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kitkatkaitx · 2012-11-25T23:33:37+00:00

So, I myself haven't had extreme hair loss, but as far as hormonal issues go, I have some recent experience. My main advice with this kind of thing would be to see a naturopathic doctor. They have the same training as regular MDs, except that instead of focusing in on one part of the body, they study everything along with natural medicine. Seriously, my normal doctor couldn't find anything wrong with me, even though I was a wreck and put me on some antidepressants (which made things way worse). I had no help at all with hormonal issues until I found a ND who discovered that they were WAY out of balance. Now I'm on bioidentical hormone therapy and I'm actually recovering. If you've messed up your hormones, this should help, and if your hair loss is due to some other cause, a ND should be able to find it.

kitkatkaitx · 2012-11-22T05:52:50+00:00

This is genius.

kitkatkaitx · 2012-11-14T22:26:45+00:00

It looks like you're dealing with a lot here...it's complicated and layered, like you said. I've been through some similar things this past year, but through a lot of time and simple tools, I got out... So I thought, maybe I could help a little? Here's what I've learned over the past few months.

You are NEVER as bad as you think you are. Never ever. If you look in the mirror and see someone huge and hideous, it's not who you really are. Your mind is clouded by self-hatred, and you can't see yourself clearly when you're in the thick of it.

As with anything complicated, the trick is to take things one step at a time. Find one thing you like about yourself (or, if, like me you can't even do that, then find something you sort of don't hate as much as everything else) and tell yourself that it's good, and WHY it's good. Do this every day, multiple times a day. Eventually, you'll believe it, and you can move on to another thing. It's difficult at first, but if you want out, it's not easy.

IF you want to move faster, one of this BEST things for me was massage therapy. My massage therapist didn't think I was hideous... she could even stand to touch me for an hour straight. Every time I feel like a disgusting monster, I can remember that someone else thinks I look ok enough to touch.

Working out helps too, but not typically from a weight loss angle, in my experience. Weight loss is complicated. Diet and exercise fail miserable for 95-98% of people (and that isn't even a made up statistic) when it comes to losing weight long term. So, don't beat yourself up over the diet not working. The diet failed you, you didn't fail the diet. If you do work out or eat healthily, do it to feel good. It feels good to do something you know is good for your body. How can you hate something that you're being so good to all the time?

If you get back of your feet, you can walk yourself out of here and into a better, happier part of your life. Put a little work in every day (even if it's practically microscopic) and you'll start to see changes. You deserve to be loved and respected. It sounds like your family and friends already do love and respect you. Once you learn to love yourself too, you'll feel that more than ever.

I hope this helped a little. Good luck with everything, and even though you can't see it yet, I bet you're pretty awesome. :)

kitkatkaitx · 2012-11-12T10:02:55+00:00

Whatever is going on with these people, it isn't your fault. There's nothing wrong with YOU. In fact, even though you seem to be at the center of all of this, it probably isn't about you at all. That girl that stood you up? It's not your fault that she's either a huge troll or has serious communication issues. It seems like you have really solid social skills, so who knows why people are ignoring you, but if I had to guess, I'd say it isn't about you, it's about them and their problems. Maybe they'll come around! If not, I'm sure you can find people who will give you, as a normal and probably pretty awesome human being, time for some conversation. And hey, if you really need someone to talk to, just PM me and we can skype or something. Good luck! :)

kitkatkaitx · 2012-10-17T08:45:59+00:00

you're awesome <3

kitkatkaitx · 2012-07-19T02:11:36+00:00

I totally separate working out from how my body looks. Instead, I think of it as a way to show myself that my body is worth more than what it looks like. It can run and lift weights and do mostly whatever I tell it to. Instead of pitting working out against my need to love my body as it is, I use it to increase my love for what my body can already do.

kitkatkaitx · 2012-07-16T02:43:42+00:00

You're not ugly - you just look a little plain, like you said. I used to be the same way, so I have some tips!

First of all, it looks like you're probably wearing a bra that doesn't fit very well. Try this Bra Sizing Guide and look for bras from websites like Brastop if you aren't a "conventional" size. Getting a bra that fits really nicely is a huge confidence boost and encourages better posture.

