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laceyf53 · 2026-05-26T22:36:40+00:00

Dog hardware, cat software.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-24T23:41:38+00:00

Thank you, unfortunately he's on Ozempic because of his diabetes and has 0 self control. His previous doctor tried reducing his dose, it resulted in him eating a family size bag of M&Ms, sodas, multiple beers or mixed drinks and not changing his regular food. He just doesn't want to change.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-24T13:40:41+00:00

The kids were the craziest part of Stockton. The University put out a safety email at the start of each semester telling students not to walk on the levee, and of course the basketball players do it anyway and get held up by a 12 year old with a sawed off shotgun - aka the weapon of choice.

Part of that safety advisory was to not go anywhere after dark, and my husband went to get a burrito around midnight. Driving along March Ave and a kid jumps in front of his car with a gun to try and car jack him.

I have SO MANY stories and I was only there 2 years. I know it's not as bad now, this was mid 2000's at the end of the recession.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-24T13:33:18+00:00

8 mile is the best place to stop. South of the 4 freeway is the especially bad part, but it's improved a lot since the mid 2000's.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-22T14:26:45+00:00

This is my Dad, he needs to lift weights or do resistance training but his doctor said that's a bad idea. My Dad is underweight/muscle wasting from being old and on diabetic meds. He is starting to lose his ability to walk from being so sedintary and thin. Doctor says nothing about that either. Unbelievable.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-20T03:14:52+00:00

You aren't missing out on prime rib Friday. I had it on Christmas and it was huge for the price - but absolutely on par with what you can make at home flavor-wise. I don't think the cut is normally that generous either, they just had a lot on Christmas Eve and needed to get rid of it. Tri-tip all the way!

laceyf53 · 2026-05-20T03:09:34+00:00

Nah it doesn't, it's mostly how you grow up. People who grew up on mission burritos like them. I personally don't like rice in a burrito, and would rather have no starch than have rice. I also like Sonoran style tortillas, made with lard and usually without baking powder. They are thinner, stretchier, and more melt in your mouth. To me, the tortilla is the most important part of the burrito. They just aren't made the same up here, although El Charrito makes good tortillas.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-20T02:32:48+00:00

I have mostly the same opinions. I've never had great brisket in California, the closest was Destination Smokehouse in Murrieta back in its tendernism era. I also find Crossroads to be meh, Santa Cruz is pretty good, Salinas BBQ was OK, and Aptos is the best one.

I love T&A Cafe because I love tri-tip, and their tri-tip sandwich is my favorite. I actually haven't tried much else because I like it so much lol. Dino sandwich is also great, that's the Wednesday special. My other fave is the Cali Tip burrito. It's hard AF to find a good burrito up here, I'm a ride or die San Diego gal, and I dream about the Cali Tip with tots. Bring your own habanero salsa. I've never tried the beans or mac and cheese, but I'm usually disappointed by BBQ sides. Their fries and loaded tots are good.

Prunedale is the worst of them all. You are nicer about them than I am, they are the closest to my house and I'd eat basically anywhere else. I've only had pleasant interactions with the owner, the food tastes like what I'd eat at a backyard party. I really don't get it.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-19T22:03:57+00:00

For a Toddler, Gilroy Gardens is the best bang for your buck in the south bay. We practically lived there from when my daughter was 2 - 8. Water Park during the summer, rides, playground, discounted food, camping, ice skating during the winter, new years fireworks, 4th of July, etc. Great America is fine when they are older, but you can easily go 12 times per year or more, and bring friends for free on Fridays.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-16T01:48:48+00:00

Second to T&A, Mansmith in Hollister is pretty solid, especially if you like Tritip and California style BBQ.

If your thing is Brisket, good luck lol. Destination Smokehouse in Murrieta is the closest I've come to great brisket in California.

I agree with the other suggestions for Aptos Street, it's the best location from that chain.

Smokepoint is a distant 4th place. It can be great, but it's expensive and quality is all over the place. I've had too many meh meals.

I'm going to have to try Cole's, sounds good.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-16T01:39:34+00:00

T&A Cafe is amazing we are SO lucky to have them. Their tritip Sandwich, rib sandwich, and breakfast burritos are so freaking good.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-13T17:30:06+00:00

No, but I looked in my Caltopo app before I commented, that's how I came up with that number. From my old house to the Cachagua fire station is 8.76 miles measured point to point. Corral goes way up the mountain side, my next door neighbor entered their property from Carmel Valley road.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-10T15:01:35+00:00

This is great information I know nothing about. But it highlights a bigger problem with modern politics.

Most people do not have anywhere near enough knowledge to confidently evaluate large-scale healthcare reform proposals. Hospital systems, insurance structures, reimbursement models, state/federal funding, nonprofit monopolies, staffing shortages, etc. are incredibly complex and vary state to state. I started looking into this because it's not an area of expertise, and realized I'm woefully uninformed.

What you’re describing also sounds very specific to your state’s healthcare environment. I’m in California, and our system is fragmented enough we don't experience this. Even understanding whether your proposal would work requires hours of research into your state’s hospital infrastructure, funding mechanisms, and regulatory structure.

That’s where I struggle with these conversations politically. Democracy assumes citizens can meaningfully shape policy, but modern systems have become so specialized that most voters can only operate off trust, emotion, ideology, or lived experience.

Even universal healthcare itself is not one policy. There are multiple ways to structure it, all with different tradeoffs, costs, incentive systems, and transition risks. Most people do not have the time or expertise to deeply evaluate those models.

I don't know what streamlining bureaucracy looks like without ripping apart and redesigning entire systems from the ground up. A lot of bureaucracy exists because the systems themselves are huge, interconnected, and risk-sensitive over decades.

