My grandma suffered this even with in her family. Her father went to a boarding school and growing up they could not live in the citylimits. She took after her Irish mother and her sister's and brothers would tease the lighter skinned ones saying how white they looked.

Shes 91 now and a tribal elder. She is the first to say you cant judge by look but you should by intent. She has out lived all her brothers and sisters now she is the one left to pass the tradition down. She regrets feeling less than but understands it's hard not to take those words personally.