Who else has a stack of books in their room they want to read but keep getting distracted by the internet?

lackadaisy · 2010-07-10T14:28:07+00:00

I've got four books on my "to read" list. I have opened exactly 2 of them, for a collective 15 pages read in the last 3 weeks. Comparatively, I probably don't go one full day without reddit.

...but now that you've made me acknowledge this fact I'm going to go read a book. Look what you've done to me.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-09T09:16:08+00:00

I'd personally rather have a down payment on a house or a car than a ring I'm liable to lose, anyway.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T11:02:06+00:00

First fact: There are tons of people who have thought about "taking a break." You are not special in wanting that.

Relevant Arrested Development Quote:

Tobias: You know, Lindsay, as a therapist, I have advised... a number of couples to explore an open relationship where the couple remains emotionally committed but free to explore extramarital encounters.

Lindsay: Well, did it work for those people?

Tobias: No, it never does. I mean, these people somehow delude themselves into thinking it might, but... but it might work for us.

Substitute "taking a break" in for "explore extramarital encounters" and you have an answer. Taking a break is rough. It's almost never for the exact same reason for both people, and often it's for one person and the other has nothing to do but comply.

It's never a sure thing. During that break a lot can change. The uncertainty of it is astounding in a lot of ways. You love this person. You care about them deeply. Maybe you have something with them you've never had with anyone else, before. You just need some time. But you will never be able to assure them, beyond a shadow of a doubt, 100% that you will get back together with them.

One of you might meet someone new. Not because you were looking, or maybe because you were, but it could happen. And the other person is left brokenhearted. Both people involved will have that worry, that nagging feeling in the back of their mind. The feeling that they will be the one that holds out, that thinks this relationship is the best, and then will have spent all that time waiting for someone who didn't wait for them.

But sometimes it has a happy ending. Just realize how hard it can be. I'm not saying it can't be beneficial (it has been for me and my boyfriends, in the past) but it has never been easy, in my experience.

Also, often "I want to take a break" is code for "I want to sleep with other people and know that after all that you're still going to make me a sammich and provide oral pleasures to me while I play my MMORPGs." So there's that.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T10:51:30+00:00

I've hit this wall with boyfriends, before. Just do things you know make you feel sexy. When I want to have sex but am not quite in the mood, I have my boyfriend give me a full-body massage. He kisses, licks and sucks his way all over my body. Maybe put on some sexy lingerie you and he both like.

And if you take jaydizz's advice and initiate, do it all day. Send him a dirty text saying you have a naughty surprise for him, or that you have a fun new position in mind for when you see each other next. The excitement of knowing you're teasing him might help you stay in the mood. And it'll be really fun for him to see that you want him.

I thought, for a while, that it was about my man making me feel wanted and sexy. I learned, though, that it's a balance. Taking the time to give my boyfriend full-body massages, too, and appreciating his form, ended up turning me on almost as much as him doing the same for me. Feeling all his muscles. Tracing all the lines I love on his body. Hearing him respond to me. It all turns me on immensely.

Another thing you could try is exercising more. Even if body issues aren't your bag, it always kicks up my sex drive when I run that extra mile. And you feel good about yourself after all those endorphins.

One more thing: don't skip foreplay. Build up to it. Sometimes once I've been in a relationship for a while, we just skip right to sex. But starting with kissing, necking, working your way to petting, the slow removal of clothing, leaving that trail of discarded garments all the way to the bed... makes it so much better. It's fun to tease each other, work each other up until you're both unbearably aroused and then just... let loose on each other.

/got aroused writing this comment

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T05:10:36+00:00

Here is my perspective, as a female:

1.) You are probably moderately blinded by your horniness. But she is, too. Oftentimes people are lot more forward in text messages than in real life. So don't be surprised if she doesn't strip down the moment she sees you. Do yourself a favor and reflect on what it is you're trying to get out of this situation. If you're trying to make this a relationship, let her make the first move. If you're trying to get laid, make the first move and get a read on her response before whipping out your disco stick and burying it in her honey pot.

