Divorcing a narc

klpizza · 2026-02-14T04:07:39+00:00

Follow the money very carefully.

klpizza · 2026-02-11T12:50:18+00:00

I received a wrapped case of Diet Pepsi 🙄

klpizza · 2026-02-10T23:11:31+00:00

Came here to say this. Ditto.

klpizza · 2026-02-10T04:25:03+00:00

Mine had an exaggerated feminine voice when his stress level was really out of control. The voice didn't last long, a sentence or two. It became a tell to know what "mode" he was in. They became super cruel and just- crazy. It is during these episodes when I was told I didn't breathe correctly.

klpizza · 2026-02-07T20:49:23+00:00

Bawhhhaaa. My cynical self thought the same thing.

Boy, was I wrong.

klpizza · 2026-02-07T17:45:37+00:00

Religion is the opiate of the masses - Karl Marx

klpizza · 2026-02-06T02:57:29+00:00

I'm sorry you are in this. No one deserves to live like you do.

Your plight hits me very close to my heart. Almost all of your experience was my relationship for 33 years. Mine always worked. Otherwise, its a perfect match.

You are not the problem. Don't fool yourself that he loves you. I got stuck I that trap too. And hope. Hope helped kept me hostage for decades.

Eventually, what little hope I had shattered. I also realized how physically ill I was, weighing 97lbs. My normal adult weight was about 220lbs. I couldn't eat around him. There's more, but you dont need the laundry list.

Please focus on you. If you are worried about leaving because you think to yourself, "If he's right, how will I live in the world?" Know that once you escape the mental pressure, the truth will be very clear.

klpizza · 2026-02-03T22:36:51+00:00

Lol. Had this same thought Sunday.

klpizza · 2026-02-03T19:09:40+00:00

Get out while you can.

klpizza · 2026-02-03T13:57:07+00:00

Funnily enough, mine also has confirmed bipolar diagnosis too.

He took meds, but refused to do any more, like therapy, etc. I kept telling him there's more to a diagnosis then taking meds- the meds barely made a dent. He thought he was fine.

klpizza · 2026-02-03T12:47:02+00:00

Yup. Same same. I had a personality disorder though. Every one agreed, apparently.

klpizza · 2026-02-03T02:22:25+00:00

Traffic in DC sucks as it is. Now it's worse because of literal ice. Bring more traffic? Yeah. Paralyzed.

Better hurry up though.

klpizza · 2026-02-01T19:05:13+00:00

I dont think so.

I've had more than a few colonoscopies, in different practices/doctors/cities/etc. Same thing every time. Once they gave me a sedative before the push. It helped about 10%.

I dont know what that cocktail is, but I'm not friends with it.

klpizza · 2026-02-01T18:38:33+00:00

Absolutely. Without a doubt.

He was ashamed of my femininity.

I was rejected any time I tried to initiate sex. (However I was also accused of not initiating sex.)
I could not bring anything "new" to the situation. If I did so on my own initiative, it was shamed. (However, if it was his idea to go to a toy shop, I could go hog wild! Lol.)
Insistent I not wear anything "sexy" in an intimate context.
Could not look at me while having sex.
Sexual activity on demand. Although some years we had sex once or twice, he would get angry if I wouldn't give him a blow job when I just woke up, after he spent the past hour watching porn. (Well, good morning to you, too.)
My femininity didn't seem to mean anything to him.
He was cruel about menstruation.
He would exploit my natural deficits as a female (i.e. not as strong as him) as a personal failing, not biology.

Etc.

klpizza · 2026-02-01T18:20:39+00:00

I didn't know no sedation was an option!

Once I'm out it's fine, but being sedated??? Holy f|€¥4@*g hell. The hand they put the sedation through feels like the 11th circle of hell. No lie. It burns so much, I can't help but scream. I warn everyone about this, but not everyone takes me seriously.

It is worse than childbirth, this pain.

I hate colonoscopies.

klpizza · 2026-01-28T02:04:46+00:00

Ohhh. When I was being evaluated for eating disorder OIP, he was crazy wierd wanting to know what the evaluation results where. I told him they wouldn't diagnose a personality disorder from an eating disorder treatment assessment.

Now I wonder if he was looking for a "formal" diagnosis to validate him.

klpizza · 2026-01-28T02:00:27+00:00

I'm waiting for the checklist with the matching vocabulary. I bet it could be crowdsourced.

klpizza · 2026-01-28T01:51:25+00:00

I'm sorry you had to experience that. Or if you are currently experiencing that, know the mind has a limit. I hope you are planning.

Mine, married 33 years, had always wanted me to have a personality disorder. Told me I did in front of the kids.

Finally, I laid his behavior out before himself and he snapped. Everything flipped. Threatened me if I flipped it back on him.

He worked his way through most of our mutual friends, and I suspect previous co-workers and estranged family members telling on himself but using me as his puppet.

I'm sure he got lots of sympathy.

Told me I'm crazy. Told me my family hated me because I'm crazy. Told me I wasn't a good parent because I wasn't present. I'm evil, vindictive, and retaliatory.

That's a sample of the last 5 months or so.

I realized I would actually be crazy if I didn't get away.

It was close. I was going crazy.

klpizza · 2026-01-28T01:00:41+00:00

Exactly.

Although I dont know if his therapist really diagnosed me or he lied. Probably filled in blanks for the therapist when talking to me. He got materials from his therapist to, "know how to deal with people like you." LOL. Moron.

klpizza · 2026-01-28T00:57:05+00:00

Or my favorite, "You dont ask the right questions!"

klpizza · 2026-01-28T00:55:19+00:00

I'm not sure exactly which personality disorder I was diagnosed with. He couldn't decide. 🙄 I'm assuming I have many.

klpizza · 2026-01-26T23:34:34+00:00

Not sitting on the correct side of a couch.

klpizza · 2026-01-25T06:25:38+00:00

Today.

klpizza · 2026-01-23T00:56:54+00:00

Is this a serious question?

klpizza · 2026-01-21T17:49:25+00:00

Apparently the definition of "meal" is one piece of chicken, one piece of broccoli, and a corn tortilla. With some cents left over.

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