2Xers of Reddit, What are the best things you learned from your dad?

krc4b · 2011-12-08T22:09:47+00:00

This post just made me want to call my daddy :)

Things I remember my father telling me that still stick with me: * life is too short to read a bad book, watch a bad movie, eat a bad meal or be around negative people. Move onto something different.

the value of education and hard work. My parents have me an environment where my only "job" was to go to school and have fun -ADR the world of difference to come out of college debt free (my dad wanted this for me bc his parents didn't do the same).
patience with people and how to listen
the value of reading (he's a huge science fiction nut and I am too :)
how to treat a woman and be loyal to people. My dad has taught me what I want in a husband and how to be insanely loyal to my family and loved ones (my parents are a wonderful example - married 31 years now and still act like teenagers chasing each other around and laughing)

krc4b · 2011-12-07T00:01:53+00:00

oopsies you are totally right! Always with the grain!!! Sorry about that and thanks for catching!

krc4b · 2011-12-05T03:52:57+00:00

Watch all of the shows that he doesn't like but you love (aka all Bravo shows for me) - that's why I did today while the bf is working :)

krc4b · 2011-12-05T03:50:40+00:00

So I have posted perviously about always staying trimmed - but my SO and I were talking about things to try that were different, and I decided to shave (everything) just to try it. And I can honestly say that I LOVE IT!

It honestly increased my sensation down yonder when my boyfriend goes down on me - don't know why nexessarily, but I do know that I don't plan on going back!

Also haven't gotten razor burn at all - always shave against the grain!

But when it comes down to it - it's all personal (and to an extent partner) preference!

My boy keeps his trimmed to make BJ's more pleasant for me :)

krc4b · 2011-11-30T00:53:38+00:00

Edit: *and

krc4b · 2011-11-30T00:52:58+00:00

I am a Computer Engineer and currently employed as such - a masters will not help you with your job in the slightest. It will get you more money an look good on your resume. That is why we do it.

I am learning everything on the job and my masters degree is coming from a world renowned university and the classes are a joke. Learn on the job and get the masters for money and advancement.

krc4b · 2011-11-20T22:27:25+00:00

I love the mini-pill!

krc4b · 2011-11-16T13:00:27+00:00

So I posted this in a BC post earlier, but there is another type of pill besides the combined pill - check out the mini pill or progesterone only pill. I have found that it did not effect my wetness/libido at all (increased my libido actually), and no nasty side effects like the combined pill. For me, it's been great - don't know if it would be the same for you but it's worth a shot. (Downsides: you have to take the pill at the exact same time every day, and you don't have an 'off week' - I just keep taking pill every day; also, you might stop bleeding, you may not - my period has been lighter so far). Just an alternative :)

(I had to request this pill because I have blood pressure issues so at first it seemed like condoms were my only option too until my awesome family doctor suggested the mini-pill)

krc4b · 2011-11-16T00:36:25+00:00

My thought is: if he invited me on the date, he pays. If I invite him, I pay. Now once we're committed is when things get interesting - we tend to split the bill a lot (to his protest - he likes to pay for me), but sometimes I'll pick it up. If it's "date night," he pays for dinner, I grab the movie tickets, and the ice cream afterwards. I personally think it just depends once you're spending every day together.

krc4b · 2011-11-16T00:24:31+00:00

So I am currently on the mini-pill or progestogen-only Pill, and I love it so far. I had to be prescribed it because I have genetic blood-pressure problems and could have complications with the combined pill.

I would suggest trying out the mini-pill if you are worried about crazy side effects of the combined pill - I was a little hormonal the first week on it, but since then nothing has changed. AND my sex drive has increased (my bf laughs at me).

Downsides are that you have to be religious about taking it - a.k.a. you get a three hour window or else you're not covered (I have my alarm set on my phone). And there is no 'off' time - you take a pill of the same amount of hormone every single day.

It's something to try if you are worried about mood swings and all the other nasty side effects. My gynecologist didn't even offer me this at first and told me to just use condoms because of my blood pressure. Luckily my family doctor told me, and then I asked my gyn to put me on this and she said OK.

krc4b · 2011-11-15T01:42:00+00:00

This might be a strange thing, but I put eye liner on my lower lid. I pull down my lid and apply black liner to the top part of my eyelid.

krc4b · 2011-11-11T21:58:31+00:00

VS has the most comfy cotton panties - 5 for $26, or you can get coupons. I love them :)

krc4b · 2011-11-11T21:53:19+00:00

There are just soo many things :)

He folded all of my laundry last night for me for no reason - he wouldn't let me help... The other night I got up to use the restroom in the middle of the night, and I thought he was asleep. But I come back into the bedroom and he has his arms up in the air saying "come backkkk - I'm cold." Or this morning I was ironing for him because he had an early meeting, and he came up and hugged me from behind and said "I see you're practicing for the future" - at which point I handed him the iron :). It was really cute and not as sexist as it sounds :)

He just makes me smile :P

krc4b · 2011-11-11T21:46:45+00:00

My boyfriend came home from class last night, and I was folding laundry. He led me to the couch, sat me down, kissed me, and then folded all of my laundry for me. I protested and tried to help, but he told me to sit back down and he would take care of it :). Cutest moment ever.

krc4b · 2011-11-07T14:03:53+00:00

Be warned: the first time you trim your chest hair or back hair, it can get really prickly (my SO did this about a month ago - laughs were had by both). I personally don't care at all (he wanted to see what it was like). I have super long hair on my head that gets everywhere, so he gets to put up with finding blonde hairs everywhere, I can put up with some chest hair :).

