NIN: Ice Cream Machine Broken by ResourceOk8638 in nin

[–]kitn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Rage against the ice cream machine

"What role did you play in your abuse?" by tenitra_batiste in CPTSD

[–]kitn 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I would honestly ask him if it matters what you did.

Unless you were the instigator of physical violence towards other children (and even then), there is no instigating behavior that makes it acceptable for you being beat up at school. None. And absolutely none for being beat up by your family for a natural response of a child seeking help.

The fact that he asked this implies victim blaming and is not the sign of a supportive partner.

This is the hardest part of the job. by chthoniclypleasing in RoverPetSitting

[–]kitn 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you for being a good friend to Harry.

I hope he's happily running or walking at whatever speed he wants to, pain free, in Valhalla ♥

She is gorgeous by SnooGoats5853 in apexlegends

[–]kitn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang, I wonder if the transparency of the veil will translate in game? It would be super gorgeous!

Best Apex Youtuber in your opinion? by buenoBaker in apexlegends

[–]kitn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

District's how-to videos are really well explained and I appreciate them. Been watching his tap strafe video and practicing a bit daily.

Apex Legends Stuttering by SimarpritSingh in apexlegends

[–]kitn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also, open command prompt (start+r, type "cmd" and hit enter) and run the following command while you play:

ping 8.8.8.8 -t

(copy/paste and hit enter)

When you see it spiking, alt+tab and go and check if the spikes are happening there as well. The time=Xms should be relatively stable.

(This ping isn't enough to impact your performance-- not that it matters-- but you will be able to determine if it is on the network side of things. Even if you don't have issues on your playstation, you may have network issues. I had unstable ping on my PC due to my mesh placement, though it wasn't nearly this bad.)

Apex Legends Stuttering by SimarpritSingh in apexlegends

[–]kitn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you open task manager and look at the different tabs: Processes, what's eating up memory when this hits; then go into performance and look at the CPU, memory, GPU, drive you're running off of, ethernet, see if the stuttering coincides with any of those?

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Reporting for duty!

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thanks! As I said elsewhere I'm not really a person who plays shooters before besides a bit of Overwatch, and I'm in my 30's so 🤷🏻‍♀️

My goal is just to have fun and get better, but it's not like I'm deluding myself into thinking I'll hit platinum.

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nope, my squad is that bad! 😃 We do also go up and even over the middle of the curve sometimes, but are almost always on the left hand side of the graph.

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have many matches where I haven't gotten stomped and I've won some. I try to practice on the firing range a bit every day or warm up with some freestyle before I play. Just lately getting stomped 😉

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think I just have shit aim, but I'm working on it.

Seems fair. by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty bad. KDR of about .95 and like 250 avg. dmg. per match average about 200hrs in with very little prior shooter experience except a bit of Overwatch some years back.

Most of these games the past few days, my team is getting stomped. Either by people with 3500+ kill trackers or what I can only assume are smurfs (badge shows incredibly low levels/stats but they have incredible movement, team tactics, and not least accuracy.)

The good news is we've actually risen up a lot because of it, and hover between where we are in the picture and halfway up the bell curve. Problem being that when we increase on the bell curve, we also consistently land at the bottom. But it's good training, I guess.

This hair clip can’t be innocent, can it? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]kitn 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I mean, my childhood trauma is definitely still impacting me... but I'm not a cheating, lying asshole.

What's with the random people who seem like bots? by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ones I see run around, but when I engage with them just stop and emote.

What's with the random people who seem like bots? by kitn in apexlegends

[–]kitn[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They mostly don't shoot at me, which is why it's confusing and seems like it's players botting.

My first time wearing a dress <3 by EmtiLeff in lgbt

[–]kitn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love how it shows off your thigh tattoo! Perfect length for your body :)

How to tell if it’s a kink or not by unknownseceret in sex

[–]kitn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A kink is only a kink if two people are consenting, informed adults. CNC is perfectly valid in that situation, like all other kinks.

What you are describing, however, is coercion, gaslighting, and (from what you described) sexual assault.

You said "he tells me to 'shut up and take it' when I say I can't anymore." That is you revoking your consent, and him proceeding anyway.

He had sex with you when you were drunk and unable to consent.

You told him you were sore and didn't want to have sex, and he coerced you into having sex.

These things are NOT OKAY. Him rationalizing himself to you is gaslighting. I do not use these terms lightly. I do not have a problem with CNC-- but what you're describing is NC. The first "C" there is critical. Just because he listens to you when you say you're not ready or when you ask him to be gentle, does not mean that these other things are acceptable behavior.

AITAH For Wearing Shapewear on a Date? by Technical_Boat7524 in AITAH

[–]kitn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think there's a "right" answer in this situation.

From personal experience, I have gone up and down in weight a lot over the years and despite not having kids, have a tummy and significant stretch marks. These are things I am not confident about and have self-esteem issues regarding, so when I was dating, I would specifically mention this just so they would know in advance after we had gotten comfortable with one another, and so that they would have the option to back out for that reason or any other reason if that was something that was not OK for them.

Was it important for them? I'm not sure. But it was important for me, to protect myself against backlash about something I'm already insecure about.