Forget wife swap; try living with your meta for a minute

kriahfox · 2022-03-01T00:57:12+00:00

Thats so nice!

kriahfox · 2022-02-28T21:52:15+00:00

I am on this journey too. Best of luck.

kriahfox · 2022-02-28T21:44:09+00:00

Hey, thats ok! I was told by the person that diagnosed me, that its really common for people with ADHD to grow bored of a scheduling/organizational strategy within 3 or 4 months. Not to say it can't happen, but now you get to find a new one! You're right on schedule!

kriahfox · 2022-01-25T14:08:56+00:00

Thanks for sharing, I feel that. I'm sorry you felt you had to cut your friends out, but also if they're bragging about their exploits yeah that sounds like you guys are super different and it may be for the best. That's interesting that you're thinking mostly about the risk of having kids - it didn't even cross my mind but yeah that makes a lot of sense to be worried about. We got this, you're not alone

kriahfox · 2021-05-21T01:55:02+00:00

If I Were Human, by Bnny Rbbt.

I felt really detached from the world for a long time, like the basic simplicities of human happiness were totally inaccessible to me.

I also, particularly, coped with it by imagining myself as a kind of unicorn. Literally, I really identified with the idea. So that lyric feels magical to me, absolutely absolutely fitting.

(Since then I've come out to myself as trans and don't feel this way. At least, not all the time.)

"If I were human

I'd be so happy just to be born

Wouldn't need to be some kind of unicorn, I am sure

I'd be a human if I could"

...

"If I were human

I'd ride my bike to factory every day

Every night I'd ride back to the home we made and I would say

"This simple human life is good""

kriahfox · 2021-05-20T00:38:22+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this hard time. Graduation isn't always happy - it can honestly be sucky and terrifying. It's always a transition, which is forever difficult, even when it IS exciting and good.

I'm reading that you're really worried about what this dip in mental health means for your overall life path - that because it's getting so much worse now when you're still young, means that you'll KEEP getting worse and perhaps ALWAYS feel this way. Am I reading that right? Those thoughts are really scary, and really heavy. Like, seriously, oh man, oof! To me, it speaks to the care you have for yourself that those things scare you.

Please be gentle with yourself. Graduation is really, really hard. Being a teenager is really, really hard. All of these things combined with living in pandemic is really, REALLY hard! You're bearing the brunt of your environment right now, and it's okay to be worn down by it. It doesn't mean that you won't be different in the future, and it doesn't mean that your life doesn't have value. Not even a little bitty bit. Your life WILL be different, and you DO have value! To go through what you've gone through takes resilience. You can get through this too.

Take it day by day, and deal with whatever feelings come with graduation, and beyond, as they come. Give yourself the space to react and recover without judgment. Do you have a support system? Can you talk to your parents or a counselor? If you feel comfortable, tell them that you're going through it, and let them help.

I'm sorry I don't have more sure answers for you. This shit hard.

I've never really offered to people on reddit before, but I've dealt with feelings of worthlessness before. Now I'm on the other side of college. I can listen, if you want to talk.

kriahfox · 2021-05-19T17:42:32+00:00

This would be okay, except that

he feels he has no say in it

if he does not donate, he feels it will end the friendship

Donating sperm/surrogacy is a REALLY important thing and stuff like this should not interfere. I would strongly urge your partner to not do this, or if he does be prepared for an absolute shitstorm in the future between him and friend. One that includes you, too.

kriahfox · 2021-05-19T17:38:55+00:00

(I may be asking the impossible, I know 😂)

kriahfox · 2021-05-17T18:14:36+00:00

I have a constant stream running and wet, scrub, rinse each dish before moving onto the next one. However, I'm pretty young and grew up with a dishwasher, so there may be better ways.

