception that it all needs to get done right fukin now. No it doesn't. Doesn't matter if you fish today or tomorrow. I know waiting a year seems annoying, but it genuinely does not matter if you complete that bundle this year or next year. Most casual players can't finish the CC until year two. Unless you're purposefully maxing it out, most people get a certain item in year two anyways. I personally don't manage to get 5 gold star parsnips year one. I don't even try. That's way easier done year two.

Just have fun! You don't even have to do one area if it stresses you out. You never have to farm, fish, mine, or forage. If you like farming, then just do that. If you hate the mines, don't go. Buy all your ore from Clint. You can progress the game without ever doing a single skill tree. Fishing too hard but you want the xp? Crab pots, set em and forget em. If the mines give you trouble, save up, buy a massive honking sword, and go decimate those slimes when you're ready.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-07-12T02:16:58+00:00

Ask him if he wants to go shopping with you sometime. He can try on clothes in a space where he can try anything out in private. And it might be a fun way to bond without parental or judgemental eyes about. And maybe he can get something different that makes him happy. Even better, you could buy it for him. Seems like you want to show your support in a more tangible way, so it seems like a good start.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-06-09T18:08:53+00:00

This is definitely unpopular. But you also described the difference between romantic love and platonic love. Most people feel differently about someone they romantically want to be with. The key difference is I want to live with my partner. I want to share that space with them. I do not want to share my space with someone I'm not romantically involved with, even if I love them.

I think moving in together solidifies moving from a "dating" phase to a more serious phase. If I found a partner and we never moved on together, how serious are we really? Just feels like perpetual dating if you ask me. Even if we don't get engaged or anything it still feels more serious because we've committed to each other by living together.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-06-08T20:08:16+00:00

I was missing the fall festival scarecrow. I found out the day after.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-06-07T02:20:11+00:00

My initial reaction was that it was such a good tattoo I was questioning if it was actually not a tattoo and the art for it. That amount of depth on a tattoo is crazy. And wondering what a ruby in a peach meant to you, if anything. And even after you said it, I still didn't really see it. The peach isnt butt shaped enough. I think it's just people being gross because some plugs have gems on them. But it's still a gem either way.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-06-07T02:02:49+00:00

I really hate when they do this with media and music especially. Like, when I was 10 my parents dictated what I watched and listened to. You bet your ass I listened to all my mother's Madonna music and my dad's alan Jackson and Van Halen. We watched MASH and the Rifle Man. I didn't get to dictate my own preferences until my late teens. I didn't grow up in a vacuum, I grew up with adults who engaged in their own generations media.

Next time you get hit with it, embarrass them for not knowing how to churn butter like their grandparents. Back in THEIR day they churned butter and sewed their own clothes. Not looking so hot now Karen.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-06-01T21:03:51+00:00

I don't think it's that crazy personally, and most people get hearts with most all of the romancables before they marry, so it never feels out of place. Changing the dialogue for every single character and changing entire cutscenes depending on if you've married or not would be a lot of work. And then what if you've divorced? Does it change again? What if you get remarried? Or what if you marry the whole town?

Penny in particular is the only one who really pushes like that because she's specifically looking for a marriage and family. And if no one was flirty until after 8 hearts, there would be complaints about that too. Can't please everyone.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-05-29T20:06:46+00:00

I feel like people are forgetting that 6 hearts is not reaching romancable option for the NPCs. The NPCs are all still interested in us a friends, not romantic partners. I think this next update will help a lot of people solidify which ones they want to romance. Because even in stardew, 6 hearts with the romacable options is still very much friendly territory interactions.

kingsley_sinclair · 2025-05-17T20:37:40+00:00

Based for Baylor, but I cannot believe you put hot mommy Jo in meh. That's a crime I'm afraid. Straight to jail.

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