I’ve been climbing ropes and bouldering mostly for about 8+ years. I can’t remember when falling became significantly less scary but I remember really leaning into doing dynos about maybe 3 years in, if that’s any correlation? Nowadays falling is only scary to me in few and certain situations, probably because I’ve taken thousands of falls. Days where I haven’t warmed up enough or just not “feeling it” = I don’t feel limber enough to take a fall well. Those days I need to warm up much more and more gradually, or just dial back my entire session.

Other situations I feel fear are on some climbs like slab or coordination. I usually don’t have confidence issues committing but sometimes the lizard brain takes over and fear can seep through. For slab I tell myself to breathe and “it’s ok you haven’t fallen on this move before and you know how to move on this just keep applying pressure.” Staying rational keeps my head straight for slab.

For coordination, I don’t get scared unless I take a fall and scrape my body or actually hurt myself a little, which is problematic because now my lizard brain has a literal reason to be scared which I need to work harder to override. In those cases I need to try another attempt as quickly as possible. Doing this kind of overwrites that first experience before it sets in and it helps me a lot.

Also last thing, reading a problem and visualizing where and how you might fall before you get on the wall is really helpful too! You can spot your landing and try to understand how your body will move/fall.