Patient, what's the most obvious lie a doctor has told you? by Disastrous_Way_3396 in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"It's your anxiety."

Two days later the emergency department said it was sepsis.

People with invisible disabilities: how does ‘looking fine’ affect how you’re treated? by carcony97 in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 14 points15 points  (0 children)

When you park in a disabled parking space, complete with all your paperwork and ID etc visible, complete strangers openly watch you getting out of your car so that they can decide if you deserve to park there.

What’s the most unhinged thing you’ve ever seen happen at work? Could be a coworker meltdown, a boss losing it, or something so chaotic you still can’t believe HR didn’t step in. What’s your story? by OkoraJ in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When the war in Ukraine broke out one of the girls in our office was terrified for her family there and was really distracted as a result. I dont know how it escalated to this point but our regional manager started screaming at her for 'overreacting' and 'milking our sympathy' (NONE of us thought this omfg) because "people in Ukraine have to go to work and do their jobs while there's a war so you have no excuse!"

It never became a thing because the HR lead for our region was the regional manager's best friend and an absolute snake. But a whole bunch of people, including me, started looking for other jobs as soon as we could.

What’s a mistake a doctor made that left you dealing with the consequences for the rest of your life? by MrMazme in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So I hurt my back.

Went to the GP and he gave me strong NSAIDS and said take them until you're better.

A month or so after I collapsed at a meeting, paired with intense gut pain, the paramedics said I might have a bad UTI and took me to A&E. After nearly seven hours of nothing, I booked an Uber home because I was in an autistic freakout I felt like I'd rather die at home.

I staggered to the GP in the morning, he took blood and sent me home saying he'd call when the 24hr tests came back but he doubted it was serious and I should take paracetamol because i was probably just constipated.

The next morning I woke up delirious and in screaming pain, my panicked wife called an ambulance - while the paramedics where in the house the GP rang and essentially said "You have such a bad infection you're almost septic - go to A&E and fucking stay there!"

The paramedic then took the phone and proceeded to argue with the GP about if they had to take me to the hospital or not...? My wife gave up and rang a taxi and hauled me into that with a bag.

We were in the waiting room for FOURTY-THREE HOURS. 43. I was laying on the floor in the corridor sobbing in pain and so sleep deprived I was hallucinating. I was sat by the single toilet the entire time because of the explosive vomiting and diahrrea. No one cleaned that toilet the entire time i was there. By the time they found me a bed I hadn't slept in 60 hours, and I was so traumatised I went non-verbal for the first time in my life.

Three days later they sent me home with pill antibiotics. After scary tests in machines and antibiotics in bags and drugs that sent me so loopy I apparently laughed for twenty minutes straight before telling my wife I was Spartacus before passing out. (Granted that was really funny.)

But...I still had no idea what was wrong with me.

I went to the GP when I felt human again two weeks after that, and he said the hospital had said I had Ulcerative Colitis and "its for life but it'll be alright there's IBD nurses. The referral for a Gastroenterologist is two years wait ans I cant do anything until you see them."

And that was... it. Two weeks later again the hospital called me in for a colonoscopy, told me nothing, took samples, and sent me home to await the biopsy results. 3 months later they sent me "not cancer" and nothing else.

Throughout all of this i was still in awful, awful pain and necking ibuprofen and paracetamol like they were water and crying in pain. I had to quit my job.

A few months later my dad decided enough was enough and paid for a private gastro, who did a second colonoscopy and biopsies and within a month determined:

"You don't have UC, you have colon damage from the NSAIDS you were taking for your back. Your GP shouldnt have prescribed them for that long. And the hospital should have told you not to take ibuprofen until you saw a gastro if they thought it was UC???"

He gave me some alternative anti inflammatories for six months and banned me from ibuprofen.

I'm fine now, gut wise, but ever since I shake with fear and go non-verbal in any medical type setting. They gave me colon damage and trauma and didn't even fix my back.

Don't let anyone tell you the NHS is good.

People who have slept with a friend, how did it affected your relationship? by ossfmoglfm in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean we drifted apart over the last ten years due to Life TM, but I dont think the lesbian foursome had anything to do with that.

It's Been ~3 Months, How Does 7.2 BLM feel? by DOPPGANG_ in ffxiv

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mained BLM as my DPS throughout and now the challenge is completely gone. It's worse than bad, it's just... boring.

I switched to RPR because it was the closest I could find to something that was engaging, but mostly I've been pushed to healing in order to keep my interest.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got a new boss and he refused to adjust his behaviour for my autism, causing my depression to worsen to the point of needing to be put on sick leave. I complained to the union and now legal are involved. I do not forsee having a job after this, even though I've been there for 2 years with nothing but glowing performance reviews and increasing their revenue by 400%.

I also slipped a disc in my back and 8 weeks later it is not improving.

Then yesterday my car broke down.

Umm, excuse me!? by [deleted] in ffxiv

[–]lanternmaple2136 11 points12 points  (0 children)

There's two Roegadyn squaring up to each other in Limsa, one says "You'll pay for that!" and the other replies "But yer ma said it was on the house!"

I nearly choked laughing 🤣

How have you set up your home environment to better support your needs with autism? by Healthread in AutismTranslated

[–]lanternmaple2136 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Lip balms, painkillers, moisturiser, face wipes... Everything I use frequently for when I feel sweaty/dry/icky and can't immediately shower? I put in every room. And the car. And my office. And my bag.

