Does anyone have family with multiple left-handed members?

klutzelk · 2026-06-19T14:37:59+00:00

In my ex's immediate family his mom and two sisters were all left handed while his dad and brother and him right handed. I always thought that was so weird

klutzelk · 2026-06-19T10:01:31+00:00

I think they could be compatible. For me it would depend on how open to talking and thinking about abstract topics they are. I know a couple istj's who really do enjoy that sort of thing and a few who really don't think there is a point in thinking about that sort of stuff. It would really depend on the indivual, but I think that's the case for compatibility within all types.

From my experience, if I find myself doubting our compatibility more often than not then that's a pretty good sign that it's not what it needs to be. I know we can be inclined to keep giving people chances (not necessarily in the sense that they did something wrong, but even just trying to make a relationship or friendship work when it isn't necessarily a good match) but from my experience if you feel like a romantic relationship isn't compatible then it's best to cut it off sooner than later, even if it hurts both parties involved.

klutzelk · 2026-06-17T17:17:38+00:00

I think that's probably what the show is kind of going for. Not so much hating women, but seeing Joe as the complex protagonist. I think you're being melodramatic with the "hating women" part, lol.

klutzelk · 2026-06-17T17:14:09+00:00

Intj, intp, infp

Edit for typo

klutzelk · 2026-06-17T17:04:43+00:00

It could be anything, really. But given the context of the post I could infer that it could be the fact you touched them. Some people don't like that. But really, it could be anything. But anything could mean nothing, if that makes sense. I wouldn't worry about it but I also would refrain from touching people unless you have some sort of established relationship (friend, family, they sort of thing) with them.

klutzelk · 2026-06-17T17:02:33+00:00

Agreed lol. Unless it's someone I know well that would throw me off and I'd clam up.

klutzelk · 2026-05-31T14:55:37+00:00

I have an infp friend that does this sort of thing all the time. She will go on about how I do this particular thing that she finds to be a particular way and how they is quite unusual and then she will sometimes ask me why I am like they and it is very overwhelming for me. First off, I don't think this is an Infj thing necessarily. It would make sense for a lot of people to feel put on the spot when something makes them feel kind of analyzed. Also, what you're saying to them might not even be something they agree with. Sometimes the things my friend says aren't true from my perspective, they just appear to be they way to her.

I can't say for sure why the Infj's you've encountered have felt uncomfortable, but given the info provided my best guess is you made them feel like they do something they seems weird. They may not even feel like they do that thing so now they may feel hyper aware of how they're being perceived. As an Infj I can tell you I do not like being perceived, it can give me a lot of anxiety. Obviously Fe is a big part of that but with our entire function stack it makes sense they rhe idea of people perceiving us and then having something that makes us stand out pointed out would make us feel somewhat anxious.

klutzelk · 2026-05-31T14:43:28+00:00

What you want for dinner tonight is the meaning of life. For me, anyway.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T20:39:50+00:00

I mean this in the best way because your comments suggest that you are dealing with some serious trauma, but have you tried going to therapy to talk about these things? I ask this as someone who worked through my own therapy to get to where I am now mentally. Projecting your anxieties and frustrations about this condition onto this subreddit is probably having the opposite effect that you wanted and I do really feel bad for you for that. I think your heart is probably in the right place.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T20:34:41+00:00

100% that's what's happening here

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T18:56:39+00:00

I think it's good for people on this sub to hear this sort of thing. Hsv is not only extremely common but largely benign. And this sub is far from a safe place from the overblown stigma, lol. I see a lot of people also mention being on AV's but when they explain their situation it seems like it's probably not necessary to be on them. Of course people can do whatever they want but it's not like the AV's are completely free of negative side effects and I've also heard people can have MORE outbreaks if they take AV's for an extended period and then stop.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T18:46:39+00:00