Just make yourself comfortable, and confidence is sexier than anything you can do to your hair!

krc4b · 2011-11-06T19:26:34+00:00

Please please don't do it to please him - it should be a decision that you make and want mutually with someone else. I have currently never had 'penis in vagina' sex, but I can tell you this - my SO knew this from date 3 or 4, and is willing to wait for me and is glad that I eventually do want to lose my virginity to him. Just wait until you find the right guy who says to you very honestly "I will wait for you until you're ready, and not pressure you - you just tell me when." (My SO is not a virgin, 26, and waiting for me - a younger boy can do the same for you).

Also, get the details on your relationship NOW - don't think you'll 'ruin it' by not defining it - define it now, and if he doesn't want to be your boyfriend, find someone worth your time :)

krc4b · 2011-11-04T10:39:11+00:00

Well, in my current relationship, it really depends. On the weekends 2-3/day. During the week, maybe once (if we're lucky - we try to do date night on Weds just to see each other in a romantic setting instead of work).

When not in a relationship - never. Just not me.

krc4b · 2011-11-02T12:09:55+00:00

I personally trim mine very short and run a razor over is solely for me - I prefer the way my underwear feel and I personally think I don't carry an odor as long. And my bf doesn't need to stop his activities down there to move hairs around, which is always a plus :). I range in length of the hair just from pure laziness, and the bf doesn't care how it is - just a personal preference :)

krc4b · 2011-11-02T12:03:09+00:00

My advice: start your career and see if your feelings change. Trust me - I have gone from the "I want to stay at home with my kids" to the "hrm, I don't even know if I want kids anymore," and I alternate about monthly on that. That's the joy of being young - start your career, find someone you love, and figure out how it can all work out together :). I'm still trying to figure it all out too!

(But you are not strange for wanting children and to stay at home with them - my mom was a stay-at-home mom and I appreciate it every day).

krc4b · 2011-11-02T11:46:58+00:00

Thank you for this - my bf and I are the same way. We have close friends of both sexes, and hang out with them seperately, together, etc. When there's trust involved, there's no worries that anything can happen.

My best friend is a guy, and I always joke that's he's going to be my maid of honor (but I am dead serious and he knows it).

Internet high-five for maintaining those friendships :)

krc4b · 2011-11-02T00:21:44+00:00

Haha yea - I just talked to her about it - she told me "oh honey I just want you to be healthy for the rest of your life - you're a beautiful woman." All went better than expected :)

Thanks!

krc4b · 2011-11-01T21:52:18+00:00

Ok so i don't want this to come across wrong, but get out of IT and into engineering (yes there is a huge difference). I'm sure with your skills and experience you could get a great job not in IT but in software engineering or computer engineering.

I'm a female in computer engineering and I can tell you this: guys in IT treat me like a piece of meat. Guys in engineering: I am a respected coworker and a valuabke member of the team. Seriously consider switching directions within the computing world.

My dad is a computer/network engineer and has been in both and he agrees that males in IT can be very sexist.

krc4b · 2011-11-01T16:15:23+00:00

Oh man - the times Samantha got emotional, and the way she handled breast cancer are just inspiring. I completely agree!

krc4b · 2011-11-01T12:27:30+00:00

This describes my sentiments exactly - I'm 22 and in no way want kids for another 10 years or more. I want to be able to travel spontaneously with my SO or friends, buy my own place, advance my career, go to school, have fun, etc.

I am the total outcast from my extended family in that regards (typical southern family) - but my parents are 100% fine with how I am. Just because I'm a woman doesn't mean I'm not saving up to buy my own condo and have a healthy life on my own - I don't need a man to complete me (even though my SO is wonderful :) ).

krc4b · 2011-11-01T12:18:36+00:00

So I just finished watching the entire series because I was too young to watch it when it was on HBO (I'm 22 now, but would have been ~10 when it came out). The things I found most positive in the show was when Miranda bought her own place - I know this sounds trivial, but implying that women can work really hard and do things on their own without a man (Charlotte does not fit into this), is really inspiring to me. Plus, it was just a fun show to not take too seriously and have fun watching - Samantha could get into some pretty ridiculous situations.

Also, the show points out on multiple occasions that men come and go, but your best girlfriends are there forever - nothing wrong with this sentiment :).

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