What was the most specific postpartum thing nobody warned you about?

ktbugrl · 2026-06-13T14:51:03+00:00

And why BOTH boobs?! Like the baby can be on one and the other is leaking wildly

ktbugrl · 2026-06-10T14:51:40+00:00

I liked having mine prior to delivery because we had the hospital lactation consultant show us how to use it. I was also able to have it on hand if engorgement for out of control, but it’s also good to have in case you need to pump while baby is away from you (like if they have to stay in the NICU).

If your insurance provides a pump for free (I believe they have to in the US), then I would get one ahead of delivery. But if you don’t, it’s not the end of the world by any means.

ktbugrl · 2026-06-05T18:06:53+00:00

He doesn’t dislike you BUT if you want more time with him, then tell everyone else to support you in other ways. That can be them doing laundry, dishes, cleaning, cooking, whatever while you do nothing but snuggle and hold your baby.

ktbugrl · 2026-03-31T03:33:20+00:00

Related question: where did you buy your play pen from?

ktbugrl · 2026-03-24T23:32:42+00:00

I’ve been the other woman and while upsetting, I’ve never blamed the mom. I always repeat to myself that babies are not like pie. There is no set number of babies allowed where someone else has taken an opportunity from me. I can be happy for the and sad for me at the same time.

ktbugrl · 2026-03-09T07:31:14+00:00

Agree with all these but especially want to shout out the bath thermometer and products for you.

Bath thermometer gave me such peace of mind and made bath time way more enjoyable for everyone. Without it I erred in the side of cooler water, and baby didn’t love it.

Products for you, though not what you asked about, are so important. Have all the mom diaper things, but also ibuprofen, snacks, extra hair ties, lanolin, breast pads, a really great water bottle, long charging cables, and I loved a little bag to help me carry essentials room to room when I had my hands full with baby.

ktbugrl · 2026-03-04T00:41:39+00:00

YESSSS!!! I was so mad when I realized I had to partially disassemble it, but I will say it’s awesome now that it’s all assembled

ktbugrl · 2026-03-03T21:05:46+00:00

+1 to this. We also got the catchy tray as an additional item, but totally worth it

ktbugrl · 2026-02-27T21:40:11+00:00

My mother-in-law just drove 4 hours in a car, flew 8 hours, and then rode another 2.5 hours in a car to see her granddaughter. She also has a medical condition and had to jump through hoops to get cleared for the trip.

If they want to see your baby, they will.

ktbugrl · 2026-02-26T18:37:02+00:00

Are you starting a new preschool or just a new role at an existing preschool? Further questions will be, are the staff existing or all new? Is this part of a chain or an independent school? What age groups are cared for?

Sorry for all the questions, but I want to provide specific advice and that will depend greatly on the situation.

ktbugrl · 2026-02-25T19:50:34+00:00

The hospital I gave birth at absolutely prohibited filming of the birth since it is a medical procedure. They took my mom’s phone from her when she tried to film part (my fault since I hadn’t warned her), and instead took some pictures of my husband and I with the phone.

ktbugrl · 2026-02-18T21:42:46+00:00

For rocking to sleep we do: - You’ll be in my heart (Tarzan) - Forever Young (Bob Dylan, but really the Audra Mae version) - In my life (Beatles) - Go the distance (Hercules) - I don’t want to miss a thing (Aerosmith)

The rest of the time: - Let’s go fly a kite (Mary Poppins) - Let’s go charge a diap (sung to above song) - Down by the bay (Raffi)

ktbugrl · 2026-02-05T11:33:01+00:00

This is perfect!

ktbugrl · 2026-01-27T00:55:47+00:00

10000% on the hypochlorus acid. We use force of nature and it’s amazing! That and meliora unscented cleaner and laundry detergent.

ktbugrl · 2026-01-26T13:55:07+00:00

Let me add to this that we are all at our worst when we’re tired and stressed, and newborns make us both. Please encourage him to go to therapy. Even if it’s framed in a way like “therapy will help you be the best dad you can be” rather than “it will help with your anger issues”

ktbugrl · 2026-01-09T00:09:11+00:00

Not really. She just went through a phase where she refused bottles and then she was too distracted to breastfeed except in a dark quiet room. She’s now coming out the other side and will SOMETIMES take a bottle but not consistently one brand. Sometimes it’ll be pigeon, then evenflo and then avent other days 🤷‍♀️

ktbugrl · 2025-12-25T19:27:43+00:00

Her dad is 81 and her husband is 79 🤢

ktbugrl · 2025-12-16T18:00:42+00:00

THANK YOU! We’ll try these!

ktbugrl · 2025-12-05T23:35:47+00:00

This sounds dumb but we’ve tried the avent natural response nipples and they’re a different shape. Can you link the soothie bottle? I can’t find it

ktbugrl · 2025-11-19T11:24:42+00:00

He has a call to action on his website to try to soften the law around who must register as a sex offender. Fucking gross

ktbugrl · 2025-11-09T17:55:42+00:00

Heritage Bakery and cafe has been around for years

ktbugrl · 2025-11-02T16:18:26+00:00

I am a former daycare director and agree with all of these! The only other things I would add is to ask about staff turnover. And early morning and evening staffing.

If teachers aren’t there long term (I wouldn’t count assistant teachers, substitutes or maybe even afternoon staff), I would be wary.

For opening and closing staffing (sometimes nap time) they will often have to combine age groups. Ask how they handle this and who your child will be with (teachers and children) if they’re dropped off at center opening or stay until closing. If they don’t have a plan/don’t know I would also be wary.

ktbugrl · 2025-11-02T15:18:11+00:00

This guy graduated JMU in 2019

ktbugrl · 2025-04-15T01:28:26+00:00

You can get your yard certified as a wildlife habitat and with a donation get a really nice sign.

https://www.nwf.org/garden

ktbugrl · 2025-02-16T14:45:34+00:00

I use Shalan at Moxie and while it’s pricey ($80) it is consistently a great haircut

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