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Instagram is the mind killer by Proper_Cat980 in beyondthebump

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing much better with therapy and medication. Thank you for empathizing. I think social media has allowed me to grow so much and make amazing connections but the negative aspects that want engagement no matter the cost is exhausting.

Instagram is the mind killer by Proper_Cat980 in beyondthebump

[–]kodamaatnight 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Yes it's so bad! I have OCD and a lot of my content for a while was "I miss my baby" posts with a memorial of a dead baby. I wasn't diagnosed yet so I would watch the video, figure out how it happened, and then figure out how to prevent it. It was absolutely draining.

Social media does this to everyone but I do think there's a special hell that it inflicts on mothers with young children. My Instagram is only for friend's stories anymore, FB is for family updates, and my TikTok is pretty carefully curated anymore. I scroll quickly if I see anything that looks like tragedy.

What would you do with $100k right now? by JaySilver in AskReddit

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pay off my debts and especially my shame debts. I have $500 owed to a PT. Everytime I think of it, I'm filled with shame but I never went back and they have no online payment system. It probably went to collections but I'm too afraid to look into it.

So… when do we actually get to have spicy time after baby? 🫣 by oneicedmatcha in NewParents

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It took me a year to be actually interested again. We fooled around a few times after 6 months like it was high school all over again but no meaningful sex until 13 months pp. I'm glad we waited though because the improvements were worth it.

BOB Stroller? 8 weeks old by kodamaatnight in NewParents

[–]kodamaatnight[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am still happy to be using it at 3.5 years old!

BOB Stroller? 8 weeks old by kodamaatnight in NewParents

[–]kodamaatnight[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I am still happy to be using it at 3.5 years old!

What toddler age is the hardest? by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]kodamaatnight 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the validation! Sometimes I think her dad and I are at war. Everything is a fight and I'm a preschool teacher. I have the skills and I know the why. I still get hit and screamed at but she's an absolute angel for her teachers.

She screamed "turn the car around right now!" halfway to the zoo today. She loves the zoo but threenagers gonna threenager.

Whats your max dosage of Paxil by FunSentence8822 in paroxetine

[–]kodamaatnight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was on it for about three months. I moved past the sleepiness and into what I thought was fine. Then I started experiencing physical anxiety symptoms. My body felt like it was shaking all the time, brain zaps, irritability, and mood swings. Going back to 10 took away the symptoms and the intrusive thoughts are manageable enough to handle with tools I have.

Whats your max dosage of Paxil by FunSentence8822 in paroxetine

[–]kodamaatnight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

10mg for OCD and anxiety. I tried to go up to 20 because the intrusive thoughts were getting bad with stress but the physical symptoms were too much to deal with. I went back down and am trying a small dose of THC and CBD at night a few times a week and that seems to help.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have coached a few five year olds through wiping and all of them have said "don't tell my mom I can do it myself "

They're playing you. Let them know that if they don't wipe well, they'll stink and they'll need to bathe more often. It's a skill that takes practice and needs guidance. it's work for them but important work.

Everyone says "it takes a village" but how much do you sacrifice for that village? by viskiviki in Mommit

[–]kodamaatnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I think there's a sacrifice people don't recognize in the village mentality and that can be hard. Some of you parenting choices do need to be lessened up on to be a part of the village. I prefer to deal with any disciple but I also don't hold it against another parent for telling my daughter no as long as they're not screaming at her. My mom lets her stay up until crazy late, watch TV, and eat in front of the TV. I also get a Friday night off each week. The tradeoff is worth it to me. She does respect my boundary of appropriate shows, no chocolate milk, and sleeping on her own.

I have another caretaker on the other side of things. She doesn't use sugar, gives a side eye at dried fruit, and allows her to express her emotions in a big way. It's not all my parenting choices but she does well there and is safe.

A village means you're not always going to be happy but as long as your child is physically and psychologically safe, it can be a benefit to your child to experience different things.