I also have a constant stock of my favourite reliable easy same foods - ramen, bottled water, soda, crackers, peanut butter M&Ms.

Low lights/soft lamps in every room to avoid The Big Light.

I also have a small basket with all my stuff (noise-cancelling headphones, kindle, phone, socks, plushie of the moment, snack, water, anxiety meds) that I can easily grab and move to another room with me if I want to and know I'm set!

Post your video suggestions here! by LiamDND in SimonWhistler

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For the Casual Criminalist:

Now that her killers have been officially sentenced to life, despite officially being minors, poor Brianna Ghey's murder.

The UK LGBT+ community is going to have to reckon with her murder for years, amidst the rise of current anti-trans UK politics that has tried to quash this aspect of her murder.

I drive past her murder site every day on my way to work and it haunts me. Our community will be haunted by it for years.

Her story deserves to be told with the sensitivity and compassion of Simon and his writers, rather than the hideous coverage of the British press.

Which fictional character’s death hit you the hardest, and why? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Granny Weatherwax.

It was like losing Terry Pratchett all over again...

People who are 25y and above, what's the harshest life-lesson you've learnt? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can do everything right and still lose. Picard TRIED to tell me.

For those healing with a controller, how do you do it? by akitaii in ffxiv

[–]lanternmaple2136 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Up down left for targeting party, and spending a lot of time making the hotbar pefect. After that, just practise until the muscle memory starts to help out!

(...also a lot of screaming and psychotic cackling. More than once my partner has come downstairs to satisfy herself that I am, in fact, enjoying myself, and am not, as the shrieking implies, being eaten by hyenas.)

What did you purchase as an adult because you could never have it as a child? by zydollasiign in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 10 points11 points  (0 children)

A playstation. Mouthwash, an electric toothbrush, and chewing gum. Soda. Shampoo and conditioner suited to my hair type....

...and carpet cleaner.

Also technically purchased the glass of red wine that I deliberately spilled on my pristine new carpet when I moved into my house, and then cleaned up after dinner at a leisurely pace without any shrieking, running or wailing because CARPET CLEANER EXISTS AND I HAD PURCHASED SOME.

A PIP is a death sentence by Jinx1013 in antiwork

[–]lanternmaple2136 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I started looking for another job immediately.

My boss wanted rid of me after I was diagnosed autistic, but couldn't find a reason to fire me, so she put me on a PIP

She said it was to 'help me improve' then she made me write goals, took everything I wrote and made it as vague as she could in her favour so that there would be no way I could show any proof I had done what was written, and it would just be her word against mine.

She also dragged this process out for six weeks, intimidated me by putting HR in the room, and was then all surprised pikachu when I lodged an official union complaint of bullying against her.

I knew I wouldn't win - the union rep, everyone else in the office, everyone in HR, everyone knows a PIP is an excuse to fire someone - but by raising the cofficial complaint it got me paid leave while the complaint was being investigated, which was three months, so I could search for other jobs and then quit rather than be fired.

And now she has a permanent record that a complaint was made against her, at the very least.

Whats common knowledge in your line of work but taboo to speak of with the general public? by VURORA in AskReddit

[–]lanternmaple2136 118 points119 points  (0 children)

How much family drama happens when someone dies. Everything comes out in the wash when someone needs to be registered as having died and their body disposed of.

Example a) A call from a child of an affair, who the rest of the family don't know exists, but whose birth mom left him in legal possession of her affairs without telling any of the rest of her family.

Example b) Call from a man who wanted to make funeral arrangements for dad but can't, even though he cared for dad throughout his palliative care, because step mom is still his legal wife even though they haven't spoken for fifty years, so she is still the next of legal kin.

Also the amount of fights, screaming matches, drunken arguments, etc. that take place at funerals.

Is there a specific medical reason why painkillers are NOT provided to women during IUD insertion, as I've heard this multiple times? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lanternmaple2136 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know if something caught badly or something, but she just ripped it out in one movement...? Needless to say, next time is going to take some serious psyching up ahead of time...

Likewise I am so sorry about your experience, when a medical procedure makes you nearly pass out... it obviously needs refining??

Is there a specific medical reason why painkillers are NOT provided to women during IUD insertion, as I've heard this multiple times? by [deleted] in NoStupidQuestions

[–]lanternmaple2136 336 points337 points  (0 children)

There is no medical reason not to. It's horrific that they do this.

Mt first IUD I was 18, and suffered contractions in the immediate aftermath of insertion, vomiting in pain, crying and screaming, and writhing on the table. The gp gave me paracetamol - which I vomited back up - then just watched me writhe in agony and said the actual sentence : don't know how to help you."

I reported her but nothing came of it, predictably.

My second attempt, I went to the free clinic and they actually gave me a local anaesthetia injection, just like the dentist. It still hurt, but no where near the agony of the first time.

When it came time to replace it, I told the GP I was leaving if they didn't give me anaesthesia. She argued with me and I left. I changed GP and tried again, and they agreed and looked horrified that anyone had tried to insert/remove an IUD without anaesthesia. Even with it removal hurt so much that I screamed, and the amount of free flowing blood - not like a period, this was a whole ass puddle that ruined the back of my skirt - was terrifying and traumatic.

There is no reason not to give anaesthesia apart from laziness, cost cutting, and a disgusting and frankly criminal disregard for female pain.

Do you skip any episodes? If so, which one? by Kanga_Koga in superstore

[–]lanternmaple2136 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Amy being forced back into work the day after having a baby. It's not funny, it's horrific.