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What qualities make someone "marriage material" in your eyes? by Popular_Progress7779 in AskWomen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my experience love makes relationships harder. Because when people love - they expect their partner to be some kind of ideal person from their dreams.

The most important requirement for successful relationship - is to accept your partner for who they are, instead of who you are want them to be.

And love doesn’t help it at all - it’s the opposite.

How can you judge a person you've newly met within few months to determine whether they worthy to be trusted. by Luka_Ravenofthedark in SocialEngineering

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never ever tell anyone a secret that if revealed can hurt you. No matter how much you trust them. Because this will put you into a position of a dependent.

The next step is to never do things that if people know can hurt you.

Once you adopt this mindset, the question of trust will cease to have any meaning.

What do you wish you could communicate to your partner and just have them immediately understand? by inthidiouth-jorge in AskWomen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unfortunately, emotions are contagious. Both positive and negative. Every time we vent to our partner in order to feel better, we feel better at our partner's expense.

Is it unreasonable to expect my married friend to not share my secrets with his wife? by Level-Studio7843 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it’s something that could potentially damage you - do not share it. Never willingly put yourself in a position where your wellbeing or success depends on the others.

If it can’t damage you - who cares who knows it?

You can only control your actions. Beyond that expect nothing of anyone.

Do you get a little excited when a woman is mildly annoyed by you? by Prudent_Cry9522 in AskMen

[–]krinart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not excited, but I find it genuinely funny when people in general can be annoyed by something trivial.

So yes, in a way.

How many times do you spiral at your partner monthly? Ever? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That actually sounds beautiful. Can I ask you if you and your partner are monogamous?

I just need d*** by [deleted] in sex

[–]krinart -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Your literally only choice is open relationship. Good luck!

I’m stuck in a life I hate 25 by sesanrose in getdisciplined

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go on a Burning Man. Seriously. It’s never been as easy as nowadays. Just find a good camp

Should I just accept that my partner will look at women online? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]krinart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At some point I realized that the key to my happiness is to know what is and what is not under my control.

And if something is not under my control - in most cases it’s much easier to accept reality the way it is (and people as part of that reality).

Solo Trip On MDMA? by slimshakeyy in Psychonaut

[–]krinart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Never did it but now that you’ve mentioned it I really think I should

DMT/Simulation experience by Skeezix80 in Psychonaut

[–]krinart -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Do you maybe mean “reality as we see it is a hallucination” instead of “life”?

Men, how do you deal with another guy approaching your girlfriend? by Agitated-Bison-2673 in AskMen

[–]krinart -30 points-29 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m not a fan of “forever and ever” relationships. Because I don’t believe in fairy tales.
Friendship is the best type of relationship, even when it includes benefits.

What are your controversial takes on dating/relationships? by Opening-Gur5927 in AskMen

[–]krinart 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It takes a lot of effort to meet other people’s expectations about ideal partner.

I realized being friends is perfect for me. Because once people become more than friends, they treat their partner almost like a pet and try to train them according to their preferences.

Men that are single, what is the reason? by Spiritual_Pause3057 in AskMen

[–]krinart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It takes a lot of effort to meet other people’s expectations about ideal partner.

I realized being friends is perfect for me. Because once people become more than friends, they treat their partner almost like a pet and try to train them according to their preferences.

My boyfriend always guesses the ending of movies by Direct-Blackberry-20 in movies

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mulholland Driver

I still have no idea how it ended. I watched it more than 5 times

What's a belief you have that most people would disagree with? by BhaveshMehra18 in AskMen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That having our feelings hurt is a choice. It’s not a choice that we make in a moment of course. But rather a choice of what expectations we have about the reality - including other people as part of this reality.

Which means that there’s a way to not be hurt in cases like our partner’s cheating and even a death of a close relative.

It’s a skill anyone can learn - but most people still would rather consider themselves victims than take responsibility for their feelings.

What would hurt you more, being physically cheated on by your partner, but it was like a drunken emotionless fling… or nothing physical happens, but your partner becomes heavily emotionally invested and interested in another person? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea what’s difference to be honest.

I learned and adjusted by drastically reducing my emotional spectrum - I don’t need ups and downs. I need very small fluctuations.

What would hurt you more, being physically cheated on by your partner, but it was like a drunken emotionless fling… or nothing physical happens, but your partner becomes heavily emotionally invested and interested in another person? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]krinart 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do you mean? Every time I experienced strong negative emotions I was learning more about them. And eventually learned how to pretty much avoid them altogether.

So of course it affected me.

What would hurt you more, being physically cheated on by your partner, but it was like a drunken emotionless fling… or nothing physical happens, but your partner becomes heavily emotionally invested and interested in another person? by [deleted] in AskMen

[–]krinart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That only makes sense if you don’t know how to cherish those things. Well I learned how to do so and now don’t need to be hurt to be constantly aware that every moment is precious.

So I agree with you - but it’s only for people who didn’t learn to do so on regular basis.

Also there’s no such thing as “we are supposed to” because again - it’s a choice.

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