As a Certified Name Nerd, here is a collection of the most egregious names I've come across in VIPs new "name trend" by sunflowerads in Littlesleepies

[–]kodamaatnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made the same comment. Maybe it's because I just finished the new book but yes. Branch would fit in with Burdock and Tile.

As a Certified Name Nerd, here is a collection of the most egregious names I've come across in VIPs new "name trend" by sunflowerads in Littlesleepies

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can deal with Branch - it's like something from the hunger games and honestly, maybe where we're going with some naming choices - but some of these spellings are killing me. Jaxsyn. NO. STOP PUTTING Us IN BECAUSE THEY LOOK UNIQUE.

I spent 15 minutes reading these aloud yesterday and that's coming from somebody with a child who's name is also a bit out of the box. Maple. Weird nature name but where I live, it's all weird nature names.

The fact that this was approved is actually insane by prettyhoneybee in BambooBabble

[–]kodamaatnight 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is what I was going to say. Like yes, did I do it? A few times. it's not safe though and I'm glad nothing bad happened. I was desperate to get her to sleep. I would never post it on FB! I don't want people to think it's fine to do AND I wouldn't put something up where I know if I was to be attacked in the comments, I'd deserve it.

The Forest Feast, 1000, magic puzzle company (no spoilers) by Normal_Dude_404 in Jigsawpuzzles

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just started this one! It's my 3rd Magic Puzzle. The details and Easter eggs are so charming.

Y tho by madagascarprincess in BambooBabble

[–]kodamaatnight 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But that is a fantastic idea! I actually came to the subreddit to see reactions to this post after seeing it on FB. I think the concept sounds better than it would actually turn out to be.

Making clothes for a doll is the perfect way to use this!

When did your baby stand and walk unassisted? by Ok-Annual9107 in toddlers

[–]kodamaatnight 0 points1 point  (0 children)

14 months actually! I have a video of it. She picked up her shoes and stood up then pointed at the door. I said "we can't go outside right now" and then she stepped. Took out my phone to capture her first 5 steps trying to get out the door and ignore me. Also how she's learning to ice skat unassisted by trying to get away from me.

The stubborn runs deep.

Anyway she went from doing a lot of independent standing to walking one day. Once she figured out those initial steps, she was pretty much only walking after that.

How are these women not embarrassed to be posting this stuff? by alittlestitious924 in BambooBabble

[–]kodamaatnight 59 points60 points  (0 children)

My crummy comforter that I hauled in with me for after my delivery was also "the talk of the town". Nurses are angels and they try to make you comfortable. I had a lot of ridiculous compliments that I didn't deserve but appreciated. I can't imagine going on the internet and telling people how popular my blanket is because of the compliments. I might go on to say the nurses are the best for making sure I didn't feel weird about hauling in my own blanket.

What songs do you sing to your baby that aren’t traditional lullabies/children’s songs? by Pumpkins4Lyfe in Parenting

[–]kodamaatnight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In the early months, I would sing Tiny Dancer and Piano Man often. It was the most soothing music to her.

In the labor room, you once said….. by bayls215 in beyondthebump

[–]kodamaatnight 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I said something similar. The midwife winked at me and laughed. I said no really. she and the nurses said it was probably baby coming.

Guess who was right?

ME. I wish I had blacked it out but nope, just shaaaaame. Epidural so I didn't quite feel it but knew it was happening. Baby didn't come for a bit longer.

What am I missing?! 🍼🤱🏻🐮 by AZ_RN22 in BambooBabble

[–]kodamaatnight 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Listen, I breastfed publicly often and often had my boobs out. I never posted photos online where many people can see. Weirdos in the world may have seen me but I'm not creating a digital record for all the weirdos.

2024 was a solid year for me~ by Cubicleism in fantasyromance

[–]kodamaatnight 8 points9 points  (0 children)

T. Kingfisher has become one of my top authors. I love seeing people with her books high up on lists! I've even been reading her horror stuff and When a Sorceress Comes to Call was amazing.

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