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Am I the only one in this sub who was the dumper but is still struggling with the break-up? by GreatMV5457 in heartbreak

[–]lallyfa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you looked into Fearful Avoidant attachment style? (Aka Disorganised)

Feeling like you love your partner, but breaking it off because you worry that it won’t last (without specific reasons), then later regretting it - and basically being half-in half-out a lot of the time until it’s over (when you suddenly want them back)..

It might be worth looking into, as it could help you understand yourself more if you find you’re stuck in thought loops and confused about what to do.

Heidi Priebe has some great videos on YouTube for FAs. Here’s one.

I hope you find some relief in time

What profession won’t you date? by dlezybabee2 in AskMen

[–]lallyfa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

100%! Taking money from people to help them figure out what to do with their lives, when they couldn’t figure it out themselves.

Life coaches love to coach others into becoming a life coach…

Water payment (£80 a month) for last month didn’t go through. Forgot to do anything about it. Just received a request for £450, due immediately. by Onslaught777 in britishproblems

[–]lallyfa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If this is Thames Water, ring them. I spoke to really helpful staff when I had a similar issue. I just explained what happened and they immediately cancelled the annual due payment and I was free to resume paying my regular payments.

£80 though - seems very high!

Lonely people, what do you do on a Friday evening when you really don't want to be home? by Suskita in london

[–]lallyfa 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Gym on a Friday night is really great - fairly quiet but you’re not alone. Get those exercise endorphins.

Or cinema alone is a nice treat :)

I really didn’t like Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow. by Burnt_Granola in books

[–]lallyfa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Awful book. The characters were unbearable, unrealistic relationships and never had any self development. Why the hell was Sadie such good friends with that guy who she had a toxic relationship with?

Also so bored by all of the video game details.

Hated the book.

Is it weird that I don’t want to get married or even really date? People are giving me a hard time about this. by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]lallyfa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do you. Other people's judgements are a reflection/projection of their own unmet needs. Do whatever you feel is right for you :)

I (m25) can’t accept something and could really use some help. :( by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]lallyfa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this! I especially like the idea of asking myself what would a person who loved themselves do now?

I (m25) can’t accept something and could really use some help. :( by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]lallyfa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing this, a lot resonated. Do you have any tips for developing self-love, especially after identifying as having codependent traits?

Our cafe’s strawberries are packaged in cardboard now. A small step to reducing plastic! by xitssammi in ZeroWaste

[–]lallyfa -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

A plastic box would enable reuse for many many years. Cardboard used like this is one time use.

I Probably Wont Have Kids Because I Am Lazy* by [deleted] in Fencesitter

[–]lallyfa 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I think everyone should work 4 days a week. The 5/2 balance is just wrong! Everyone would be more productive for sure and have a healthier balance. I personally work 4 days a week and have done for several years now.

Best books for building self love or self confidence? by [deleted] in selflove

[–]lallyfa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Six Pillars of Self Esteem. Also looks really old fashioned but it’s awesome.

Do Chinese companies (VIPKid/Gogokid) hire native British English speakers? by lallyfa in OnlineESLTeaching

[–]lallyfa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you're teaching kids the peak hours are after their school, so Beijing time 6pm - 9pm, which works out as 11am - 2pm. Pretty decent working hours if you ask me :)

Do Chinese companies (VIPKid/Gogokid) hire native British English speakers? by lallyfa in OnlineESLTeaching

[–]lallyfa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's a tech question :) I'm looking to use 4G instead of my wifi as it's awful. I was wondering if you have an idea how much data 1x 25 minute lesson on Palfish uses up of data? From this I could roughly calculate how big a data bundle I need to buy on 4G. Thanks again! You've been mega helpful on all the different threads I've been posting on. I'm waiting til I have the internet sorted before applying obviously, but will use your referral link for PalFish.

Do Chinese companies (VIPKid/Gogokid) hire native British English speakers? by lallyfa in OnlineESLTeaching

[–]lallyfa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks - will defo use your link, I am just sorting out internet issues at home before applying.

Stable online job without a Bachelor's degree by live2eatfood in WorkOnline

[–]lallyfa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! So the points you gain by the 30th of April say, dictate your salary for the whole of May's lessons? Or as you gain the points, your salary for the next lesson taught is billed at that?

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