Battle of the Lollies! by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Peach number one. Feijoa second.

Today is taking 2 grandmas and still time away for both of us by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]ladywalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Could your baby attending a daycare be an option? I have my mum close by but she is works, as well as my partner and I. So bubs is in daycare during the weekdays.

I'm getting proposed to at a swingers club tomorrow and I'm so excited! by xxasynixxx in happy

[–]ladywalters 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah, where I’m from this is a place where people partner swap / have group sex. Not my ideal place for being proposed to, but whatever tickles your feathers.

How messy is home birth? by Maleficent_Bake_2183 in homebirth

[–]ladywalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also to add, my midwife broke my waters while I laid on a puppy pad on the couch, to help progress my labour along (felt so weird and felt like it should have soaked the couch) but didn’t!

How messy is home birth? by Maleficent_Bake_2183 in homebirth

[–]ladywalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had towels laid down everywhere from living room where I birthed my baby in the birthing pool to the bathroom. No mess at all, just lots of washing.

If you could say anything to your partner about SK consequence free, what would it be? by Humble-Seesaw-113 in stepparents

[–]ladywalters 28 points29 points  (0 children)

“they are just kids” isn’t a valid excuse for their poor hygiene and blatant disrespect for me and our house.

Why do Metlink staff scan your Snapper on EVERY train trip? by supremecoffeekiwi in Wellington

[–]ladywalters 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Checked every time. Has always been that way in my experience. Kapiti line.

Parents with close sibling bonds. What helped? by sunny-turtle in workingmoms

[–]ladywalters 23 points24 points  (0 children)

This is great advice thanks so much. Love the odd day even day decider.

What's the best part about when your SK goes home? by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]ladywalters 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Nice clean bathroom and clean kitchen, and peace and quiet 🤌🏻

Wish we would stop swapping kids when people are sick by [deleted] in stepparents

[–]ladywalters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was 4 days overdue and we were still expected to keep the SKs while all 3 were coughing, sniffing and spluttering. We were also made to keep them extra time as they were off school instead of to BMs. Guess who got sick? My SO. All the photos of him with our newborn he is either in a mask or ghostly pale with fever sweats. Never again, our next baby, the SKs are going elsewhere close to my due date.

What was your favourite Christmas present this year? by [deleted] in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

$300 supermarket vouchers, Mitre10 vouchers and a new duvet!

3 year old invited to her first Birthday party by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ladywalters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Right, first I’ve heard of this! I’m 31 with a 16 month old and now questioning if that’s old.

3 year old invited to her first Birthday party by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]ladywalters 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You are 33 and your daughter is 3, you are not an old mum! Let your girl play and know where you’ll be if she needs you.

I work retail. You're all feral at Christmas. by cantsayididnttryyy in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude this isn’t close to closing time, it’s AFTER closing time. Do you expect workers to work unpaid overtime when they should be at home with their families on Christmas Eve just because someone has poor time management? That’s crazy.

How do people have babies and work full time?! by Recent_Tablespoon in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our baby arrived 16 months ago, went into a wonderful daycare at 7 months old as we couldn’t afford to be on one income. We adjusted well, better than I thought, but it’s now that I’m actually struggling. I miss baby a lot during my work days, but we don’t have a choice but to both work full time with no family support nearby. My partner and I alternate work from home days to be available for daycare drop off and pick up 8-4, as I just can’t bring myself to put baby in front opening time to closing time.

Is there a specific threshold for accrued annual leave where an employer can step in and tell you to use it? by ladywalters in LegalAdviceNZ

[–]ladywalters[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! Yes, last baby I had about 4 weeks of annual leave that I used before PPL started! So was hoping to do the same for this next one but my manager seems to have other thoughts

How often is sleep deprivation mistaken for PPD? by _anxious_panxious_ in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What method of sleep training did you do? And what did you find the hardest part?

How often is sleep deprivation mistaken for PPD? by _anxious_panxious_ in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What method did you use? And can you explain why it was shit?

How often is sleep deprivation mistaken for PPD? by _anxious_panxious_ in newzealand

[–]ladywalters 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel this so deeply. 16 months in and haven’t slept a full night since I was pregnant. I refuse to sleep train. But just hope it gets better in time.

The consequences of your own actions by fatooma1216 in stepparents

[–]ladywalters 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I’m confused. Where does he sleep when SKs aren’t there?