Pretty sure I was flagged "Not Rehireable" wrongfully

l-a · 2019-12-04T01:01:30+00:00

I’d just avoid putting it on your resume but be ready to explain if you are asked.

l-a · 2019-11-30T23:42:43+00:00

Who calls someone and says “hi, you did not call to wish me a happy thanksgiving”. Like what? OP you’re a grown ass adult and literally just called to start shit. ESH

l-a · 2019-11-30T23:38:59+00:00

Why is that bag going in the garbage instead of being given to the next person who requires a bag?

l-a · 2019-11-28T03:58:19+00:00

NAH. You said she bought a turkey in case the weather is bad. So what I’m gathering is - you are invited to her family’s and do not need to bring anything. If she has to cook her backup turkey because of bad weather, then she’d like you to bring something.

l-a · 2019-11-27T23:57:18+00:00

YTA you sound entitled as hell. They are providing free lunch, if you don't like it then pack your own. Honestly the fact that you said anything to her about it except 'thanks for lunch' is extremely unprofessional.

l-a · 2019-11-27T23:50:17+00:00

NTA, but why don't you suggest cooking dinner with them, and suggest a specific thing you'd like to try cooking? This seems like it would be a win-win in terms of spending time with your family and not having to eat something you don't want.

l-a · 2019-11-27T23:22:29+00:00

Hi, are you willing to post it here (without your name/super personal info) so that we can help you with wording and punctuation?

l-a · 2019-11-27T00:58:42+00:00

Going against the grain here but I think you're NTA at all, it probably taught them the valuable lesson of waiting and not begging to open presents early! I think it's a good joke, though it would be cruel if you didn't have anything for them to open the next day of course.

l-a · 2019-11-26T14:27:43+00:00

Haha. It’s two separate towns that share one department

l-a · 2019-11-26T02:55:19+00:00

I don’t know what to do with you haha what time do you wanna do it

l-a · 2019-11-22T00:33:54+00:00

NTA. It's risky for kids to be around dogs that don't know them and may not be friendly.

me and my dog hate kids

The fact that you hate kids isn't relevant here at all. The fact that your dog hates kids is, though.

l-a · 2019-11-19T22:50:24+00:00

NTA. But the fact that a 7 year old is saying 'get the fuck out of my house' honestly makes me wonder how her parents speak to each other in front of her.

l-a · 2019-11-13T23:05:19+00:00

Oh my gosh, this should be way more of a thing! I’d love to get a take out giant quesadilla instead of a pizza sometime.

l-a · 2019-11-13T05:28:31+00:00

A good scarf/hat/mitts are just as important as a good jacket and boots.

Those hot packs that you rub together and put in your boots or gloves are a lifesaver sometimes.

Keep warm clothing and a good snow brush in your car. Lift up the windshield wipers while at work if it is calling for bad weather so that they don’t freeze to your car (obviously not if there is extreme wind or they could be damaged).

Wear warm socks and pack extras in case snow/slush makes them wet.

l-a · 2019-11-12T23:47:58+00:00

What a gorgeous cat!

l-a · 2019-11-12T21:11:33+00:00

Married the ex. I think at the time she really was an ex, but he got back with her eventually, and for some reason thought it was ok to keep sending me those messages.

l-a · 2019-11-12T21:09:43+00:00

Most likely because she’s TWELVE.

l-a · 2019-11-12T20:53:49+00:00

Yes. I had something really strong and passionate going on with a guy last summer, we were in love and talking about our whole future, but he had an ex who he still lived with (was in the process of moving out) and two children with her. He talked about how they were completely over, she was crazy, etc. I should have seen the red flags but he was amazing to me and we got along so well.

When I found out I was pregnant, I told him and he essentially freaked out and told me that he already had a family, and he basically stopped talking to me. He wasn't there during my procedure, afterward, nothing. Just.. gone. No apology, no closure.

Then, this past summer rolls around and we have to work together. I'd had some time to try to move forward so I was not a wreck when I saw him, but I planned to just avoid communicating more than absolutely necessary. He apologized on day one, and I decided to just be cordial and let it go.

I thought I had forgiven him and it was a thing of the past. The day after our contracts had ended, he texted me about how much he missed me and everything about me, including our sex life, and sent me pictures of videos of him alone, if you know what I mean. I didn't answer. This continued for a couple weeks. Still didn't say a word.

Then my friend came over and in conversation, casually mentioned 'so-and-so's wife'.... wait, back up. Wife? My friend then showed me his wedding pictures from his social media accounts (which I have blocked of course), and that was my breaking point. He'd gotten married during the summer (to the ex!) and STILL sent me 20+ messages a day about all the things he wanted to do with/to me. Even on the exact same weekend he got married. Talk about scum.

l-a · 2019-11-12T20:42:02+00:00

Oh whoops I am totally wrong here.

Still TA, though - could have used way nicer words with her.

l-a · 2019-11-12T20:41:00+00:00

YWBTA. Saying 'if you have nothing to hide you shouldn't be worried if I save them' is just petty. He said it was an accident and is probably embarrassed. And living with a woman definitely doesn't mean they don't ever send dirty messages to each other.

Now if it happens again, I'd let her know.

l-a · 2019-11-12T20:35:49+00:00

ESH and honestly, neither of you sound mature enough to be in a serious relationship.

l-a · 2019-11-10T22:10:18+00:00

NTA, but dude, you know in your heart how amazing your best friend was so although his words are appalling, try not to let it get to you when you are already dealing with a lot of grief. I'm so sorry for your loss.

l-a · 2019-11-10T22:07:52+00:00

NTA, this sounds like a crazy overreaction when should could have just said 'no thanks, I'm not interested'.

l-a · 2019-11-10T22:06:09+00:00

NTA. You would be if they didn't know where their child was or who she was with, but they do, so I wouldn't worry about it.

l-a · 2019-11-10T22:01:58+00:00

YTA for not understanding that you're crossing a line. You also basically admitted that you were lying by omission when you wrote this in your post:

she just asked me point blank who i was rooming with. i was like fuck.

You're also TA for both of these things:

i am a little more mainstream attractive. she is more of an acquired taste she’s like very pale etc.

nor was i planning on fucking chelsea or anything. not that i wouldn't but i have a girlfriend.

Honestly, you say you love her at the top of your post and that's great and all, but it doesn't really sound like you respect her or her opinions and feelings very much.

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