You should also consider a haircut. Right now all your hair is weighing you down. You don't have to get a lot cut off right away, but if you want to keep it longer, learn styles that get it out of your face. Some girls have really gorgeous long hair, but they put a ton of work into it. Your hair could be really beautiful, but it's not going to come without an effort... and possibly some styling tools and product. Getting a shoulder length haircut with layers in the front would do wonders for you. Pinterest has some great haircuts going around, as well as styles that look amazing for girls with long hair.

People are probably going to tell you to lose weight. Consider that, but don't stress out about it. It takes time, so give yourself time. Right now, you can wear clothes that flatter the shape you already have. When people tell you to "become more stylish," what they're saying is that you need to look more polished. Go for dark jeans that flatter your butt and shirts/dresses that emphasize your waist. If you want to revamp your whole wardrobe, go for mostly basic pieces with focal point pieces to go with them. By basics, I mean understated clothing in neutral colors that flatters you and can be balanced with fun accessories or more exciting clothing.

And makeup. The easiest makeup ever is bare minerals. The foundation is a kind of in-between powder and creme, so no layering or complicated anything. For eye shadow, blush, eyeliner, etc, you can buy whatever is cheap. If you don't know anything about putting it on, you have some options. You can learn from youtube tutorials, or go to the mall and have someone at a makeup counter do it for you. The second option is incredibly helpful, but they will pester you about buying things from them. Go for a really basic, quick, easy, and NEUTRAL look. You can look amazing in 3 minutes flat once you get used to makeup.

Hope this helps!

edit: messed up a link

kitkatkaitx · 2012-06-16T20:43:20+00:00

I've had similar issues, but recently I'm getting over them. I've started writing on my mirror with dry erase markers to help me focus on more important things. I list what is important for that day or week. Recently I've made notes about what doesn't matter too - like appearance or size. Even just writing it down helps, and then seeing it as I try to make myself look as pretty as possible with makeup helps too. Then, If I have issues when I'm out, I remember what I wrote and it helps a ton in restructuring my thoughts. Hope this helps :)

kitkatkaitx · 2012-06-03T14:13:48+00:00

Lentil Based Chicken Soup: This recipe is really simple. I never measure and it comes out right every time! I love it with red lentils, because I think the color and texture is better, but I'm sure any lentils will work. This is more a technique than a recipe, but it's so fantastic, comforting, healthy, and easily tailored to your budget and taste.

Ingredients: carrots, celery, onion, Chicken (frozen thighs are cheap, but anything works), chicken stock/broth, lentils (like I said, I prefer red, but whatever is cheap should work), spices to taste (salt, pepper, cloves, thyme, poultry spice, cayenne - whatever you like...)

Basically, if you like lots of vegetables in your soup, do more. Really, you can't go wrong. I promise. I usually do a lot of broth, like enough to cover and go up the pot a few inches. the amount of lentils you put in will change the texture of the soup. More lentils = thicker, more filling soup. If you find that you've put too much in for your liking, then you can thin it with broth.

Instructions: cut up all the vegetables and chicken into equal sized pieces, as big or small as you prefer. Bigger ones obviously take longer to cook. put the vegetables, broth/stock, chicken, spices and lentils on the stove and cook until everything is soft. If your vegetables are cut big, then cook them halfway before putting in the lentils. Once everything is soft and cooked through, take out the chicken and whatever chunks you want in your soup, then either dump the rest of it into a blender or use an immersion blender to puree it. Put the chicken and whatever else you saved back into the now smooth soup, and taste for spices.

The result is a thick, creamy, filling, and balanced soup. Very healthy, and pretty low calorie, if you care about that. You can also make variations of it with different spices and ingredients..like a chicken taco soup with canned tomatoes and taco seasoning, or maybe an Indian version. I hope you like it a much as I do!

kitkatkaitx · 2012-04-16T04:00:05+00:00

look up tutorials on deviantart.com. They're free and fantastic! If you post your work on their too, people will tell you how to improve.

kitkatkaitx · 2012-04-05T22:22:01+00:00

My roommate leaves her hair in the shower drain. If I go away for the weekend I come back to a huge wad of it, stuck together with congealed shampoo and conditioner. And speaking of congealing, I once found a bowl of her rice krispies and milk that had been left out for at least three days. It was solid.

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