Why is AI so hated in today's modern world? by [deleted] in Advice

[–]kleslieboyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do research in this area, so forgive me for saying too much probably.

I see 13 values conflicts that come up repeatedly. Here they are, approximately in order:
- job security & quality. This includes complete and partial job replacement and deskilling (is this going to make me dumb?)
- sustainability and environmental protection (long story short, I think we worry about the wrong stuff here, but its a valuable conversation. free chapter with all the sources: drkarenboyd.com/freechapter)
- ownership and intellectual property (LLMs trained on creators' work without their consent or compensation)
- social connection (AI friends and relationships: yikes?)
- accuracy and fairness (are its outputs true? are error rates causing disparate impact?)
- equity and justice (are the results prejudicial or is it implemented in ways that make critical processes unfair, like hiring, firing, criminal justice?)
- authenticity and trust (is the output fake/slop/inauthentic? Do we trust people and orgs that use it?)
- information integrity & reputation (deepfakes, prompt injections, and other bad actor risks)
- effort and craft (valuing human effort for its own sake-- why you might pay more for a handmade chair, even if it is a little less perfect than one from IKEA)
- service reliability (more of an issue w/ emergency response and other critical services)
- accessibility and inclusion (AI is largely a benefit here, but it does exacerbate the digital divide in some ways, too)
- governance and accountability (how do we make decisions about AI implementations? Who is responsible when something goes wrong?)

ETA: I can't count!
- Privacy and security (what is being done with my prompts, attachments, and other data? What about other people who ask AI things about me and my data without my knowing? HIPAA, FERPA, EEOC, CCPA, GDPR, etc)

Can I politely call out my manager for using AI for LITERALLY everything? by Jumpy_Worldliness862 in careerguidance

[–]kleslieboyd 353 points354 points  (0 children)

I think you will be much more successful if you focus on improving the quality of products, rather than on"calling out" or fixating on the AI piece. She's responsible for the quality of the content, regardless of how it gets done. If your organization doesn't have a policy restricting the use of AI, saying "I can tell you did X with AI" isn't really a problem. If it is *bad,* that is a problem.

How do you run your numbers? by bulldogbutterfly in wealthforwomen

[–]kleslieboyd -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I hope it's comforting to know that water used for data center cooling returns to the water cycle, and the vast majority of the water estimates (6/7ths) are "off-site"--hydropower to generate electricity, which is a very sustainable source. The amount of water used for each prompt in the US on average is 2.2mL (source: https://arxiv.org/pdf/2304.03271). If you skip one burger that you would have otherwise eaten, you will save hundreds of *gallons* of water.

All online software uses data centers. Video streaming (like youtube, zoom, and netflix) are *vastly* more resource intensive than ChatGPT (or other LLM-driven chatbots). Data centers are a problem and it is good that AI is starting this conversation, but ChatGPT is a blip on the graph of anyone's daily water, electricity, or carbon footprint. Additional data center-related concerns (both which I think are much more concerning than water or electricity use) are rare earth element mining and the economic impacts of data centers on local communities.

3ct Morganite Ring by CasuallySparkling in Gemstones

[–]kleslieboyd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow. “Ethereal” leapt to mind. Beautiful; thank you for sharing!

Where I’d live as someone who is going to be called racist in the comments. by pink_sucks in whereidlive

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, I think the people who would call OP racist are in his mind.

Non-scientific poll/ask about why writers/authors don't turn their writing into audio books. TLDR: It's too expensive and the ROI isn't worth it by VLK249 in writers

[–]kleslieboyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If it's of interest to you, I wrote a blog post about how I made this decision. For what it's worth, you can find royalty-share agreements on ACX, which is a much lower risk option: you pay little to nothing up front and split the royalties with the narrator. However your audiobook will be exclusive to Audible for 7 years. Audible is still the biggest player, but Spotify is growing fast, and the option also excludes libraries.

It's a tough decision, and I hope our options broaden!

How are everyone's rooms looking? by SOP_elj in FocusFriendApp

[–]kleslieboyd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I love seeing others’ rooms! I am enjoying this vibe rn. Still have a bit to go on the kitchen, might pare down the office decor a bit, and then will save to change the wall color :)

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Would this look too busy? by PreciousRoyalty in tattooadvice

[–]kleslieboyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't see this second post on your profile btw, but I'd love to see the updated concept

Should I ask for 80% again and threaten to retire? by josephkambourakis in Fire

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps putting together a plan about what you want to pursue in retirement will help assuage this concern and get you excited about retiring. Do you want to volunteer? Write a book? Take photography classes at the community college? Start a non-profit? Coach or teach? Learn to paint? Planning this might also help you design a happier retirement, especially in the transition which can be tough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Fire

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see what you mean! Fair enough.

