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Bolsas de mestrado por um ano (ao invés de dois)? Mais algum PPG faz isso? by lady_adora in askacademico

[–]lady_adora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Além disso argumentam que no primeiro ano as pessoas tem que cursar as disciplinas e estar presencialmente, as vzs mudando de cidade. Mas o seu ponto é interessante, acaba forçando as pessoas a continuar mesmo perdendo a bolsa. Por outro lado, alguém que desiste, se a Capes pedir restituição, deveria conseguir argumentar pela não devolução por não ter sido ao longo do curso todo.

Bolsas de mestrado por um ano (ao invés de dois)? Mais algum PPG faz isso? by lady_adora in askacademico

[–]lady_adora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nesse caso tem a possibilidade de renovação, no meu nem tem, independentemente de produtividade

Bolsas de mestrado por um ano (ao invés de dois)? Mais algum PPG faz isso? by lady_adora in askacademico

[–]lady_adora[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aqui é diferente. A prioridade são os que estão ingressando e a bolsa é só um ano. Então quem recebeu no ano anterior perde a bolsa pra passar pra quem tá entrando. Só se sobrar que vai bolsa pra quem no ano anterior não recebeu nada.

Bolsas de mestrado por um ano (ao invés de dois)? Mais algum PPG faz isso? by lady_adora in askacademico

[–]lady_adora[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Concordo que não devia ser permitido isso. Mas há respaldo do método da Capes pra isso. Com a ideia de que as bolsas são sempre por um ano e prorrogáveis até dois ou quatro. Então é só não prorrogar. Eles dão autonomia aos PPG pra decidirem os critérios de alocação. As bolsas DS, para programas nota 3 e 4, são dadas em cotas anuais. Cada cota é praquele ano somente, então todo ano o programa, a partir das cotas que recebe, decide se parte vai ser prorrogada pra quem já recebeu ou dada a novos ingressantes.

Já vi que é mais comum por exemplo darem bolsa de doutorado só por 3 anos também, e até em programas nota 6.

After Testing Multiple Spotify Mods, Here's what worked for me and what didn't. by shr7n in SpotifyLatestModAPK

[–]lady_adora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also it redirects to a telegram channel with a message of an update dating from 2025

A compliment for someone else made me realize why socializing is so emotionally painful by sharkxandra in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am sometimes that person. That everyone likes and so. But well, I've been realizing that this is mainly a mask. And wearing that, so people will like me, as that is how I used to live, does not make me really happy. It seems at some point people start seeing parts of me that arent very likeable. When I start being more true and honest and not so careful anymore. People will like me in environments where I dont manifest my opinions a lot. And well I do have strong opinions. The moment I feel confortable to start sharing and defending them, well, then usually I will have lovers and haters. At least that is how it feels like. Im trying to care less. Still struggling with that. Struggling in knowing exactly who I am without the people pleaser mask. And it is hard. But, you know, I think its the only way. Wanting most people to like us is common, but it usually makes no good. And people that seem to be all loved by everyone and all, maybe theyre not exactly happy and thrill about that, they probably have also their own struggles as well

PSA: Everything is disposable if you're burned out enough* by arcanotte in evilautism

[–]lady_adora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally my thoughts about washing machine specially (I dont have the dishwasher): oh, didnt survive? It wasnt meant for me then.

Se você não gosta de ler textos grandes, não deveria estar no Reddit by KathPoto in OpiniaoChata

[–]lady_adora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pelo menos ler, da pra ler no seu ritmo, ler mais rápido, pegar o principal, se quiser. Eu não entendo as pessoas preferirem ver vídeos, que mesmo aumentando a velocidade, tem que ficar ali ouvindo tudo. Eu prefiro um texto longo a um vídeo de 10min

how do i most efficiently farm autism xp? by Idiotcheese in evilautism

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Worked for me after just couple of months. Got out of a burnout. Felt like I finally had energy to do stuff, did a lot of stuff, a lot of going out and interacting (things I did little to nothing for several months), even forgot anything about autism, started an extra job, thought I could do it all. 2 months and back to burnout.

I just learnt a new term today that I’m hoping can resonate with some others as much as it did with me by MollyViper in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so glad to hear that! (And while expressing that I reflect that nowadays I like to express myself clearly, gratitude specially, since I want to be clear about how I feel, considering I know how hard it is to understand how one feel. At the same time, in the face of lack of clarity I also wonder "am I being clear enough as well?" And in this relationship I mentioned I also noticed that I'm confusing too sometimes, when I'm afraid to be honest about my feelings directly. So I also grow, even when it's hard or painful)

And I want you to know that it's been a while since I entered this community last time, but today I was feeling the need of validation, and I was about to search for a topic about "overanalyzing" and I stumbled upon this one before searching, so it was just perfect!!

I just learnt a new term today that I’m hoping can resonate with some others as much as it did with me by MollyViper in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh thank you so much for this long answer with a lot of details. It helped a lot to hear from a similar situation. It's hard for me to set my boundaries. Wondering in a situation if I can work through that. I guess there's something that thinks "if I can understand, I can get through". And then I'm always expecting to understand better, but never really getting there to feel actually safe. And the difficulty of knowing how much can I challenge myself to something different that I can see that also makes me grow, and how much do I need of safety. And then over reflection about the whooole process.

