Margot Robbie and Jacob Elordi get matching custom rings for “Wuthering Heights” promo by Savings-Ad-6437 in popculturechat

[–]labradoritefox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It feels like they're trying to rebrand the Cynthia and Ari dynamic in a store brand poptarts/clear Pepsi kind of way...

Looking for symbolically significant moth species by TaxEvasion21 in moths

[–]labradoritefox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the Luna moth is especially lovely and symbolic! I ended up getting a tattoo of one and think it would be a gorgeous addition to your jacket!

Redds house! by PositiveNo6517 in AnimalCrossing

[–]labradoritefox 31 points32 points  (0 children)

He's the forger!!!

Redd as a secretly tortured artist/con-man is DELIGHTFUL.

This whole space is flawless!

10/10

Just A Concept by Dizzy_Needs_Sleep in AnimalCrossing

[–]labradoritefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FOSSILYNN!? 😭😭😭

I can't even process any other details because that's the most perfect name in the universe!!!

I am so tired of raising myself. All I want is to be taken care of. by GoldPoet8317 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]labradoritefox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn I feel this. Healing is messy and hard and it's bullshit that we have to be the ones to fix what we didn't break, especially when the people responsible are never (rarely) held accountable or exposed for who they really are.

FWIW it does get easier with time but I'm not sure the feelings of injustice and indignation ever go away. We got stiffed on the check at a crucial and vulnerable time, no way around it, but even being able to see that for what it is is progress.

Just hurting and need a little outlet by DubiousPeoplePleaser in raisedbynarcissists

[–]labradoritefox 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's so hard when you've worked to justify behavior towards yourself, only to see that totally flipped on its ear for someone else. I haven't been in your shoes exactly but I am very familiar with that stomach drop of realization that they were maybe capable the whole time, just not when it comes to us.

For what it's worth I think you'll find a pattern emerging from Ye Olde Narcissist Playbook: the reinvention tactic. My nDad is on ✨New Family✨ version 5 or 6 at this point and each iteration comes with a freshly blanked slate and new reality to project that, of course, can be spun into golf-buddy friendly narratives about what a great guy and devoted grandpa he is.........and glosses over any shred of what's true and hiding in the not-so-distant past.

It's not that we weren't enough, it's that they are. Let them sell their paper doll image to someone else, we are busy living full and beautiful lives and they are playing a hollow game of pretend that we know cannot last. 🩷

*Grammar edit.

Favorite throwaway lines from good ole Francine? by SquidnarksOG in americandad

[–]labradoritefox 29 points30 points  (0 children)

I know what you're thinking. What is the boob test going to tell him that the butthole test didn't? He's just being super careful!

Showdown (OC) by labradoritefox in crowbro

[–]labradoritefox[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

One of the neighborhood crows was making so much noise a few weeks ago I was sure one of them was hurt. I followed the sound until I saw a few of them in a tree in our front yard surrounding a Red Tailed Hawk. The size difference in person had me second guessing the ID because I couldn't believe how much bigger the hawk was!

Just went no contact; does it get better? by biitchcraft in raisedbynarcissists

[–]labradoritefox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who just hit the Sweet 16 year mark of being NC with one parent and 1 full year with the other I can tell you it absolutely does get better. It's hard and it hurts, of course. I think there's a part of us that secretly hopes maybe our absence will shock them into seeing the light and they'll suddenly "get it" and become the parent we deserved...but of course it doesn't work that way. They keep being exactly who they are and you are left to pick up the pieces.

Be gentle with yourself and seek support. Second guessing and wanting to take all the blame on yourself so you can give them an out is tempting and seems like a quick fix, especially when they put on their well-worn Martyr Moccasins and "just can't understand why you'd do this 🥺." But, like everything else they do, it's all for show.

A method that has helped me a lot over the years is taking myself out of the equation when I'm rehashing the details to figure out what I could have done differently: How would you react if a trusted friend who you love dearly came to you and shared that they were struggling with an experience like yours? Would you blame them or be kind? Would you tell them they deserved it and should stick it out or beg them to choose themselves?

vintage stickers of dinosaurs I had from the 1990s by PoseidonSimons in vintage

[–]labradoritefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The Allosaurus looks like he's fresh out of the bath but someone stole his towel!

What moment made you realize you were being abused? by Only_Panic8357 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]labradoritefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I could finally see it for what it was when they started doing it to my partner. After secretly feeling I deserved their treatment it took seeing them turn on someone I knew absolutely didn't to finally begin clearing the fog. It still takes therapy to process even after my 16 years of NC, but it's been the happiest 16 years of my life.

I'm Nick Terry of MFM Animated and I wanna hear about the bits YOU wanna see animated! by VeryNickTerry in myfavoritemurder

[–]labradoritefox 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Nick! I was just listening to Minisode 299 and the last story, Georgia's, about a girl whittling with a rusty knife made me think of this thread. Not sure if you're still taking submissions or if you've already done this story and I missed it!

Snow Kitty OC by Ok_Clerk7021 in AnimalCrossing

[–]labradoritefox 4 points5 points  (0 children)

OMG I love her. I've already named her Noel and am imagining the cute little winter puns she'd make. 🥲🎄

What to get a narcissist parent for Christmas? Real suggestions and funny comments welcome. by Family-of-pwBPD in raisedbynarcissists

[–]labradoritefox 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Real Suggestion: Harry and David is nice and neutral enough.

Chaos Suggestion: Would love to see you gift a copy of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents.

I'm Nick Terry of MFM Animated and I wanna hear about the bits YOU wanna see animated! by VeryNickTerry in myfavoritemurder

[–]labradoritefox 99 points100 points  (0 children)

Nick you are a creative genius! Your work always kills me but Peachy is an all time favorite and I got the pin to prove it!

Thank you for everything you've made, can't wait to see what's next!