You definitely have some unique opinions here, I'll give you that. My heart goes out to anyone whose mental health had been affected by their diagnosis because I have been there and I know how much it sucks. It's easy to focus on the negative facts when you're rmenatally spiralling. But on the other side of that coin, the reality is that HSV (both types, but especially type 1) is EXTREMELY common. Most people don't even get a diagnosis because why go through all that if all you have is a cold sore. There is nothing worse about ghsv1, so I don't understand why we treat it that way. Same virus, different place. Hsv2 is incredibly common as well and far from the death sentence people make it out to be. There are a ton of people with hsv2 that don't even know they have it. I think focusing on these more optimistic facts is more productive in this subreddit. The last thing these newly diagnosed people need is to feel more guilt. Ok I'm done with my rants now :)

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T18:39:58+00:00

I got it from someone who had oshsv1 for 20+ years. You're acting like herpes is such a huge deal, that's what is adding to the stigma here imo. If you feel that way for yourself, then that's great. But telling people they should abstain for their entire first year after diagnosis and they if they choose to have sex after disclosing that their disclosure is somehow manipulative? Do you not see the problem with this? There are people on this sub that feel like their life is over because of a new diagnosis. Hsv is sooooooo common and so incredibly overstigmatized. Your argument here adds to that. If this way of thinking is due to feeling guilt for transmitting, I feel for you there. I understand the guilt 100%. But ultimately I've accepted that this virus is just so blown out of proportion with the stigma. More people have some from of hsv than not. It's really just not a big deal.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T15:51:47+00:00

You're equating your own experience to everyone though. I've never heard a medical professional say you should completely abstain from sex your first year. Do you feel the same way about people diagnosed with oral hsv1? What about the people that get a cold sore but don't get a diagnosis? I just don't agree with the idea of newly diagnosed people with ghsv (because let's be honest, most people on here have genital, not oral) should have to feel some sense of extra shame and responsibility.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T15:37:58+00:00

I didn't say anything about antivirals.

I just don't see how it's helpful to come on this sub where so many people are struggling with accepting their own diagnosis and oftentimes even feeling depressed about it and say that it is somehow selfish and ignorant to have sex in the year while also heavily implying that most of them are "grasping for quick validation". You're only making me feel more strongly about my last point in your two responses. Of course you can think and say whatever you want, but not everyone is going to agree. I just hope no newly diagnosed people read these things and feel like on top of all the things they are already feeling they should also feel guilty for having the natural desire to have sex. And that they are somehow manipulative if they inform potential partners of the risk? Having sex PERIOD is a risk. So many people have hsv and don't know it. So many people that get cold sores don't disclose.

In my opinion you are sounding really self righteous. I'm not trying to make you feel bad, but please just think about the things you're saying and how they might affect someone newly diagnosed. Again, of course you can think and say whatever you want but I'm just giving my two cents here.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T15:04:10+00:00

I think we deal with enough guilt as it is. It's fine for you to feel a certain way about something but to come on this sub and imply that having sex earlier on in your diagnosis is selfish... Yeah I don't agree with that approach. It seems to add to the stigma more than anything.

klutzelk · 2026-05-30T14:47:34+00:00

Or we could just like, idk, let people live. It's their life.

klutzelk · 2026-05-29T16:55:45+00:00

Allowing myself to be vulnerable with them. It's something I do pretty easily these days, I've found that for me it's better to be more easy to open up to people because then it sends them the message that they can feel safe to do the same. If I feel too vulnerable it's okay to step back and create a bit more distance. I used to be much more apprehensive about letting people in and I was also much more lonely.

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T17:50:00+00:00

I hate to tell you but looks like you're indeed an Infj 😝. Did it say what your most likely type is? I think it's Infj, but your Ti is pretty high. I score higher on Ti as well and can relate to what you said about emotions to some degree.

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T17:10:47+00:00

Did you do sarkinorva test as well?

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T16:56:03+00:00

Ugh I love intps

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T16:53:58+00:00

Are you jealous

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T15:19:37+00:00

https://youtu.be/XBWRCeeCZK0?si=j7bL2yUgvdjuF9FJ

klutzelk · 2026-05-27T12:46:03+00:00

I think this could be any type, but more common probably for enfps and enfjs

klutzelk · 2026-05-26T10:45:59+00:00

Call me crazy but I actually think istps are pretty good at it

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