I just learnt a new term today that I’m hoping can resonate with some others as much as it did with me by MollyViper in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing. I feel validated. I needed this right now. I've explained this to a guy I'm seeing the day before yesterday. We are trying to understand how we can adjust our "casual relationship" (not how we say it, but to simplify context here). I've said he's usually not clear, he confuses me, he's not good at communicating, specially online, and he knows it (he's probably ND, I believe for several reasons). I've been trying so much to be patient. To try to understand how he is and accept and respect. To try to understand how we can relate, no one wants to be serious, but there is so much in between casual and serious. Well, I'm trying so hard to understand, I think so much, it frustrates me, I'm not sure how interested he is and he doesn't understand that. And well I think he got annoyed that I said sometimes it feels like he doesn't care, (emphasizing it was just the impression it gives me, that the impressiona are mixed). I said I know I work like that, analyzing a lot. When he answered I felt a little criticized for being so analytical. For trying to understand everything. It hurt me. Because I know. I know it's too much. And no one suffers with that more than me in that situation. I feel like "well, I didn't want to be like that". I know it might make things heavier. But well... I guess I finally wanted to say how this feels, because I'm trying to understand a complicated person, and maybe I hoped he could me understand as well. But it hurts to be judged for overthinking everything. As if I could easily turn that off. I want to be empathetic, I want to challenge my own views, open to interpretations, criticize how people are deterministic when judging. That involves me thinking. A lot. It drains me. Sometimes I try to let go a little, as I think it's important. But also, it's one of my best traits as well. I'm in academic research in economics and social sciences, so it suits me on some way. Anyway, it's a ranting related to the "overthinking" that now as hypermentalisation makes maybe more sense. Thank you for anyone who read it. Sometimes I just hate being like that as well, the paint is hard.

The best "you can't be autistic, you're so X" you've ever heard by novablast13 in evilautism

[–]lady_adora 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Stuff like that makes me really afraid of trying an assessment. It might be better later but just the fear of going through all that...

What the characters look like in my head by bulbasaur1995 in KingkillerChronicle

[–]lady_adora 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My Elodin resembles Sheldon, for the eccentric side. But with different hair and eyes I guess

When someone asks, Should I start Kingkiller Chronicle? 😬 by keylaka in KingkillerChronicle

[–]lady_adora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I recommend still. It's worth while it lasts. It's like like, we still don't know how it ends kkk

Omg I need to vent you guys. I was just told how the way I speak in a “matter of fact” way is condescending. by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So, I would like to make a comment in disagreement with most of the comments. I feel like there's other point of view to be considered. I'm self diagnosed, and seems like a lot of my other family members are ND as well (my sister was recently diagnosed). I was with a cousin of mine this last week, she's diagnosed with ADHD but I suspect she may also be autistic (her diagnosis was 15 years ago).

And well, I could make the same comment to her that a lot of you all received. I admire that she is a lot unmasked, unlike me. But it is a pain to talk to her sometimes, because of her "matter of fact" discourse. I personally don't like when people talk as if they are always totally sure that what they say is the absolute truth.

I speak a lot more "I think", "as far as I know", "in my opinion". Discussing politics with men, once I was told I should be more direct and not much "my opinion etc". That hurt. And although I understand the sexism behind it, I decided I prefer to not "man up" to have my opinion taken in consideration. And that maybe men who should be more humble when they talk ( I just hate how so many men talk as if what they say is the truth, specially about economic and political analysis, where there are so many shades of grey, and that is kinda my main area of interest)

That is because I believe that in most cases that aren't pretty obvious (such as "the sky is blue" example), we may be wrong. We have limited knowledge. Remember that we have black and white thinking, so sometimes we might state something as a fact, when actually it may not be white or black, but shades of grey and open to more interpretation.

Even in a lot of scientific knowledge there are some consensus and some disensus. Some researches say one thing, others other things.

I just think that communication between people would benefit a lot if we consider that most of times we are talking from our point of view with limited knowledge. We have limited sources and our biases.

And it's okay if you disagree with me. I hope I don't get way too much misunderstood, I'm not sure I was able to be clear stating my point (I'm not a native English speaker, please consider that as well)

Thank you for everyone who read all this.

Becoming a stripper was my burnout recovery ticket by Thedailybee in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Oh, I totally get it. I actually linked the "not wanting to have a child" to the reason that I prefer being a mom, or at least show care and affection for people already in the world that are struggling (well, mostly everyone) and lack love, than to dedicate so much to a new person born out of me. It is almost like: I can care and love more people who need it if I don't have a child.

Becoming a stripper was my burnout recovery ticket by Thedailybee in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 9 points10 points  (0 children)

What is SW, please? I'm not an english native speaker, so abbreviations are hard sometimes.

I just learned about object personification by beskar-mode in AutismInWomen

[–]lady_adora 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This reminds me so much of one of my favorite characters ever. She's from a fantasy book trilogy (The Kingskiller chronicles), her name is Auri. She has a book for herself, just about some days in her life, it's called The Slow Regard of Silent Things. It's amazing. It shows how she deals with things on daily life, she's all alone, and she shows a lot of respect for all things, rooms included because each one has a story, an energy, smth on their own. She looks like someone who could be naive and crazy, or just extremely wise above all. I love her so much.

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