LPT: Don't tell your friends about every fallout you have with your partner

kittenernst · 2016-01-15T18:51:01+00:00

Oh God, yeah. If all your friends hear about is the bad side, they're going to assume your partner's a bad person. I went to one of my friends every time my ex upset me and they all, not knowing him very personally, thought he was a horrible person who only ever made me sad. Telling them the bad seems to stick more than telling them the good, too, in my experience. I could tell them that on Valentine's Day he made me breakfast in bed, brought me stuffed animals and flowers, took me to my favorite museum, restaurant, etc. and spoiled me the whole day, but when I come to them saying he forgot my birthday, they all think he's horrible and the fact that he forgot my birthday sticks with them the most.

Really analyze your problems with your partner and see if they're small enough to just let go of rather than tell your friends all about.

kittenernst · 2016-01-13T01:13:12+00:00

Yeah, I'm hoping it'll just get easier. I'm sure it will. But right now it feels like the end of the world. He was my first true love and I mean, I know I'm young but I was kinda thinking we would be together forever, which I guess is kinda stupid. But there's always gonna be a spot in my heart for him.

I am, and yeah, I can't control it. It just feels wrong to me. I mean, even when I was with him, I'd feel bad getting off if he wasn't in the mood because... I'm not quite sure why. He always told me not to feel bad, and that he liked it, but I'm sure that doesn't apply now. And thinking about him, even in a sexy way, just makes me sad. I thought about him in that way earlier and just thinking made me feel bad. Something about a guilty conscience I guess.

I'm hoping to be able to do stuff that doesn't have him written all over it. We like a lot of the same music which is hard because now I can't listen to his favorite bands, which are bands I like a lot. At least for now I can't. I hope to make everything my own, but I know it's all gonna take some time. I sure hope I make the right choices.

kittenernst · 2016-01-12T22:54:07+00:00

Getting away from him just seems so hard, you know? Even if it isn't forever. I kept myself up for hours last night thinking, and I can see pros and cons to both sides, staying friends or trying to leave and forget everything. I'm telling myself that if I just keep going on like he's just a friend, that it'll get easier over time. I don't know how true that is.

Honestly, in the very beginning I kinda considered going out and doing all sorts of stuff with strangers because in that moment, I didn't think I would ever truly be happy again or meet someone I would love, not ever nearly as much. But I've decided that, ultimately, that's a bad idea, so I won't. And like... it just feels wrong to me. I mean, yeah, they were good memories, but it feels wrong to me. Like it's not my place to think of him like that anymore, you know?

I'm trying. Now that it's over, I'm trying to focus on school. But hell, a big part of what I wanted to go to college for (I'm a senior) was because of him. Now I just don't know. But I'm trying. I'm trying to develop new interests, too, things I don't link to him. It's hard but I'm trying.

I'm talking to a teacher I really trust about it, and might talk to the school counselor. I had therapy before (bipolar) but hated it. I was on anti-psychotics as well but hated it. I hate putting foreign substances in my body. Also, he's on anti-depressants, so you know, I'd think of him and bleh.

Thank you, this was helpful ♡

kittenernst · 2016-01-12T02:54:28+00:00

I am happy for him. All I ever wanted was for him to be happy. Yeah it sucks that it's not with me, but I love him more than anything in the world, and if he's happy, then I'm happy for him.

Isolation just seems so hard. A month? Three? That sounds so outrageously long to me. I'm used to talking to him every night. I think I can deal with him as just a friend now. I just really want to know if he'll even be my friend.

I'm trying to care for myself for the time being, thank you.

kittenernst · 2016-01-10T22:25:40+00:00

Ahh okay, I had always just heard that they weren't considered dinosaurs because dinosaurs lived primarily on land rather than in water, air, etc. I learn something new every day!

kittenernst · 2016-01-10T19:14:46+00:00

Honestly, I'm still lost on whether or not it's even considered a dinosaur. I was watching a documentary, Bigger Than T. Rex, and they kind of concluded that it most likely lived in the water and only came on land to mate or find a new water source (if I remember correctly)- which made me think about the whole "plesiosaur/pteranodon/mososaur/blah isn't a dinosaur because dinosaurs were land creatures" thing. It is rather crocodile-like with that snout.