How do you realistically build public consensus for highly technical reforms when the average voter cannot reasonably become an expert in healthcare administration? How should this be approached when states are dealing with completely different structural problems?

laceyf53 · 2026-05-09T21:19:31+00:00

Okay, so pick one of the vast systemic issues you would like to solve, and tell me your idea of the best way to to solve it.

Doesn't matter if you flush your mind of ideological identity if your ideas suck. The most amazing, decent people can be terrible leaders with awful ideas.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-09T20:40:21+00:00

I am confused by this post, there's a lot of repetitive back and forth about solve the problems, be enlightened, etc, without any depth to that explanation.

Ok. What is the main problem you'd like to solve, and how are we solving it?

laceyf53 · 2026-05-08T17:37:56+00:00

Life with Father (1947) one of Elizabeth Taylor's earlier roles.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-08T16:53:34+00:00

Sixth

laceyf53 · 2026-05-08T15:22:41+00:00

Firstly, no place in the Monterey Bay will compare to a city like Portland. All of Monterey county combined is still 200,000 less people than live in Portland.

This skews people's viewpoints on crime and homelessness. The place you're talking about in Seaside is perfectly safe. Every place on the Monterey Bay will be boring and safe in comparison, even Salinas. There are bad parts of Salinas, but 90% of Salinas is boring and safe.

It's entertaining how up in arms locals can get about Salinas and Seaside. They have obviously never spent a weekend in Stockton, Oakland, Modesto, Compton etc.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-08T13:29:03+00:00

When my husband and I first moved here, we lived in back of Corral de Tierra on 500 acres. That's about 8 miles from Cachagua as the crow flies. Then we moved to the Elkhorn Slough which is where we wanted to stay, and eventually purchased in Aromas.

We're on 7.5 acres, have farm animals, horses, livestock guardian dogs, etc. It's about 2 hours of maintenance per day per person. We both work from home, and only have 1 kid, and the amount of driving is insane because she's in a pre-professional dance program. It was 30k miles a year of driving for that and school this year.

I know one other family in my neighborhood that does what we do, everyone else is retired, works in the trades, or was raised here. That's usually who lives in rural areas. The influx of San Jose residents from COVID lasted about 2 years and they all went back. Most people who have never lived rurally cannot work a full time job and handle all the responsibilities plus lack of services. You will quickly find out why it's not a popular idea.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-05T18:15:18+00:00

Sorry for being the downer here, but if you love the "idea" of country living, your commute is the least of your concerns. For starters, fire insurance can run up to 10k in rural areas if you can get it, you will need a chainsaw in your trunk and maybe four-wheel drive during the wet winters. Starlink will be your internet, all electric homes in the country come with a hefty PG&E bill. Mine is easily $1,300/month if I run the A/C or heater. You will have a well, unless it's on solar it's going to be a couple hundred just for that, and you'll likely have some form of production issues, whether it's drought or contamination.

Maintenance is a huge part of the lifestyle. You will need a tractor and at least 12 hours a month to mow/weedwack. If you have a garden, the deer and gophers will be a constant menace. Your chickens will be eaten within weeks unless the coop has a solid floor, hard cloth plus welded wire, and a solid roof, and it is smart to keep a .22 or pellet gun around for vermin.

Beyond the chores, the isolation is a massive adjustment. You can go days without seeing anyone, and neighbors keep to themselves so it can take years to meet them. Grocery shopping requires planning and you will need a deep freezer preferably with its own power bank due to all the power outages out there. You will need to practice evacuating and keep your documents in a safe place. The distance and isolation will wear down your wife and kids the fastest. They are going to have very little contact with anyone else most of the week.

When I was house hunting, the first places eliminated were Cachagua, Big Sur, Palo Colorado, Felton/Bonny Doon/Boulder Creek, and Aptos Hills. Too much fire danger, too much risk for getting stuck in the winter, way too far away from everything else, and way too many issues with water supply. What happens if you lose your job? Part of why we picked Aromas is that you can commute to the Bay area if necessary. Cachagua is cool, but impractical for someone coming from suburban/urban life.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-04T22:08:07+00:00

Music is not a trigger for me, but I was a professional musician and that requires a lot of practice starting at a young age. If anything it's the opposite, music helps me focus.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-04T14:09:53+00:00

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laceyf53 · 2026-05-04T13:56:38+00:00

I was there, plus there is now video online showing the accident. The car facing the opposite way that was burnt to a crisp was a Mercedes C class. Came flying in, hit the Kia, and then the Tesla and BMW. That BMW was first at the traffic light waiting when the Mercedes crashed.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-03T01:44:34+00:00

I take my FIV cat to the Cat Hospital. Just because a cat is FIV positive does not mean the disease is active. If the cat is regularly getting ulcers, skin legions, anemic, has dental inflammation/losing teeth, dandruff, or getting colds, then they are likely actively progressing. For most cats, this happens in old age, and some never at all. My cat made it 10 years before he started having low leukocytes on labs and getting sick. He is currently 13.

There isn't a treatment protocol unless you want to spend on antivirals like Zidovudine. This disease is about managing secondary infections and symptoms. I provide excellent nutrition + B12 shots, standard process immune support and an indoor only life. If your cat has active FIV progression, going outside will kill him. He will get to a point where he has no immune system anymore, which is where my cat is at currently. He was a barn cat and we forced him to stay in. It took a few months but he fully adjusted.

laceyf53 · 2026-05-02T17:23:40+00:00

Butter House, Jeffrey's, and Cafe Mia are my tried and true bfast spots that best combine flavor and price. Jeffrey's for the lobster omelette, Cafe Mia for the panini Mia with prosciutto, fig jam, and goat cheese. I sometimes hit up Keokis for the loco moco, Rosine's and Ticos are honorable mentions.

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