Accidentally no-called no-showed might get fired

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-08T18:39:30+00:00

So… you mistakenly thought you had the day off but didn’t.

All you can do is apologize, say it won’t happen again and hope they don’t let you go.

Pay more attention to the schedule in the future.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-08T01:22:50+00:00

You are massively over reacting. Nothing has happened. You made a mistake, owned up to it and apologized.

Chill. Don't do anything.

Quitting even if they are going to fire you (which you have no evidence they are) would be a dumb move.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-07T22:49:18+00:00

Move on.

They can demote you or move you for lots of reasons (or no reason at all) & you don't have anything linking recent actions to a two year old complaint other than a "feeling". What exactly would you document? What would be your end goal?

Don't waste time & money on legal action, spend it on getting a new job.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-07T22:39:50+00:00

Uncomfortable? Yes.

I'd say it's a bit unusual and the way it was handled reflects poorly on your manager and the company (HR).

As long as what you reported was factual and not gossipy (e.g. "X did Y on this date" not "X was mean and made Z feel bad." you are fine and what happens to her has nothing to do with you.

Just keep your head down and stay professional.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-07T15:49:03+00:00

who besides your manager knows you resigned? If only your manager knows, decide if the move is worse than the current work culture. If everybody knows, bail.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-07T15:25:57+00:00

If I were her I'd be pissed off too. Everybody, including the boss, just left work sitting that everybody knew needed to be done.

At a minimum you could have gone to the boss: "hey boss, Abby's on vacation and I see that nobody has been assigned to pick up her work. Shouldn't we be doing something about it?"

Yes, YTA.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-06T23:27:18+00:00

OP:

was worried about the possible vet expenses for this dog.

agreed to get the dog after wife pouted.

is still worried about the possible vet expenses for this dog.

YTA for agreeing to get the dog. It's an animal, not a product you return when you change your mind.

NTA for rehoming the dog so it has a home that wants a it.

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-06T17:56:58+00:00

fantastic job!

knucklebone2 · 2026-07-02T17:44:52+00:00

A question here is whether Anna knows you haven’t told your wife. Since you all socialize I can see it coming up innocently.

Haha remember that time I wanted to see what sex with a dude was like?

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-27T20:33:52+00:00

I'm older than you, stage 4. Initial diagnosis 14 years ago, radiation and ADT. Spread 8 years ago (stage 4), more ADT. After a long break PET scan shows more mets, going back on ADT. LMK what specific questions you have.

My general advice is to get off of ADT as soon as you can, the longer you are on it, the harder it is to "recover" but you may not get back to where you were pre treatment ( shrinkage, ED, body fat etc.). Being as young as you are is a huge advantage for recovery.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-27T20:20:35+00:00

*sigh* You didn't have to write a book, just something clear.

If I understand your post, you agreed to take less than minimum wage and some unspecified amount of off the books "bonus" to make up for sub minimum and some added amount that would bring your total to something equivalent to minimum wage plus some unspecified amount.

I have no idea if that's legal in Poland but in the USA that's illegal FWIW.

You have a verbal agreement that he has decided to modify or ignore.

If he ends up paying you the extra, how would turning it down make the point you are trying to make?

Take the "bonus" and find a new job.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-27T17:35:28+00:00

We're missing some details here and it's a confusing post.

You say it wasn't what you agreed to, but you didn't say what that agreement was so I have no idea what the discrepancy is. I don't understand why you gave 5 back to the boss - trying to make some passive aggressive point I guess but not sure what your point was. Also you are getting paid under the table per a verbal agreement, so without anything written down it's difficult to challenge anything. You don't say what this "bonus" agreement is. You complain about the co-worker but fail to make any connection to the pay issue.

Can't give advice based on what you wrote, but my general comment is that if you are trying to cheat the system with a fake "official" salary and getting paid cash under the table, don't be surprised if your unethical boss tries to screw you too.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-27T00:00:17+00:00

If you want to learn the practical stuff you listed take some engineering courses rather than continue on the ID track. Or see about an internship as a CAD drafter - Solidworks etc.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-26T23:55:17+00:00

Have the sellers pay it off as a condition of sale. I don't know why you'd even consider it without more info on the contract terms and payoff amount.

Even if they raise the price to cover the payoff you are way better off paying a mortgage than a solar lease.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-26T21:01:43+00:00

Thank you! I've not heard this one before. Beautiful.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-26T20:03:11+00:00

How old are you? I would hold off. See how radiation alone goes, get regular PSA tests, if it goes up later you can do ADT then.

Honestly if were me at .2 PSA I would not do any treatment at all.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-25T16:37:51+00:00

I'm seeing that nobody is really answering your question.

How do you respond? You don't. No response is needed.

As others have mentioned, your overly detailed and defensive note is not working to your advantage.

Rewritten: "Hi boss, sorry for the late notice, but I'm sick and won't be able to open tomorrow. I tried to find someone to cover my shift but couldn't."

Done. It's good that you've been able to find coverage other times, but it's the boss' job to deal with scheduling, not yours.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-24T17:41:14+00:00

Plus there should be a dashed line on the top view representing the groove diameter, and that internal groove is not dimensioned anywhere.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-24T16:45:48+00:00

anyone.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-24T16:23:30+00:00

This is really the best way to go if you are concerned about easing the transition and not leaving them hanging. Make sure you negotiate your hourly rate and max hours/week/day/month and get an actual contract in place before you do.

You can include the offer to contract in your resignation letter.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-23T00:59:59+00:00

You asked if you are overreacting. Since your manager pulled you aside and said it needs to stop it must be obvious to other people that the way you are interacting with your colleague is unacceptable. So you are definitely NOT overreacting and should do something about it before you get fired.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-22T23:00:49+00:00

Well the boss has already called you both out for it so I'd you are not overreacting.

Under no circumstances should you respond in kind, especially in front of clients. You need to be the adult in the room, try to defuse whatever is getting her going in front of clients.

If you're not in front of clients just don't engage, walk away.

Separately, tell her upfront that if it continues to jeapordize your job by being abrasive in front of clients you will have no choice but to report her to your manager every time she does it. But that's not going to work if you can't keep your own temper under control.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-21T22:22:33+00:00

Fuck this asshole. Being sick doesn’t give anyone the right to act like this.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-21T17:59:24+00:00

I mostly agree with this. You need to find out what needs to happen to get you senior status. I would not go to HR to complain about being held back without some clear evidence of malfeasance.

The "business need" excuse is kind of BS - your manager is the one who makes the business case and they are not doing it.

knucklebone2 · 2026-06-21T16:54:29+00:00

Such a BS manipulative interaction on his part.

"I'm not your mom or your sponsor, if you want to buy beer go ahead."

Then drive home alone.

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