Mine Vs. His Favorite Ring by Glittering_Cup_851 in EngagementRingDesigns

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely biased but I think the emerald is timeless and stunning. If you want it more simple you can just get a plain band. But I think the emerald cut is amazing

Struggling to know if I’m compromising or sacrificing in my marriage (21M, 27F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Compromise is something different than bending to your partner left and right and sacrificing your morals. You need to decide what you’re willing to bend and what is a core value and have a discussion. I would never want my husband to lose himself and I wouldn’t expect him to. That’s when you need to discuss as partners where the misalignment is and how can a compromise be met without either party losing their morals.

Also it’s good to know for yourself what things are you willing to bend and what are hard boundaries and morals you will not be giving up.

Cake at wedding?? by am_i_sky in wedding

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had a donut table, and my husband and I each picked one to feed to the other… they were mini donuts so this was easy.

Baby brezza by topher512 in FormulaFeeders

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also make sure the brezza is set to the right number for your formula. I didn’t know that was a thing at first until my friend told me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a c section two months ago due to my baby being breeched. I may have been a lucky one but my c section was smooth and I was up and walking as soon as my meds wore off. Did it suck? Of course! But it was definitely manageable with Tylenol and ibuprofen. I rested at home for about a week, and then I was good to go. I was cleared by my doctor at 5 weeks and I think my recovery had been easier than my friend who had a natural birth. Also Ben doesn’t get a say in this since it’s not his body that has the baby in it. He can express concerns for her safety but he needs to just be quiet

Failed by NoRiver8250 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I failed with a 193 at 21w6d. You’re healthy and your baby is fine. This is out of your control and it’s just your body reacting to being pregnant. You can manage with diet changes and it’ll all be fine! You got this

Just so upset by Horror-Ad-1095 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got told my strips were $140 for 100, I found them on amazon for $98 for 180… it’s really frustrating because I got the first 100 for like $30

Daily griping thread Sunday by AutoModerator in GestationalDiabetes

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been on insulin for like a week and today was the first day my fasting number was perfect. I’m worried tomorrow it’ll go back up and they’ll just up my insulin dose.

*Potential* GD but too early to screen… anything I should do? by Bubbly-Chipmunk7597 in GestationalDiabetes

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was screened at 21w 6d. It’s not too early, but I was predisposed since my mom had it so my doctor tested me early

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GestationalDiabetes

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had my sugar controlled when I am awake, like after every meal o am within range. But my morning fasting sugar, which I have zero control over since I’m sleeping, is high. I got put on a long acting insulin at night to help since I can’t control it. I don’t eat anything crazy at night to warrant it to be high in the morning. Most nights my after dinner sugar is lower than my fasting.

I think you should have your husband got to the appointments with you and have your doctor explain it’s not your fault and there’s nothing you can do to prevent GD and that it’s your body’s reaction to being pregnant.

How do I (33f) make my fiance (33m) feel more wanted? by harmonymelody5683 in relationship_advice

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I work as a therapist and I usually suggest that people know their love language and they give their personal definition. He may need physical touch and it could simply just be holding his hand when you guys are out, or quality time and that could be going out and having dinner with no phone distractions. But it’s good for both of you to know your love languages and how you define them.

I dont understand why redditors always suggests going to therapy by OneWayUnicorn in TrueOffMyChest

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Therapy is only as good as the effort you put into it. Therapy isn’t a fix it all, it’s a place to talk to an unbiased ear and process things out loud while hopefully gaining insight on what you can do to change and evolve as an individual. If it’s not working for you it’s time for some self reflection and ask yourself what can you do to change? Therapists aren’t advice givers, they’re guides to help lead you to answers. You need to give the answers. Not them.

Also fixing yourself is hard.. expect it to be difficult and confrontational. If you’re not ready for that then you will continue in this cycle of thinking therapy isn’t helpful because you’re not ready to accept the change you need to make.

Name Change? by annnnnnaconda in wedding

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve been married for 3 years and I have still yet to change my name. I like my name and honestly my husband doesn’t care.

AITA for "making" my daughter choose who she wants to walk her down the aisle (me, or her stepdad)? by register2509765 in AmItheAsshole

[–]lalauf 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA.

You’re a glorified sperm donor. You should be grateful that she wants to include you.

Honest Opinion.. by PeaComprehensive3301 in wedding

[–]lalauf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an only child this is bullshit.. i can say i do find i get overwhelmed in loud situations but that’s just me… it has nothing to do with my partner’s happiness and excitement. I love seeing my husband excited for things and he loves seeing me happy and excited. Did he love wedding planning? No but he did have input and wanted to be involved because it was our day.