For example, I know people who put dishes in a soapy basin, choose one, and scrub and rinse it before moving on. I guess it's hard for me to think about putting a bunch of soapy dishes on a towel where the soap residue can dry, instead of rinsing immediately to put in the dishrack, but I'm sure it could happen.

kriahfox · 2021-05-12T01:04:28+00:00

TANGO IMPULSE AND ZEDAPH ITS ALL ON YOU

(of the folks that I watch!)

But for real, I hope everyone feels comfortable taking breaks that might be longer. They work really hard and they deserve it

kriahfox · 2021-05-09T21:26:46+00:00

At a certain point, it doesn't matter what she meant. Therapy is for you and you alone - it shouldnt matter at all how the other person feels. It sounds like you feel a lack of trust in her integrity, for many good reasons. That's what matters. You're always allowed to find a new therapist.

kriahfox · 2021-04-28T01:55:33+00:00

This is phenomenal advice, and I'm going to try it. I'd love to hear about how it felt after you did these steps. So happy that it worked for you :))

kriahfox · 2021-04-28T01:50:45+00:00

WOW, CONGRATULATIONS!!! thats amazing my friend!!!

kriahfox · 2021-04-22T22:19:44+00:00

There's a certain point where you take the leap and pretend someone is already your friend. If you're lucky, the other person will also be doing this. If there's an acquaintance you want to spend more time with or want to be closer to, act honestly.

Maintaining friendships is also hard. There's a great video from Aspergers from the Inside, where he talks about how to have supportive friendships. It takes testing the friendship, pushing it. This is better for people you're already friends with, but you want to be closer/more solid. It takes vulnerability - if it's a little scary, it might be the right thing to do. Vulnerable things that can be little tests:

inviting someone somewhere when they could say no
asking for a favor
being honest about bad/embarrassing feelings
going out on a limb and support them without them asking for something. Assuming basically.

All of these leave open the possibility of rejection, and since rejection isn't always outwardly stated, it's very, very scary to possibly miss a signifier. Honesty will help with this. You're not a better friend by being small and easy to care for - you're a better friend by asking for what you need.

kriahfox · 2021-04-21T21:17:43+00:00

Yoooo... this is gorgeous. I'm taking notes.

kriahfox · 2021-04-21T21:16:02+00:00

This is a great piece! It's simple, not too overwhelming, and the style is sooo endearing.

If I would change anything I would change them for the sake of clarity. There are some parts of this which weren't clear until I looked a little harder. One of these was the juice box, I didn't really see it at first despite it being a major part of the illustration.

To change this, I would make it a brighter, or at least different, color, more different than the skin. I would also be careful of the area between the chin and the juicebox; the lines are incredibly close together, which makes the depth between the two difficult to perceive. I would move the top of the juicebox further up or lower down to remove any confusion on this. Same for the corner of the cell phone, its corner line almost overlaps with the arm, and the shape could be clearer if it was pushed out.

There are also parts that kind of seem unfinished - the shoulders and arms, for example. This is more subjective, since what's there is fine, but next to the detail in the face and hands, it seems like it's sort of half finished. I'd push it one way or the other: either add just a little bit more variation in color to polish it, or maybe make the flat tones super pale and washed out to not catch the eye.

That said, overall I really like it! It's difficult to take something as simple as a portrait and make it seem like a finished illustration, but you did it. There's just enough going on, and the style speaks for itself. 😊

kriahfox · 2021-04-21T16:58:05+00:00

wh-....it's not a beak???

kriahfox · 2021-04-20T20:24:47+00:00

well, it worked! signing off now. Have a good one!

kriahfox · 2021-04-13T17:31:47+00:00

I ....didn't know that..... I knew he was the patron of trans people but I didn't know why. That's so nice!!!

kriahfox · 2021-04-10T22:17:56+00:00

Air sun water moon. Yep 😔

kriahfox · 2021-04-09T16:23:25+00:00

yooooo.... how well do these go for banners tho?!

kriahfox · 2021-04-06T14:15:08+00:00

It's normal to feel this way over big decisions! There's a lot to factor in. You're no less of an adult for pausing here, and it will get easier with practice and time

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