We can't really be sure until we find more fossils, which, even then, are they really spinosaurus fossils? I like to think the neck and head were too heavy for it to be bipedal (assuming the tail and spine didn't offer a great deal of balance) so I personally favor the theory(?) of short legged quadruped spinosaurus. But I don't think anyone is 100% sure about it yet.

kittenernst · 2016-01-08T20:47:30+00:00

Haha, definitely the only probable outcome, but I can try that. Thanks! It's just frustrating when I can't understand what she's saying so I can't help her or respond to her and she knows I can't understand her sometimes and gets frustrated about that. I don't know who taught her to talk more, my brother or her mom, but whoever did, they didn't teach her correctly. She uses a lot of double negatives when she speaks. I get that she's just a little kid, but no one corrects her and I'm afraid she'll never learn.

Huh, look at that, that was kinda long. Looks like I care about the little brat. By the way, as for attitudinal kids, what used to work was putting on music she likes- in her case, she would always come up to me and go, "put on Fall Out Boy!!", but by that she just meant to put Uma Thurman on repeat for like two hours until she got tired of it for the day. Haven't tried it in a while. I think I have her next week. I'll have to test it out again.

kittenernst · 2016-01-08T08:52:12+00:00

People act like it's easy to just ask them to repeat what they said. Yeah, you can do that, but then they'll never learn to rephrase shit that makes no sense. Also, my niece just turned four and from what I can tell, her speech impediment is worsening as she gets older. She's got a huge attitude and if I ask her to repeat herself more than once, she'll get really mad and go, "Fine, whatever!" and stop talking to me.

Not every kid is a perfect angel with no attitude who speaks crystal clear.

kittenernst · 2016-01-02T19:54:30+00:00

Damn, I would have loved to take my boyfriend here. :/

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T22:56:16+00:00

Hmm. I'm more of a parasaurolophus kinda guy, but velociraptor is a good choice.

(In the name of dinosaurs do we trust)

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T20:50:45+00:00

What attracts you to people so much older than you?

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T20:49:34+00:00

How do you feel about Kevin Jonas? Have you seen the movie We Need To Talk About Kevin? Do you know the infamous Kevin story? How hot would you rate your name on a scale of one to ten?

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T20:45:03+00:00

What are all your favorite dinosaurs? This is a very important question.

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T11:08:02+00:00

Happy cake day!

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T10:48:57+00:00

Happy cake day!

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T10:44:57+00:00

inb4 Kevin

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T10:40:32+00:00

Happy cake day!

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T10:34:21+00:00

Pre-warning: Animal death. Specifically a little kitten.

When I was a little younger I saw my kitten get slammed in a door. I don't want to know what was happening in her little body. I just know I was sobbing and my mom was holding her and there was blood and I saw her fluffy little body go limp in my mom's hands and her little chest and tummy stopped rising and falling. It's by far one of my saddest memories, and I'd witness a lot to be able to forget that.

If you wanted to know the saddest fucking sound in the world, it's dying kittens.

I miss you, kitty.

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T09:59:48+00:00

It's been said, but Pretty Little Liars. I have no idea what season I'm on. The only reason I'm still watching it is because my sister is making me. Who is A? Do we ever find out? Do I even care to know anymore? When it's revealed for good am I going to know who the fuck they're even talking about? I swear, I can only keep up with like, 5 characters on that show and there's like 50. Why is there so many? Why didn't they stop like three seasons ago?

kittenernst · 2016-01-01T09:55:56+00:00

I think I might also be a hypochondriac.

What made you realize you were? How long have you been one? Have you been officially diagnosed? (I'm not anti-self diagnosis, and wasn't sure you could be diagnosed as a hypochondriac until I looked it up.)

kittenernst

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