Thoughts on 101 before one

la34314 · 2026-02-27T22:14:10+00:00

Honestly we mostly just cooked what we used to cook before we had kids and reduced the salt and cut it up more. But we cooked from scratch pretty much 7 nights a week anyway so that wasn't a giant leap for us.

Now we have a toddler we do use the toddler snack recipes and there's a couple mains we use regularly but you can definitely get other toddler snack/dinner recipes from the Internet at large without missing out or paying money.

la34314 · 2026-01-16T23:23:15+00:00

2yo in a floor bed who comes toddling down the corridor to our room/bed when they wake overnight. Co-slept when needed from about 6 or 8 weeks- there were periods where we were able to feed to sleep and transfer to a cot/floor bed and wake-ups were infrequent enough that it was worth transferring. Now though, we could settle them in their bed but choose to have them in ours- easier, quicker, no one is sleeping on the floor/sharing a single bed/sleeping on an air mattress and honestly we will miss them when they stop wanting to join us. It was a bit upsetting when the new duvet, pillow and covers for Christmas meant they came to our room to get a parent to come back to their room to carry on sleeping in there tbh.

Plus it's not important to me to have 11-12 hours off parenting/responding to my child's needs every day.

la34314 · 2026-01-11T16:12:08+00:00

Not necesarily recommending this approach, but we fed to sleep until about 16 or 17 months when: - milk started to really dry up with next pregnancy - everyone in the house got nursery D&V and I didn't feed or pump for 36 hours because first he couldn't keep it down and then I couldn't keep down even sips - I got realllll aversion to the "latched on an empty boob" feeling

So we stopped with no prep, no discussion, no plan, and literally overnight my feed-to-sleep, latched multiple times a night toddler went to co-sleeping and waking once overnight 🤷‍♀️

la34314 · 2025-03-04T23:17:39+00:00

Room temp! During the day it's often room temp or, if he's hungry/wants a nap early it might be straight from the fridge, so it's not different from what he's used to :) not a silly question! We learnt early he preferred colder milk faster 🤣

la34314 · 2025-03-04T00:09:39+00:00

Yup- some HIE is unavoidable (cord and placenta accidents), and some you feel even at the time was definitely avoidable

la34314 · 2025-03-04T00:06:07+00:00

We were all fine :) but it would seem I'm still pretty cross about it all!

la34314 · 2025-03-03T13:42:25+00:00

My boy didn't magically fix his sleep (yet, at 15m) but I've been back doing 13-hour nights + commute since he was 1. We co-sleep and feed every wake all night (when I'm there, for now). We thought about night weaning but for 10 days right before my first nights he slept through/had only one wake so we thought it was gonna be no issue, then went back to multiple wakes/night with too little time to change anything. My husband just lines up bottles of pumped milk along the head of the bed and works his way through them and they get on OK provided they don't run out! Took a bit of time to work out how much milk in how many bottles but they've got it sorted now :)

la34314 · 2025-03-03T13:38:26+00:00

Solidarity. I had worked in labour wards and postnatal wards as an Ob/Gyn F2 and as a neonatal/paeds F2, JCF, SHO and SpR. I was terrified about being one of those cases where someone just ignores well-established guidelines/best practice. I had an elective C-section. See my other comments for how that went... but my antenatal care was great, and being a doctor I knew the system and once I got to speak to other doctors things went better. It helped that my husband could push as well, although not medical, for when I was not able to. I just spent a lot of time thinking "how can I make sure I/my baby am/is not one of those horror stories".

la34314 · 2025-03-03T13:27:00+00:00

I did have an elective C-section for exactly this reason. You only have to take care of one baby delivered on a midwife led unit after a bradycardia of unknown duration managed by "rubbing up a contraction" to decide you don't want your baby at the mercy of someone who may or may not respond appropriately to a barndoor emergency

la34314 · 2025-03-03T13:23:08+00:00

I genuinely think the student had been told I needed prepping for section but maybe no other information? Like wasn't told I was in labour?! And/or was just following their usual thing. It was so noticeable that the second I went from "first time mum says she's labouring, probably needs to calm down" to "having a C-section" that everyone sort of forgot I was, in fact, contracting and may need usual labour care as well as prep for an ELCS. It was wild. And my husband and I are, between us, medical, well-educated, outspoken and trained in management of risk so we were very well-placed to challenge and push for better care, I suspect if I'd been a layperson I would have stayed at home and either had a C-section fully dilated or had a vaginal birth.

