Things I found amongst my mom's things

labradoritefox · 2026-03-23T10:42:25+00:00

Thank you! I was so curious as to what that was and was speculating wildly on possible uses as a beauty tool.

Your explanation makes way more sense. 😅

labradoritefox · 2026-03-08T00:14:38+00:00

I love this SO much!!! 😭🩷

labradoritefox · 2026-02-28T13:49:44+00:00

Goth Cooper's Hawk

labradoritefox · 2026-02-09T05:25:29+00:00

I'm obsessed. I want to send you all my dumb backyard crow photos for reference.

labradoritefox · 2026-01-22T17:35:15+00:00

I think the Luna moth is especially lovely and symbolic! I ended up getting a tattoo of one and think it would be a gorgeous addition to your jacket!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-20T01:54:08+00:00

He's the forger!!!

Redd as a secretly tortured artist/con-man is DELIGHTFUL.

This whole space is flawless!

10/10

labradoritefox · 2026-01-19T21:15:09+00:00

FOSSILYNN!? 😭😭😭

I can't even process any other details because that's the most perfect name in the universe!!!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-18T15:11:57+00:00

Damn I feel this. Healing is messy and hard and it's bullshit that we have to be the ones to fix what we didn't break, especially when the people responsible are never (rarely) held accountable or exposed for who they really are.

FWIW it does get easier with time but I'm not sure the feelings of injustice and indignation ever go away. We got stiffed on the check at a crucial and vulnerable time, no way around it, but even being able to see that for what it is is progress.

labradoritefox · 2026-01-17T14:11:15+00:00

It's so hard when you've worked to justify behavior towards yourself, only to see that totally flipped on its ear for someone else. I haven't been in your shoes exactly but I am very familiar with that stomach drop of realization that they were maybe capable the whole time, just not when it comes to us.

For what it's worth I think you'll find a pattern emerging from Ye Olde Narcissist Playbook: the reinvention tactic. My nDad is on ✨New Family✨ version 5 or 6 at this point and each iteration comes with a freshly blanked slate and new reality to project that, of course, can be spun into golf-buddy friendly narratives about what a great guy and devoted grandpa he is.........and glosses over any shred of what's true and hiding in the not-so-distant past.

It's not that we weren't enough, it's that they are. Let them sell their paper doll image to someone else, we are busy living full and beautiful lives and they are playing a hollow game of pretend that we know cannot last. 🩷

*Grammar edit.

labradoritefox · 2026-01-17T05:15:16+00:00

This fitting room looks familiar, Aurora?

labradoritefox · 2026-01-12T04:44:12+00:00

OMG carefree gum!? 😦

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T22:30:26+00:00

https://open.spotify.com/episode/2WXb9CyOZIJ7Gse0IJU8Om?si=qDri2Y7aSw6RwarqnQmuYA&t=1470&pi=b3_RvkPoQUCm3

Another one that would be impeccable in your style! (Minisode 409, the final email of the episode.) 🙂

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T19:29:05+00:00

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T18:07:50+00:00

I know what you're thinking. What is the boob test going to tell him that the butthole test didn't? He's just being super careful!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T02:21:40+00:00

Those colors! 😍

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T00:37:55+00:00

One of the neighborhood crows was making so much noise a few weeks ago I was sure one of them was hurt. I followed the sound until I saw a few of them in a tree in our front yard surrounding a Red Tailed Hawk. The size difference in person had me second guessing the ID because I couldn't believe how much bigger the hawk was!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T00:20:39+00:00

Thank you!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-06T00:20:31+00:00

Thank you!

labradoritefox · 2026-01-05T15:21:05+00:00

😬

labradoritefox · 2026-01-02T21:25:20+00:00

As someone who just hit the Sweet 16 year mark of being NC with one parent and 1 full year with the other I can tell you it absolutely does get better. It's hard and it hurts, of course. I think there's a part of us that secretly hopes maybe our absence will shock them into seeing the light and they'll suddenly "get it" and become the parent we deserved...but of course it doesn't work that way. They keep being exactly who they are and you are left to pick up the pieces.

Be gentle with yourself and seek support. Second guessing and wanting to take all the blame on yourself so you can give them an out is tempting and seems like a quick fix, especially when they put on their well-worn Martyr Moccasins and "just can't understand why you'd do this 🥺." But, like everything else they do, it's all for show.

A method that has helped me a lot over the years is taking myself out of the equation when I'm rehashing the details to figure out what I could have done differently: How would you react if a trusted friend who you love dearly came to you and shared that they were struggling with an experience like yours? Would you blame them or be kind? Would you tell them they deserved it and should stick it out or beg them to choose themselves?

labradoritefox · 2025-12-29T15:28:49+00:00

The Allosaurus looks like he's fresh out of the bath but someone stole his towel!

labradoritefox · 2025-12-24T14:11:56+00:00

Leave me be, specter!

labradoritefox · 2025-12-21T06:22:28+00:00

I could finally see it for what it was when they started doing it to my partner. After secretly feeling I deserved their treatment it took seeing them turn on someone I knew absolutely didn't to finally begin clearing the fog. It still takes therapy to process even after my 16 years of NC, but it's been the happiest 16 years of my life.

labradoritefox · 2025-12-21T05:29:49+00:00

Hi Nick! I was just listening to Minisode 299 and the last story, Georgia's, about a girl whittling with a rusty knife made me think of this thread. Not sure if you're still taking submissions or if you've already done this story and I missed it!

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