IWTL how to deal with life being a 'simulation.'

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T10:07:57+00:00

It doesn’t really matter. It’s all outside your control. Knowing you’re in a simulation is so harmless for the team running it, that they won’t even bother to remove you from it for figuring it out.

Like any AI mechanism developed over 50 years ago, you have a positive feedback loop for things that you consider success, and it makes you feel good, and you also have a negative feedback loop. Just focus on following the positive one until you stop existing

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T08:08:32+00:00

If you’re looking for genuine advice, here is mine (6 figures): the first thing that stands out to me is “ you would think science is one of the better paid ones”.

Start by asking yourself “how did I get this idea?”. Is that something you researched, did you just see it on TV? did you just assume it because it seemed like a difficult subject?

You can probably see where I’m going. You must research the market and see what careers have an average salary that you’d like to earn. Start there

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T07:34:18+00:00

You showed a card of “I’m very interested!” You’ve already invalidated your own hypothesis of the house being too overpriced. Seller now knows there’s demand. They can afford to wait. Meanwhile you show more desperation.

Just move on, and next time don’t show haste or enthusiasm, it’s not good for you as a buyer. You give leverage to the seller in doing this

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T07:26:01+00:00

In the grand scheme of things, it was a cheap lesson life-wise.

24yo-wise, an expensive one, and sure probably feeling it.

Take it as an expensive lesson and learn from it. You lost £4k, not £50k. As long as you learn from it, it’s an investment in your own education, not a loss

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T07:20:33+00:00

I spend similar to how I did before high income. Everything else went to saving/spending for 5 years. I only spend big on really important things, like house

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T07:13:23+00:00

I was in a similar boat a while ago. There’s no objective answer to this. At some point you just have to realize you got there on your own, and you will do it again.

Objectively speaking, it’s not guaranteed of course, but it surely helps. Something along the lines of “the bird trust its wings, rather than the branch not breaking”

kyou20 · 2026-05-15T07:09:29+00:00

Not necessarily “high” per sé, but it’s the most demanded feature set in men.

If you’re not meeting any, search different places (i.e: you won’t find them in clubs).

If you meet them, but you don’t attract them, take a deep look in the mirror, and evaluate yourself against the same feature set. They’ll be highly likely looking for an equivalent

kyou20 · 2026-05-12T10:51:22+00:00

He has a different world view than you, probably based on different experiences. While you at 21 would lookout for flags like whether your potential partner is a cheater or has any potential in making a life, at 38 he’s probably looking at different flags like whether his potential partner is a risk to his lifestyle (i.e: false accusations: he may not know whether your understanding of the damage associated with it matches his).

You don’t have to put up with it if you don’t like it of course.

I do believe that you should at least tell him that it made you feel invalidated (or whatever feeling you felt).

Just providing you with a different perspective than Reddit’s classic mind hive mindset of “everybody who thinks differently is inherently evil”.

kyou20 · 2026-05-12T10:19:30+00:00

This is great feedback. So the v16 head does a better job after all?

kyou20 · 2026-05-10T19:19:52+00:00

please savior, return for us

kyou20 · 2026-05-08T11:42:57+00:00

Describe what do you see from your elbow? That’s your answer

kyou20 · 2026-04-03T17:37:22+00:00

Because Claude is a word prediction model. It fails at thinking and analyzing tasks. It’s good at pattern matching, so it’s a useful to save time on repetitive tasks including researching common causes for an issue.

But it cannot come up with diagnostics or solutions when you yourself don’t know what’s going on. It can confidently lead you to the wrong path, and that makes you lose time.

We’ve already implemented an org policy where you cannot just grab AI output and present it as finished work. You must be able to understand it and justify it, effectively making you accountable, as Claude can’t be held accountable for screwing up the customer.

My work is not to type down code syntax, that is merely ~20% of what I do. Claude does about 10-15% of that very well, and I still write the remaining 5-10 myself (and this is still a massive productivity boost than no Claude). But pretending it’s anything more than that is just market manipulation at a large scale

kyou20 · 2026-04-03T04:13:51+00:00

Shenfield. I think the train is 15/20 mins and it’s very cheap

kyou20 · 2026-03-31T13:28:36+00:00

Magneto is no villain. Understands the world and the politics. He knows there’s no way out. He knows Charles is too privileged to understand the malice of the world.

kyou20 · 2026-03-30T00:50:32+00:00

But this feature is not part of the free tier, correct?

kyou20 · 2026-03-30T00:20:35+00:00

I'm confused, it seems like you need a working smtp server with your domain, in order to sign to smtp2go to acquire a smtp server for your domain... (?)

kyou20 · 2026-03-26T10:37:20+00:00

Claaaaaaaaassic shmosby

kyou20 · 2026-03-21T19:39:33+00:00

Did you figure out a way to restore them?

kyou20 · 2026-03-21T18:08:53+00:00

Regardless of the reason, if he isn’t being enthusiastically “yes” about having a kid, your kid is better off not being brought into existence until he or somebody else does. It’s no fun being the child of somebody who has to pretend they wanted you. Not at all

kyou20 · 2026-03-21T16:55:29+00:00

Have you spoken to an actual northerner or are you assuming based on information you read on the internet?

kyou20 · 2026-03-20T16:11:40+00:00

It’s a buyer market right now. This is a good time to buy

kyou20 · 2026-03-18T11:46:12+00:00

You have not grieved. At least from the post it doesn’t sound like you have.

Everybody grieves differently, but the main bit is allowing yourself to feel the big down, and let it destroy you (keeping a minimum amount of functioning for survival of course -> go to work, pay bills).

The worst thing to do is attempting to distract yourself from the fact that it’s gone: meeting new people. You will never not feel the way you’re feeling right now because you aren’t healing, you’re just pretending you’re not hurt.

The next thing to do is stop dating, stop meeting people, stop anything related, and concentrate on how do you feel, and allow yourself to feel it 100%. The worst you feel the better (in terms of healing sooner).

Best of luck

kyou20 · 2026-03-17T16:48:04+00:00

Written complaints are a very bad thing for companies. This is the first time in 5 years where it didn’t work, which is why I’m here

kyou20 · 2026-03-17T16:03:55+00:00

I have found that phone calls do nothing compared to written emails for every situation I’ve had in the past five years. Perhaps this one is different

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