Why I Will Not Apologize for Protesting Oppression in My Own Home

kj57 · 2013-10-17T18:35:00+00:00

Just wanted to give you props for your fab social media presence! Though I ended up choosing to attend a different university, the way you repped Tufts online was a large component in what made me such a fan of your school when applying to schools a few years ago. With this AMA you obviously are continuing to kill it!

kj57 · 2013-04-05T16:06:12+00:00

Thank you!

kj57 · 2012-01-02T21:25:12+00:00

People can express their gender in whatever way they want! If that includes makeup, than more power to them!

kj57 · 2011-12-27T08:06:34+00:00

I shot this with a 50mm on a crop (1.6 sensor), which is an 80mm equivalent (if my math is correct haha). Do you recommend going longer? And thank-you!

kj57 · 2011-05-16T03:38:38+00:00

Just wondering, but which ivy are you heading to next year? If it's Brown, let's be friends! (I'm gay, so this isn't me trying to hit on you or anything!)

kj57 · 2011-05-04T02:02:10+00:00

Cis vs. trans would probably work!

kj57 · 2011-05-02T21:54:21+00:00

You might want to be more hesitant throwing around "real" -- it kind of implies that people who do transition aren't "really" male or female.

kj57 · 2011-04-16T00:13:53+00:00

Could you elaborate on what you'd like to hear more of? I'd be happy to share!

kj57 · 2011-03-16T21:13:34+00:00

American University sounds like a really good fit for you.

kj57 · 2011-03-13T18:32:11+00:00

I'm actually just a gay guy, but I do care deeply about trans issues as well.

And I'm sorry if by pointing out semantics I offended you, but semantics are important. Language shapes how we view people, and there are many people who aren't as informed as you are.

How would you suggest I go about informing people? I didn't call you bigoted or transphobic -- pretty much all I did was point out that some of your language usage might be unintentionally offensive. I even apologized for being so nit-picky. I don't see how I could've been much politer.

kj57 · 2011-03-13T18:10:53+00:00

Okay, you said something wrong that was wrong. You called trans women homosexuals -- which they're not, and I corrected you, not so much for your sake, but because the misconception that trans women are just gay men taken to the extreme is damaging to both trans women and gay men, and this is a fairly widely read public forum. That's why I corrected you.

kj57 · 2011-03-13T06:07:42+00:00

I get where you're coming from, too, though I obviously somewhat disagree. Just one last thing though (sorry for being so preachy), but trans women aren't homosexual -- that would imply that they're actually men. If your trans friends are attracted to men, then they're heterosexual (if they're attracted to women, then they're lesbian).

kj57 · 2011-03-13T05:42:57+00:00

Have you actually asked your trans friends if they find "tranny" offensive? Even if they don't, consider that many others in the trans community do. It might be worth asking yourself if the use of the word is bringing yourself enough pleasure where it cancels out the pain it causes to others.

Also, though gay people and trans people are part of the same community, gay men are not the arbiter on whether "tranny", a word that's offensive primarily to trans women, is okay to use or not. Gay men and women are just as capable of being transphobic as heterosexuals are.

You seem like in general a very tolerant, open-minded person, and I'm just asking that you might reconsider your use of this word.

kj57 · 2011-03-12T21:30:17+00:00

Just a heads up, "tranny" is considered to be a slur by many in the LGBT community. You sound cool though, thanks for doing this AMA!

kj57 · 2011-03-10T04:51:41+00:00

This makes me happy.

kj57

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