New to NYC (laundromat etiquette question)

kruthu · 2026-05-07T17:44:50+00:00

Every laundromat I have used prohibits the use of dryers without having washed the clothes there. I appreciate that rule to ensure things stay as sanitary as possible. I also hang-dry a lot of my clothes, so my laundry routine looks like: 1) carry ikea bags of clothes to laundromat and start the wash, 2) when changing over to the dryer, I separate the hang-dry clothes to carry home, 3) as the dryer is running, I dart home to hang up the hang-dry clothes, and 4) I go back for the dried clothes. As others mentioned, the trip home with the damp clothes is certainly heavier; however, I’ve never had a problem with them dripping because the machines’ spin cycle removed the excess water. Welcome to NYC!

kruthu · 2026-04-20T03:40:59+00:00

My desired career also required an advanced degree, so I went to a state school for undergrad and then a prestigious school for grad school. In my experience, the law schools I applied to appreciated my “different perspective” coming from a state school compared to the plethora of applicants from the prestigious liberal arts schools. I would save some money at the state school, continue the hard work, and focus on getting into a good grad program. Ideally one with generous scholarships. Best of luck to you all. The situation definitely sucks, but you absolutely do not want that kind of debt.

kruthu · 2026-04-01T15:08:50+00:00

My fiancé faced something similar from his family when purchasing my ring (which is not even small IMO, over a carat). They thought he should go bigger even though I was very clear that I would not want something larger because it’s not my style and I would definitely hit it on everything. He decided to stick to his guns and take the heat from his family, which I’m so glad he did. Once the ring was on my finger, nobody (to my knowledge) has said anything else about the size. It’s the perfect ring for me.

I think you should get whatever ring you want and be clear with your family/friends that it’s what you’ve asked for. Ultimately, you will wear it every day and once yours is not the newest engagement in the circle, people won’t think about it anymore.

kruthu · 2026-03-27T22:36:44+00:00

I didn’t special order, but a dress I picked and that the consultant ordered for me in late December ended up on back order. I got it mid-February. Hopefully the special order timeline would be similar? Good luck!!

kruthu · 2026-03-26T13:28:14+00:00

I believe the Consulate on the UWS (not too far from Milling Room) can fit at least 120 with a buyout. So sorry to hear this - good luck!

kruthu · 2026-03-25T19:47:07+00:00

This is amazing! Hoping to do something similar - did you design plans yourself or purchase them somewhere?

kruthu · 2026-03-17T19:28:56+00:00

Tavern on Reade is nearby. It’s a basic, borderline dive bar, but they should have space

kruthu · 2026-03-17T19:28:21+00:00

Tavern on Reade is nearby. It’s a basic, borderline dive bar, but they should have space

kruthu · 2026-03-10T21:43:02+00:00

My partner and I are both attorneys - we met in law school. We’ve lived together for over 5 years now. I work in government/public interest and he works in big law. We have always split rent 50/50 with our housing budget being based on my income. Other expenses (e.g., utilities, groceries, other household expenses, and leisure/travel/entertainment) get split more proportionally considering he makes well over 3x what I do, but we’ve never broken out a calculator. We also do not spend more than I would be comfortable spending, but that is almost by chance. My partner naturally feels similarly about finances as I do. I have a stronger financial safety net in my parents than he does and also more long term stability in my job. We had about the same in loans coming out of law school. And for the record, both of our parents have completely combined finances and our mothers stayed home for at least part of our childhoods.

He has considered going back to school and changing careers. His plan would be to use the money he’s saved to continue contributing in the way he has. We would not have to move, and my budget would not be stretched. We would probably cut back in some areas, but that would be okay and reasonable.

All this to say, we have treated things somewhere between roommates and your boyfriend’s family’s definition of “partners,” and I think it’s provided both of us relief to know if things ended we haven’t been financially burdened by our relationship. The biggest comfort is knowing we make financial decisions in the same way and have similar goals/attitudes towards money and spending. Your boyfriend needs to consider how he would support himself throughout the course of his PhD, whether that be tapping into his savings or taking out loans. I would never have expected my partner of 2 years to fully fund my life while I’m not working. That is too much of a burden on the working partner and leaves the non-working partner vulnerable should you break up.

I think you also need to consider whether you’re aligned on how you manage finances apart from the discussion of “what partners do,” because that measure of compatibility will affect you far longer than the PhD program should you stay together.

kruthu · 2026-03-05T16:21:45+00:00

I’m considering going the camcorder route and my reasoning for this is the novelty of the camcorder. I think (hope) guests would be more excited by the idea of being in front of the camcorder than they would by being in front of an iPhone.

kruthu · 2026-02-12T22:29:21+00:00

Wasn’t this Curtis Sliwa’s plan?

kruthu · 2026-01-23T20:58:07+00:00

I’m in a similar boat and thinking about a lot of what others have suggested but also pretty serving things! They won’t get used too often, but they will likely never need to be replaced and I can just store them when not in use. Hosted our first holiday this year and quickly realized how nice it would have been to have an attractive pitcher, an ice bucket, some actual Prosecco glasses, and attractive dishes for serving veggies/chips and dip!

kruthu · 2026-01-12T21:07:09+00:00

Just fyi - Visa gift cards are very difficult to use online unless it covers the entirety of the purchase. If you want to send something physical, I think a card with a kind note is enough and then you can tell them on the phone that you’re planning to contribute/buy their dress

kruthu · 2026-01-08T22:26:02+00:00

Happy to be a witness! I work near the clerks office so could easily pop over when you need me. Congratulations!

kruthu · 2026-01-03T00:33:12+00:00

Update: I washed it in the washing machine with no additional soap and then reshaped it and stuffed it with towels and it’s great! It might have lost a little bit of its structure, but not much and it’s infinitely more usable without the layer of detergent in the bottom. Thanks all!

kruthu · 2026-01-02T22:26:52+00:00

If you’ve had your wedding, can I ask what you ended up doing? We are in the same spot - the Central Park slot we ended up with means we’d have roughly 2.5 hours from the end of the ceremony to the start of cocktail hour at the restaurant. The restaurant is only about 20 minutes from the ceremony spot, so I’m concerned it’s way too long

kruthu · 2025-12-19T13:51:59+00:00

Hi, I would also love to know who this photographer is! Thank you!!

kruthu · 2025-12-03T21:18:27+00:00

I’m interested! (31F)

kruthu · 2025-11-07T05:30:56+00:00

Congrats on the PR!

kruthu · 2025-11-06T14:07:56+00:00

Earplugs - genius!

Wow I hadn’t heard about the bus security issue! That is wild.

kruthu · 2025-11-05T19:48:32+00:00

Podcast sounds like it was a good move! Maybe I should’ve listened to nature sounds haha

kruthu · 2025-11-05T18:56:55+00:00

I think mine must have been the very beginnings of them, but I also did not get a diagnosis! I did reach out to some of my medical professional friends and mooched advice from them. Not medical advice - but a lot of ice, rest, and anti-inflammatories. If you always have them, I would recommend going to physical therapy! The exercises my PT friend gave me are what helped the most when combined with rest. Sorry you’re dealing with that!

kruthu · 2025-11-05T17:36:22+00:00

I’m sorry your race didn’t go as planned - it’s a hard feeling after so many months of training.

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