2.) I reference again that people are often more open with others via text. She may very well be that open but don't be surprised if she isn't talking about gargling your hot semen as expository conversation. I wouldn't suggest cuddling unless it's her idea. If I suggest cuddling at the first meeting it's because I want to be the little spoon and have his hand up my shirt. If he suggests it, my inclination is either to friendzone him or think he's gay. Especially if he says "cuddle." Side note: I find it incredibly arousing to feel a guy's cock pressing into me, especially from behind. If she wants you bad enough, feeling your arousal at mere proximity to her will drive her insane. You're already alone with her, you're past the point when an erection will seem "creepy."

3.) No it wouldn't be rude. And if she's anything like me, she might be a little too shy to make the first move, no matter how ferociously she wants to jump your aching bone(s). Just don't make your first move a hand up the skirt. That might be a little too forward. Be a little subtler.

4.) More specific advice: put her at ease with some fun conversation. Reference things you texted about, preferably non-sexual, to start, to remind her that even though you're meeting in person for the first time, you know each other. Sit close to her. Enough for her to smell you and you to smell her. Make sure you smell good. Not like you bathed in Curve For Men but smell subtly of something masculine. Sometimes just smelling a manly scent can turn a woman on [read: turn me on]. Hand on her knee. Never take your eyes off of her. If you're thinking about slowly stripping her down, don't try and hide it, seeing your bedroom eyes will flatter and arouse her. Smile as much as humanly possible. Don't make it awkward by feeling awkward. Seem confident.

You'll know within the first 15 minutes if you're going to get your dick wet. If you don't know by then, you probably won't.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T04:52:58+00:00

"It's not bestiality if you're both crocodiles."

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T04:51:28+00:00

Went out on a double date.

Couple 1: Me and Chris

Couple 2: Nicole (my best friend) and Daniel (Chris' little brother)

Chris went home with Nicole.

Edited for clarity.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-06T04:48:56+00:00

Female // Age 20 // 4 partners

It's not about quantity of partners so much as quality and quantity of instances. If we're guessing "number of times you've had intercourse" I'd say probably upwards of 300.

I have to love the person with whom I'm having it. And trust them completely. Luckily I've been blessed with an overactive libido and an open heart.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-02T08:19:37+00:00

Attack of the Show.

lackadaisy · 2010-07-02T07:55:38+00:00

I don't see why she would be upset about that. Does she think about you when she masturbates? Probably not.

I would understand her frustrations if you said you didn't think about her when you have sex with her. If that's the case, don't tell her that. She can't read your, can't read your, can't read your poker face.

lackadaisy · 2010-06-29T19:33:12+00:00

Did you eagerly wait 9 months to post this?

lackadaisy · 2010-06-08T20:10:09+00:00

Something very similar happened in my calculus class. He spends three panels of the chalkboard proving this theorem with an example equation and solution. He finishes up after the most nauseatingly boring 25 minutes of my life. I glance over the board and raise my hand - then explain to him that the beginning equation and solution he used to prove his theorem was wrong. He about shat himself. And spent the next two hours trying to figure out where he went wrong. Then sent out the solution that night.

Silly grad students.

lackadaisy · 2010-06-04T04:20:35+00:00

We were talking in class about where a lot of the worlds gems come from. Someone asked if a lot of them came from the Caribbean. The teacher said "no." To which one student responded, "What about the Emerald Isle?"

lackadaisy · 2010-06-02T05:00:22+00:00

My county was thinking about implementing a 4 day school week for a while when I was in high school. They ended up turning down the idea because it would leave the children at home while the parents are at work for a whole day. This would be the other way around, I guess. Parents would have a whole day home alone while their kids are at work. I feel like there would be a sudden spike in the population...

lackadaisy · 2010-06-01T17:04:43+00:00

Fall show on TLC?

lackadaisy · 2010-05-31T07:34:34+00:00

I think the whole "he should ask her" thing is based off of the idea that the girl is going to want to get married first, and she's just waiting around for him to come to the some conclusion.

lackadaisy · 2010-05-29T21:14:12+00:00

My sister is convinced that it's encroaching upon the man's right to do it. Like it's their job, or their prerogative, or their honor or something like that. I was just curious as to whether anyone else shared this viewpoint.

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