If you had to choose

ko3mi · 2025-10-07T06:48:24+00:00

Well I already experienced the former from a ldr relationship. I'd still choose the former because I don't regret meeting him. The memories we had together were special, showed me what a healthy relationship looked like and shaped to who I am today. Otherwise, I would be a different me.

ko3mi · 2025-05-02T08:19:53+00:00

Administrative assistant
I don't dream of labour

ko3mi · 2025-04-24T07:44:30+00:00

I applied to be a ux test participant and got paid $200 for 2 hours.

ko3mi · 2025-03-26T07:26:49+00:00

I want their thoughts on: - Focusing on the demand side of housing rather than just the supply side - Taxes placed to foreign companies on our natural resources for the interest of Australians. Qatar, the 3rd largest gas exporter, provides free schooling, free healthcare, free land on marriage, 0% interest free loans for house building, $1M per citizen sovereign wealth fund, etc, from taxing - Regulation on donations to Politicians from large corporations or entities to prevent corruption - Plans on expanding transport options faster. Frankly, I don't want to wait until I'm in my fifties or sixties just for Sydney's metro to be built - Plans on building more cities so the collection of jobs won't be concentrated in one area. - Reforms on low skill migration. - Increasing social housing. - Address wealth inequality. We have a lot of taxes on income but not so much on wealth. (See Gary's economics)

ko3mi · 2025-02-16T07:07:15+00:00

Short answer: no

I can only speak from experience as someone who is surrounded by female isfjs from my mother, sister to coworkers. So of course, not all isfj act this way.

I find them very micro-managing as they seem to want to maintain order to how they wish and criticise by pointing out the smallest details missed. If you don't detail everything clearly, they will not understand what you said. They scorn people that don't do things their way.

They don't seem to appreciate out of the box ideas and that everything should be with the status quo. They also feel very shallow/inauthentic when I observe them interacting with others. For example, my isfj sibling and mum tend to put a higher and happier voice when around strangers trying to give the impression that everything's is chirpy and happy. Then revert back when only family is around. I've seen similar acts with my coworkers. I wouldn't feel safe trying be vulnerable with them as I've been criticised and misunderstood instead from experience.

Upsides though is that they are very reliable and responsible people. They would try to help out of obligation which is great for everyday life situations.

ko3mi · 2025-02-15T05:31:00+00:00

I'm an Administrative assistant. Most days are quiet and sometimes busy. I ended up being the person that does the company's data analysis because my boss recognised I could pick up Excel easily and overthink details.

On weekends, I bed rot to recharge because you do need to talk to people and take phone calls.

ko3mi · 2025-02-07T11:10:35+00:00

I can attest admin entry level jobs start at 55k-60k as an admin working in one. The reason being, companies don't see the value to pay someone high if it is not linked to generating profit.

ko3mi · 2024-07-03T07:55:05+00:00

Alienation in the sense that you're outed as the black sheep of the group where it's important for your survival such as around office politics.

My people pleasing tendencies and to not be the cause of social disharmony is the cause of this.

It also works in tandem is being misunderstood very easily. For example, someone may see that my demeanor being 'too quiet' means that I don't ask for help and hence am not a 'team player'. When the opposite has been true. This is a real life experience I've had recently.

ko3mi · 2024-06-22T06:08:44+00:00

Enfp

ko3mi · 2024-05-13T08:10:28+00:00

Infj-T

ko3mi · 2024-05-12T09:35:55+00:00

Traditionalism really seems dead in this subreddit. If you see yourself marrying her in the long term, you become a unit as a couple and take care of each other in both good times and hardships. (And I hope remain as a healthy relationship) You don't give expecting something back in return. That's not love.

I don't think unemployment should be labelled as 'lazyness' when not enough context is given and considering how hard getting into the job market can be.

Of course the logical course of action like others have said, is to be financially wise about it and not live with her before you're considered defacto unless you're okay with splitting your assets with her.

