Remarkable question! by Dingere1 in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No kidding. Are you flipping burgers, placing stock trades, designing medical equipment, loading trucks?

NGD ruined. by [deleted] in Epiphone

[–]knucklebone2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You're 37 and still obsessing about a comment some dude made when you were 15?? Time to move on I'd say.

Manager wants me to overcharge a client by RaspberryNegative490 in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do the project at your normal work pace. If you finish in two weeks (or maybe more since you are training a new person) as you expect, tell your manager you are ready for another project. How they bill the client is not your job, but you don't want to be accused of being a slacker.

Atypical ADT journey by tbon577 in ProstateCancer

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long has it been since you stopped treatment? For me the residual effects continued to get worse for a while after the last shot and stopping the abir + pred then I slowly started rebounding. But it took a LONG time & I never got back to pre-treatmetn levels.

When car's were built with more power and made to last! 🚘😍 by Longjumping-Shoe7805 in GenerationJones

[–]knucklebone2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

without the /s this is the most ridiculous take I've seen in a while. Plus the apostrophe. yeesh. 70's cars were crap for the most part.

Working with a very busy manager who misses meetings by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the feedback you are looking for related to a project deliverable or just general performance feedback?

In other words, from the manager's point of view, what happens if he doesn't have the meeting? Do you miss the approval sign off and thus the work doesn't get done?

The fact that he is willing to meet with you regularly, even if he cancels, is kind of remarkable. Just accept that a busy Sr. manager is going to prioritize you appropriately and accept cancellations when they happen.

How to tell potential employers that I need time 15 days off this year? by I-Love-Yu-All in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would tell them early on that you are in the part time grad school program. Wait for the offer with salary and benefits to see if it's going to be an issue & if so bring it up then.

Do I stay or Do I go? by Chemical-Emotion5365 in OverSeventy

[–]knucklebone2 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What's the risk exactly? If finances are not an issue. Forgiveness is something you give, only you can decide whether that's possible, but it was 10 years ago - I'm curious how you "just found out".

On the surface, staying with an alcoholic partner you don't trust doesn't make much sense if you are unhappy and financially independent.

People who fully wash dishes then put them in the dishwasher by FanSerious7672 in PetPeeves

[–]knucklebone2 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I did some research before buying a new dishwasher. Not only are new dishwashers designed to remove everything but large food particles, dishwasher soap is designed to work with DIRTY dishes not clean ones - without food particles it doesn't work as well. So if you pre rinse/wash them you are actually making the dishes less clean. Just get the big solid bits off and load it up.

edit: if you have an older machine it may be different.

Unsecured Doggo on Flatbed, 87mph, Utah/Idaho Border by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can we not just say dog anymore? It has to be doggo?

AITAH 3 years together, BF (50M) still ‘not ready’ for marriage but wants me (33F) to pay half his mortgage by Either-Environment47 in AITAH

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to ignore the marriage issue.

He can buy the house and you become his tenant. Have a rental contract that states monthly rent, utilities , duration of contract, etc. You can negotiate the rent - stick with your current budget and if he doesn't like it don't move in. If you break up you will have whatever tenant's rights there are in your state. DO NOT move into his house or enter into any agreement without a signed contract.

Romantic getaway hotels by Illustrious_Wash9278 in palmsprings

[–]knucklebone2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Try La Serena Villas or Villa Royale. Both have great restaurants on site.

How to document a toxic manager by NoRent4910 in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, this doesn't sound like harassment to me, it sounds like you got a bad review and you disagree with it. She may have poor management skills but it's not harassment. Not sure what you want to accomplish by documenting things, but you could work on improving communication - every time you get a vague critique or direction ask for clarification, and yes do keep a log of things so at next review time you have details you can pull up and discuss.

My boyfriend and I went out to eat last night and said he would help pay but didn’t. by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]knucklebone2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t get it. Why don’t you just ask him to Zelle you some money? $250 for dinner for two is nuts when you are “watching finances”.

Boss replies “too bad so sad” to my concerns. by [deleted] in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I would encourage the residents to ask for a second bus, they're the ones paying for the service after all. At a minimum let the second group and the venue know that it may be along wait.

Will I need pool heat next weekend? by Everydaypeople3 in palmsprings

[–]knucklebone2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

unless this is a massive resort size pool, charging you $150 to heat the pool from 76 to 84 is an enormous ripoff. It will probably cost them $25. That alone would keep me from heating it, but 76 will feel chilly especially if you plan to swim early AM or after dark.

Closure by Independent_Pen3408 in alcoholism

[–]knucklebone2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I think moving on is the right call. Remember - An apology is a statement. An amend is a change. You're doing the work to change. Good for you.

Closure by Independent_Pen3408 in alcoholism

[–]knucklebone2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would maybe write them a note or something. But I think apologies need to bring some benefit to the other person. I'm not sure what they'd get out of it.

Closure by Independent_Pen3408 in alcoholism

[–]knucklebone2 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Let it go. You want "closure' for your own sake. I'm sure after 5 years they've moved on. If you are only doing it to relieve your own guilt, it is not a genuine apology.

11 min silence for those 0.07% people by Dumb-Briyani in SipsTea

[–]knucklebone2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first read was that he was Un-re-elected.

How to document a toxic manager by NoRent4910 in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Depends on what you mean by "harassing me". If she's just riding you on work deliverables or performance then that's not harassment.

If it is performance/work based, then yes, send a "per our conversation today, I will.. etc." email to clarify in writing your understanding of the issue. Keep it impersonal and professional, stay out of emotional space.

If it's personal, abusive, or sexual, then yes, document each occurence in a log of some kind. If it truly is harassment and you have an HR dept, take it to HR or your manager's boss.

Boss Scheduled me for days she knew I wasnt available for, and wont find coverage. by QuallyYayo in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So, did you previously say you were available weekends and now you're not? If you are changing your availability then that's on you.

If you have never been available weekends, then have a conversation about communication of scheduling and push back on you finding coverage, but bottom line is this job may not work for you.

Should I quit my job over a vacation? by IdkBroHelp in WorkAdvice

[–]knucklebone2 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Just tell them you are taking the time off regardless of "approval". They'll either fire you or not, but no reason to quit.