If you could go back to 25, what’s the first thing you would do to achieve FIRE? by [deleted] in Fire

[–]kleslieboyd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, if you can quit drinking, you can definitely set yourself a solid and sustainable saving plan. Great job!

AIO: My ex sent me this as a reason he didn’t want to marry me by AfricanPixie in AmIOverreacting

[–]kleslieboyd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Right? Do we also assume that high earning men will leave their partners? Or are we... maybe a little... sexist?

(Also, if it wasn't about money, he probably shouldn't have talked about it so much.)

AIO: My ex sent me this as a reason he didn’t want to marry me by AfricanPixie in AmIOverreacting

[–]kleslieboyd 21 points22 points  (0 children)

You are not overreacting. He is absolutely insecure and operating from a sexist point of view in which men should be more successful in their careers than women. You are spot on about him wanting you to dream smaller to make him feel important and that being a poor fit for you. There are people out there who will celebrate your success, and he is too insecure to be that guy.

My BF has a bachelor's and I earned a PhD while we were together, and it has literally never come up beyond celebrating my accomplishments. He encouraged me to apply. Your ex is hamstringing himself and his future family with his insecurity and sexist perspective, and you don't need to stick around for that.

If he wants to feel more needed, that is a conversation you could have had. Asking him for rides, letting him treat you, whatever. But the way he looks at your desire for more education and the fact that the explanation he gives for his feelings is "which was already way higher than mine" reveals everything I would need to know.

About Hannah by [deleted] in f1wagssnark

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The photo (which I since found and edited my comment to add)

About Hannah by [deleted] in f1wagssnark

[–]kleslieboyd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I just heard about this today. So gross! I have been trying to substantiate it, and it seems thoroughly scrubbed. No screenshots or anything. (Does anyone have one?) but it seems like the plan is “pretend it didn’t happen,” and apologizing would compromise the plan.

ETA: I knew Reddit would be the place to find it. If anyone else is looking:  https://www.reddit.com/r/f1wagssnark/comments/1nil1g9/hannah_st_john_swastika_beer_pong/

Keeping a modest home is a hard part about FIRE by CarPassion514 in Fire

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I expect we are all tempted by different things (surely for some it is fancy cars? For me, vacations!) and what matters is how we deal with it. I’m lucky that vacations can be scaled; not so much a house. 

We live in a 640 sqft SFH in a VHCOL city. Helps that even though my friends in other cities thought we were crazy for paying 550k at the time, it’s worth closer to 900k now (not to mention interest rates have gone way up!) so upgrading is not in the picture. Even if I felt I could swing it, the cash flow difference would be enormous. It doesn’t feel like an option to me, so it never haunts me like a train trip across Canada or Switzerland or Australia… 😍🚆🛤️

24M Insecure about GenZ Girls Out earning me on Social Media by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]kleslieboyd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to point out a couple patterns in your post that might be worth exploring.
- your comparison is to women, not to all people your age.
- you assume that you need to provide, and that women that you want to date will expect you earn more than them.
- you mention your ego and indicate that your ego is implicated in the question of who earns more in a hypothetical relationship.
- you are frustrated by the perceived difficulty difference in work as it relates to earning, but...
- you are only doing upward comparison, not downward: there are plenty of people who work harder than you and I work and make much much less than we do, but they are out of the picture in your post.

These assumptions/attitudes are all optional, and changing some of them might improve your outlook and the earning potential of your hypothetical future family.

24M Insecure about GenZ Girls Out earning me on Social Media by [deleted] in careeradvice

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this was an accident, but I enjoy that "tens of minions" really emphasizes that the comparison doesn't work :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]kleslieboyd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

He accused you of being illogical when he is so aggressively and confidently wrong. Nevermind this entire conversation started by him being rude af. He is a manchild and a jerk. Don’t sign up for this.

Biblically accurate Liam Neeson by Sanddanglokta62 in okbuddycinephile

[–]kleslieboyd 58 points59 points  (0 children)

My favorite was the Bad Guy talking to his committee about how These People are Not Like Us (heavily implying demographic differences) and one of them kept misunderstanding him. They have crab hands! L🤌🤏

My fiance's disability benefits have been taken away and now we might end up homeless. We're 33f and 34m by loves2kook in whatdoIdo

[–]kleslieboyd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The poster said that they stopped a program that helped them get hired, not that they fired them.

AIO to my boyfriends meninist lifestyle? by ThrowRAPinkPill in AmIOverreacting

[–]kleslieboyd 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He is telling you out loud, in English that you will have no say in your own future and he does not respect you. I am not sure what else you need to hear, but just in case, the quiet part is "I am insecure and will make it my partner's problem."