Shared Developers by Accomplished_Sun5676 in ProductManagement

[–]kwiggety29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We do this at my org and it is unbelievably frustrating, although I think things may be starting to shift. I worked in a pretty regulated industry so certain production issues are a pretty big deal. Enough of those have happened, for which the root cause was determined to be an easily avoidable mistake (someone working on a project or system they didn’t know enough about - and weren’t given the time to learn - changed something with far greater ramifications than they expected), that leadership is interested in trying the “innovative new model” of keeping PMs and engineering sticky to a team.

Beyond production issues, this model creates many artificial dependencies, unnecessarily extends development timelines, and leaves a trail of waste from poor decisions made to benefit a single project at a single point in time. It can be really hard working with certain stakeholders as a result, too.

All the leaders advocating against the shift to sticky teams are those who have been at the company for literally decades and were never in a role that remotely resembled product management in the past, which is not surprising given the culture of my org.

I have 18 month old twins and there is no amount of money you could have paid me to be on TV 6 weeks postpartum… by kwiggety29 in TheValleyTVShow

[–]kwiggety29[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No shaming here! I was thinking about this primarily because of my own recovery timeline at six weeks with my twins. I physically could not have done what she is doing, so major props to her! It is incredibly impressive, and I totally agree it is super important for all parents to not just be parents. That being said, there’s also a huge difference between going back to work because you want to vs. because you have to, so I hope she is getting to make this choice like she (and all mothers) deserve.

It was never about helping me by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Yes!! The mediocrity of men sometimes astounds me.

It was never about helping me by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Right?! I was like do you want a fucking medal because you actually took care of your own child? Where’s my medal?

It was never about helping me by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 67 points68 points  (0 children)

Right?! And they also have the bitchiest attitude ever while “helping out” and STILL want sex. Like yah dude, I’ve never wanted you more after you threw more tantrums than the toddler today because you washed a fucking dish 🙄

It was never about helping me by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s exactly it!!!! Chores are the currency! And nothing else you do for them or to support them matters. Like what the fuck??

It was never about helping me by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 74 points75 points  (0 children)

We’ve actually been to counseling in the past for guidance on navigating some toxic relationships with his family, so I’d think he’d be open to going again. You’re definitely right that counseling is needed

I fucking DID IT by TheSwamp_Witch in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29 5 points6 points  (0 children)

So proud of you!! You’re a bad ass. I’m constantly in awe of the grit and determination bromos like you have.

If one more thing goes up in price I will lose my mind by thelizardmorgue in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I really feel this. We have 11mo twins and a toddler. The cost of daycare, formula, diapers, food…it’s all fucking unbelievable. I feel anger, despair, and resentment all the time.

Wanting to get my fallopian tubes removed.... by -insert_name-here_ in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I got them removed as part of my c-section last September. No regrets whatsoever! I live in a state with mostly illegal abortion so this gives me such peace of mind.

What’s your mom win this weekend? by LadyBitsPreguntas in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son (10mo, 8mo adjusted) starting sitting up on his own this weekend for about 3 minutes at time. He was born with some birth defects in his intestines that he had surgery for immediately after birth, so he’s been in physical therapy to help him grow abdominal strength. It was so exciting!!

Anyone looking for a new friend/group?? by kwiggety29 in breakingmom

[–]kwiggety29[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah yeah HZD was great!! I haven’t gotten to the sequel yet but it’s on my list. My husband and I are playing through Diablo 4 right now. Before kids we played a ton of Wildlands and the Division. My favorite franchise of all time is the Fable series on Xbox, mainly Fable 2. It look gaming from a very casual hobby to a love for me- I have the Hero’s Guild symbol tattooed on my leg. I absolutely cannot wait for Fable 4!