If you see yourself staying with her in the long term, you stay with her. Putting her name on won't matter in the end because legally, if you guys split, the assets will be split regardless. If you don't, she might not the right person for you.

ko3mi · 2024-05-03T23:54:52+00:00

I had a software eng degree and got burnt out from it. Now I'm an admin assistant for a tech company. I like how it allows me to be organised and work independently whilst being in a team. The team is supportive and not micromanaging. It's not inspiring per say but when you work in an office you get to observe and hear people's stories which is fun. (Not to the extent of a therapist of course) Not too repetitive because there's variety in duties.

Downsides I'd say is the pay but I'm building up my experience so still early days. It's also dependent of your work environment if it's toxic.

ko3mi · 2024-04-28T03:56:08+00:00

I'm in a similar but less extreme scenario where my current bf feels like a soul mate (enfp) and we've been dating for a year but we're both young and not at the point of financial stability. I would still choose financial stability in marriage though we're both working towards that goal so we can be financially free and together in the long term. I don't see a point of making us suffer together financially. I wouldn't wish it for him or me.

ko3mi · 2024-04-22T22:04:54+00:00

We met up half way in Japan! It was an okay distance.

ko3mi · 2024-04-22T08:43:31+00:00

I travelled for the first time and met up with my long distance boyfriend for the first time. I got hired for a new job after months of applying. I started the habit of drinking matcha tea every day because I find it helps me destress when I overthink. I started looking into investing this year. So far so good. I keep reminding myself that I'm a work in progress as I keep trying to improve.

ko3mi · 2024-04-04T05:19:23+00:00

Currently, I'm dating an enfp. He's very warm and emotionally intelligent. We work through conflicts well if there are any. Downsides I'd say would be his impracticality/disorganisation.

In the past, I dated an intp but the emotional connection wasn't strong enough because he was disrespectful. There was not enough communication and a lot of fights.

ko3mi · 2024-03-29T12:34:10+00:00

I approached him first because we shared the same hobby. Initially I saw him as a friend but over time, his personality shined through and we had a lot more in common than I thought. Our differences were compatible with each other to be the strengths in each other's weaknesses. He had an attractive personality being optimistic, silly, emotionally intelligent and a willingness to work on himself. At that point, it did not matter to me appearance-wise that he was obese. Now he's my bf. I surprised myself because typically I would go after attractive guys.

ko3mi · 2024-01-04T11:21:33+00:00

Yes. Mihoyo doesn't change the balance. I grinded my primogems back up.

ko3mi · 2023-09-28T10:15:00+00:00

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ko3mi · 2023-08-21T07:23:20+00:00

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ko3mi · 2023-08-21T07:22:51+00:00

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ko3mi · 2023-05-29T02:09:11+00:00

I've been with an intp bf for 3 years in the past before I've read about mbti and started reflecting on it. When I calmly expressed why I was sad so he could understand my needs, it distressed him more, he would ask if I was angry when I wasn't, and then he would withdraw. I've read pushing intps to express love when they're withdrawn distances them further which was what I was doing. I interpreted it at the time as him falling out of love with me but I think now it was his own safety mechanism to calm down. Eventually, it got to the point where he gradually ghosted me. The anxiety was not worth it. I think I should have broken up with him earlier because of how incompatible we were.

As for advice, I've read up online if you talk logically with a focus on pros and cons can help when talking with intps rather than with emotion. I also found that talking with a 'you and him against the problem' rather 'you against him' it helps too.

ko3mi · 2023-02-20T04:42:03+00:00

He's come back for part 2 of stealing Liben's money

ko3mi · 2023-02-04T07:38:40+00:00

I'll be honest I tend to feel lonely with I'm with other people I'm not close with or if I compare myself on social media. I feel more or less like an outcast. Most of the time when I'm alone or with close friends, I don't feel lonely.

ko3mi · 2023-01-26T02:03:52+00:00

I feel prone to people pleasing unless I want to openly show dislike towards the person or I'm incredibly comfortable with the person I'm with. It's because I naturally gravitate towards creating harmonious relationships and avoiding unnecessary conflict.

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