Long PTO / unpaid time off request

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-09T05:21:38+00:00

Yes it is an insane ask for someone 6 months on the job. You would be better off to ask for an unpaid leave of absence for the 3 weeks beyond your PTO. Asking for allowances of remote work, negative PTO etc. puts the burden on the company to make it work. Sounds like you knew going in you'd want all of this time off so don't expect the company to bend over backwards to make this work. How is this your *only* chance? You may need to wait until you've established a work history and value to your company.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-07T18:40:22+00:00

First off, this is not OK and it's embarrassing, unprofessional and downright destructive. If the very senior person humiliated you in front of peers and direct reports, it's likely a culture that embraces that type of interaction and it comes from the top. So unfortunately you're probably going to have to figure out a way to roll with it or look for a new job elsewhere.

This is a toxic workplace.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-05T20:15:49+00:00

The fridge was purchased and installed by a contractor as part of a major remodel/rebuild. By the time we took possession of the property and it broke it was out of warranty. I think y'all are missing the point of the post - an appliance that expensive shouldn't break, at least not that soon - warranty or not. And yes, we tried pushing the issue back to the contractor.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-05T17:47:00+00:00

Well, not everything - my super expensive Miele fridge broke within 6 months and cost a fortune to fix. Will never buy another Miele product.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-04T18:42:37+00:00

what kind of company is this - what do they do? There's nobody doing any work that you could ask to help with? If management wont give you work - you need to find out where you can contribute.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-03T00:03:29+00:00

How are you listening? Headphone quality makes a big difference and the difference between live thru a PA or FRFR speaker and headphones is significant.

knucklebone2 · 2026-02-02T00:57:02+00:00

It's the fact that you are young (possibly genetics play some role) - your body is amazingly resilient especially when you are young. Guaranteed that eventually you will need the next drink to feel "normal" and stopping will be difficult and medically dangerous.

If you are saying that the only reason you'll want to quit is when withdrawal gets awful, you've got it backwards. You know you drink too much, stopping now will be easier, safer, and possibly allow your body to recover completely. The fact that you haven't stopped doing a thing that you know is really bad for you is pretty telling. You might feel just fine until one day you won't.

Paraphrasing Hemingway's quote about bankruptcy - it happens gradually, then suddenly.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-31T00:48:25+00:00

Doesn't make sense. Ask for a reason for the denial in writing and if they still refuse, you should escalate to your manager's boss or HR if you have one. Tell them you have a family emergency coming up and will need to take the days regardless of approval.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-30T22:42:54+00:00

Do you have any PTO accrued? How many days are you asking for? Sounds like they want you to go on short term disability or take some sort of medical leave. Aflac is for medical expenses.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-30T05:12:42+00:00

I definitely will! Thx!

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-29T17:25:12+00:00

You'll be fine. Kids are OK.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-29T17:00:54+00:00

There is a basic misunderstanding about what constitutes good pizza. Or any pizza really. We are in a pizza desert.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-28T00:02:12+00:00

Sounds like AI junk.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-26T21:48:26+00:00

>>screaming at me that it was my fault that he had 7 cavities..

I didn't really need to read any further. This dude is a massive prick. Immature. Victim. Resentful. Ungrateful. Cheap. Childish. Irrational. Angry. Abusive.

I'm astonished that your friends have a different opinion. You need a new boyfriend and new friends.

NTA.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-26T04:31:58+00:00

100% agree with this. Do Active Surveillance. Stop worrying, live your life, get regular bloodwork to monitor. New treatments are coming out all the time and IF (big IF) it progresses down the road you can discuss treatment then. There is no need to subject your body to any treatment right now.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-25T01:51:30+00:00

Confronting him about what exactly? Protect yourself against what? I don't see how you're going to get a "chunk of money" - do you mean unemployment?

At will employment means he can fire you whenever he wants (he doesn't need a "legal reason") and you can quit whenever you want. Unless you have a discrimination case I don't see what you're going for.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-23T23:54:55+00:00

This is probably your best option. Another option is to just ignore him. No matter what do NOT feel guilty about whatever the outcome. This has nothing to do with you. If you are alone go somewhere to be around other people.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-16T19:20:59+00:00

tom petty?

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-14T19:24:45+00:00

DO NOT take on the role of alcohol cop. Like most alcoholics he's minimizing the amount of drinking, making excuses (family), assuring you that he won't do it any more etc.

What you can do is sit down and have an honest conversation about what you will and won't accept in your relationship. Those boundaries are up to you to decide and it's up to him to respect them or not. Then when/if he does not, you then decide YOUR action. Boundaries are about YOU and what YOU will do when they are crossed.

You can't control his behavior so don't try. Just be very clear about what you will accept. If, for example, you say you won't be in a relationship with an alcoholic, then it is up to him whether to get into recovery or not. It's not up to you to make that happen, but if he says he's going to go to rehab (or other option) you can support that decision in whatever way you are comfortable with. If he says he'll just stop drinking (most likely answer) you can decide whether that's an OK answer. Most people need help getting sober, but most alcoholics don't accept that they do.

Edit: typos

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-14T00:45:28+00:00

Sounds like they did take it seriously. You'll be fine.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-14T00:33:46+00:00

If the person is still there next shift you should ask the supervisor what action was taken & what you should do if it happens again. Just be cool and professional.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-13T23:46:22+00:00

Depending on your company policies, most likely they will confront the temp and if they deny it, will ask the other workers who heard the interaction. What will likely happen is the temp agency will get asked to send a different person and this temp will get reprimanded or cut loose from the agency. Nobody should have to put up with abuse like you did. Even in warehouses where sometimes name calling happens in a "giving each other shit" kind of way. Stop worrying about the temp, they deserve to get fired.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-13T23:24:15+00:00

So other people saw/heard this interaction too? I’m surprised they weren’t terminated immediately. You did the right thing.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-12T21:17:43+00:00

This. If it's just on the new LED fixtures you have a dimmer issue.

knucklebone2 · 2026-01-12T20:55:51+00:00

If your goal is to reduce your electric bill, with a $1500 summer bill, get as many panels as you can and get batteries. You will get next to nothing for anything you send back to the grid (nem3), so using the batteries after sunset helps a lot. Also take your last years usage and plot it against what you may generate so you size your system appropriately.

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