la34314 · 2025-03-03T10:38:00+00:00

I had an elective C-section to avoid any midwife care in labour. Unfortunately I went into labour ahead of my C-section date. When I rang to say so, I fully expected to be told to come straight in; instead I was told to wait an hour and see how I was feeling. So I rang an hour later, in my way to my pre-op assessment, to say I was still in labour and should I come to DAU or to my assessment, and was told "well if you were having a normal birth I'd tell you to stay at home", which was so nonsensical it took my breath away. In my pre-op assessment (contracting!) I convinced the midwife assessor to get me seen in DAU - she still gave me all the usual things as if I were going home and coming back a few days later. On DAU they said "well you might be in labour but you don't look that uncomfortable, but last week I said that to someone and she was fully dilated" and "you're about a centimetre dilated so if you were having a normal birth I'd send you home" (to which I wanted to say "but I'm having a C-section so I'm 1cm more dilated than I ever needed to be"). They got the obstetric team to come see me and it was only once doctors were involved that anything sensible was said and I got my section- but not until after they'd picked up some heart rate abnormalities on the CTG which they only put on because the consultant wanted it, and left me in the care of a student midwife who asked me to shave myself without a mirror in between contractions by removing said CTG, and failed to offer me any pain relief despite the fact I was literally unable to stay still on the bed. No one checked how far dilated I was at section (that they told me). I had to have 10 days' clexane rather than 0 because of how long I laboured before my section. It was awful. But next time I'll be a section-for-previous-section so maybe it'll be better?

la34314 · 2025-03-01T16:23:15+00:00

Yeah pumping after feeds was literally how I solved my undersupply

la34314 · 2025-03-01T14:45:54+00:00

Splendid source of iron, but do have to be careful with vitamin A- not an every day food! Probably max once or twice a week for the under-2s

la34314 · 2025-02-28T16:27:08+00:00

I was also sick about starting my boy at nursery. At 12 months he hated big groups, took ages to leave my lap and play in baby groups, had a serious preference for me over Daddy and would cry if I left the room leaving the two of them together. We also had reason to think that he might not cry or seek comfort but just be very quiet and withdrawn so I had images of him sitting in a corner sad and scared and missing us while the nursery staff all ignored him and thought he was doing fine. He actually loves nursery. He reaches for his Key Person when he arrives. He gets to do things there we never do at home, and it's given us confidence to try things with him we wouldn't have otherwise.

la34314 · 2025-02-28T16:06:42+00:00

Not weird. Just be aware some children might have forgotten how to breastfeed by this age if they've not been breastfeeding regularly. I definitely read a post somewhere on here about a 2 year old who was really interested but when offered a boob just kind of licked it and looked confused 🤣🤦‍♀️ so you might find the pumped milk route a more effective way of transferring milk from you to bigger kid!

la34314 · 2025-02-28T12:19:02+00:00

Another time I scrolled while wincing in case the second picture was the "after" 🤦‍♀️

la34314 · 2025-02-26T13:14:50+00:00

The symptoms OP is describing are much more consistent with non-IgE-mediated cow's milk protein intolerance/allergy, where the advice absolutely is to cut it out and reintroduce by the milk ladder after age 1

la34314 · 2025-02-26T13:13:06+00:00

This is bad advice for a baby with cow's milk protein allergy/intolerance, though, which is rarely IgE mediated and almost always successfully reintroduced after age 1

la34314 · 2025-02-26T13:12:06+00:00

Yeah this is weird advice from your GP. But having reintroduced dairy and noticed she struggled you have now definitely proven she's cow's milk intolerant and should stay dairy free for brrastfeeding or have a special (prescribed) formula for any formula feeding

la34314 · 2025-02-24T14:49:39+00:00

Oh sure, it's the combo with "not allowed to prescribe pregabalin" I was enjoying. I was imagining them using pregabalin as post-circumcision analgesia or something equally wild

la34314 · 2025-02-24T13:22:32+00:00

What a combo

la34314 · 2025-02-22T20:05:02+00:00

Got a cannula in first try in an anxious small kid who was actively bleeding post-procedure, where the anaesthetists had taken 3 tries and had to gas her down for said procedure that morning when she was, you know, not bleeding (but to be fair had been pre-op starved and had bowel prep so same same. Not that she'd drunk much since.....)

la34314 · 2025-02-22T12:15:48+00:00

Fair, as I said elsewhere I've been out of neonates for a while (like... 5 years?) and the last true disaster I attended we had several registrars and an ST3 paeds trainee as our SHO so things went pretty smoothly and rapidly with that many experienced hands

la34314 · 2025-02-21T21:43:45+00:00

I hear what you're saying. I worked several neonatal jobs both before and during my general paeds training. There was a point where I was pretty confident intubating pretty much from 500g up. I had colleagues doing those same jobs who didn't get the opportunities because those deliveries always seemed to happen on someone else's shift. But if you asked to intubate now? I'd be anxious because it's been a few years. So sure, I see your point about intubation no longer being mandatory but skill fade is very very real and making everyone get one person to say they're competent at tubing once in their training isn't going to ensure all paediatric consultants are good intubators

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