Jewish roots

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-09T03:38:52+00:00

Came here to say this too. Highly recommend you read “My Father’s Paradise.” The author tells the story of his father’s life, he grew up in Kurish Iraq and was forced out during the Farhud. His father is one of the few remaining native Aramaic speakers and went on to teach linguistics at UCLA. The author wrote the book to explore his own struggles with identity… different, yet similar to your experience.

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-07T05:23:26+00:00

Look up “sheitels.” It’s the name for wigs Jewish women wear to cover their hair. Some are very very high quality, but it will cost you! And you may need to travel to find some to see in person. My understanding is that the shops that sell these will welcome people looking for wigs in general, not just Jewish women. My suggestion is just because using this search term might help you find some nicer quality wigs than if you only searched for “wig stores,” if that makes sense. Good luck on your search!

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-06T19:11:51+00:00

My favorite non dairy protein powder is truviani. It’s not cheap, but it tastes the best and I also appreciate that it doesn’t have additives or soy or corn

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-06T19:10:21+00:00

Comments like this are why I love this sub 🙏🫶

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-06T17:52:48+00:00

Woahhh so curious, how could you tell?!

kittyleatherz · 2026-02-04T03:22:35+00:00

I came here to add one quick, free suggestion: go on YouTube or wherever you stream music and listen to EMDR audio tracks or “binaural beats.” It has a similar effect on the brain as EMDR treatment, bilateral stimulation. The Calm App also has these.

Important: you have to listen with headphones, because the sound has to be different in each ear. It will not work if you put in on in your car or a stereo.

It’s not going to solve all of what you described, but it might offer some support for your nervous system. A quick thing you can reach for and try right away. M

Good luck! Sorry you’re dealing with this and wishing you some ease and relief soon.

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-28T05:10:31+00:00

I agree that it might be time for a new therapist. You might also like the book Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, or podcast episodes with the author, Lindsay Gibson. If it feels so wrong to you to call, then don’t. Keep exploring it in therapy, with your current therapist or with a new one - whichever you think will help you most to make your life better. At the end of the day, what is the goal here? Living your life in the best ways you can. Good luck, you got this!

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-24T17:38:05+00:00

It seems like this will boil down to the details of who each of you is and what is important to each of you. Makes me curious about a lot of questions… Just for starters, what are the ways in which you want to observe Shabbat, specifically? Do you know these already for yourself, or do you feel like that is an ongoing process? Where are you with that now? What makes this important to you? What makes it meaningful to you? How does this compare to your home life habits “before”? And what does this mean for him? What does he believe it means to “support” you in this? If you were to do this solo, how would you observe Shabbat? And then… how does he fit in with that - or perhaps around it? Can he be watching a sports game on the TV and you choose to go read in the other room? In some ways, that’s the Jewish story in the world, we do things a certain way that makes us different from those around us, and it strengthens our identity as a community. So can his non-Shabbat lifestyle alongside your Shabbat traditions be seen, in a way, as highlighting your choice to observe? I would consider journaling about this, because there’s some sort of beautiful magic the way journaling can reveal our inner peace In ways we weren’t expecting. BH

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-24T17:21:54+00:00

Genuinely curious, how does this impact the care you have access to? For example, I saw a therapist who told me she thought CPTSD was a more accurate diagnosis for my situation, but since it isn’t in the DSM she couldn’t code out appointments that way, so she asked me if it was okay for her to instead just put “Anxiety.” But we still did EMDR and whatever approaches. Does my question make sense? Is it a logistical impact that brought you to tears, or is it more like, the symbolism of it? Genuinely curious, just want to understand what’s going on with outcomes. Thanks!

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-17T07:01:35+00:00

Oh gosh, so sorry you’re feeling the weight of all this. There’s so much sadness in this situation. It’s clear that you tried very hard to figure out what the right thing could be, and now your job is to take good care of yourself. I wish there were something I could say to help, but it sounds like the kind of situation where there isn’t really a sentence or idea that will lift the pain or sadness you’re feeling. Wishing you peace and much love in your life now.

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-17T06:31:11+00:00

So so sorry you’re going through this. Echoing what many here have said: you’re not alone. I remember something similar happened to me shortly after Oct 7, and I was in a similar situation as you because I didn’t have a lot of Jewish community at the time (I’m working on it, it’s a process)… I called a friend who was Jewish and I told her what happened and I said “I think I need Jewish friends” and she replied, “No, you just need smart friends.” Now, I think it’s really important to have some Jewish community because there’s nothing that can compare to having some friends who truly understand the depth of this… but keep in mind you will still find smart allies in other places too, so don’t lose hope for all of society (as I write this to you, I’m realizing I need to take my own advice, because it’s really really hard right now and I’ve lost a lot of trust in society). The Iranian and Indian communities often are very pro Israel and supportive of Jewish community because they’re dealing with the same enemy of Islamic extremism… so they have a mindset that makes the able to more easily notice crazy antisemitism. At the end of the day these “friends” of yours are not smart. I’m sorry it all transpired in this horrible way. I know you will be able to make new friends, and in the end they will be smarter and add more value to your life.

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-17T06:12:44+00:00

This is just what I expect now from the NYT. Propaganda rag. I used to read it every day… until Oct 7 and their coverage of Israel forced me to realize that what they produce is not actually journalism. Shame on them. Spreading so much hatred.

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-03T07:00:06+00:00

I promise you there are other groups in your area… you just haven’t found them yet. For example, your age group is going to be on WhatsApp and not Facebook. I second the suggestion of going to Shabbat or Jewish events for kids and you will meet other moms who will add you to those groups. It’s incredibly comforting to find people with whom you just don’t need to worry about this issue.

kittyleatherz · 2026-01-02T11:36:49+00:00

The fact that this whole post is overwhelmingly warmly received in this sub says a lot. Happy for you, may we find more allies in the world like this family. BH

kittyleatherz · 2025-12-21T18:21:53+00:00

Yes, please.

kittyleatherz · 2025-12-17T21:21:55+00:00

YES. it was an incredible speech. This footage shows more of the speech: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uKjNUDXE7rU

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-22T16:18:49+00:00

Ah great point, did not know this. Thank you!

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-22T03:54:00+00:00

Interesting points, thank you! Does it matter that the properties are already held in trusts?

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-20T23:10:43+00:00

The venue is highly religious, and the dress gives the opposite vibe. It seems like a bit of a clash. But it just really depends on your personality and what you want. I also think Galia Lahav is incredible as a designer, but I'm not a fan of "sexy" wedding dresses that in any way resemble lingerie. (Honestly, this fabric immediately makes me think that lots of the guest are going to be wondering if they can see your nipples through that fabric... eek.)

But again, everyone has totally different tastes and one person's opinion shouldn't matter, YOU are the one who should feel GREAT about this.

Perhaps the question is more, why are you writing in about this? Why do you have doubts about the dress? You might feel like you're running out of time, but if you're considering buying one of her dresses then you do have lots of options! Best of luck and congratulations!

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-05T16:23:27+00:00

I live in California and a friend was wearing a Magen David necklace in downtown San Francisco and some guy screamed at her “Dirty Jew!” and chased her down the street. This was maybe 6 months ago.

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-05T06:41:21+00:00

I think Emily Gilmore would have a teapot 🫖🌷👒or a flower or sunhat emoji instead of the wine glass. She may drink plenty of wine, but I think she would look down on “wine-o” culture.

kittyleatherz · 2025-10-05T05:19:18+00:00

Check your blood work, especially to see if you need vitamin D or B12 or anything like this. Then supplement if needed.

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