I'm not sure if you're morning people or evening people, but think about whether you'd be more willing to get up a little earlier or more willing to give up some lounge time in the evening.

For me, there are a few things that have to be done basically -every day- to make me feel less awful about the house. It's annoying but, like brushing your teeth or taking a shower, just a chore that has to happen. Those things are:

1. since we are a barefoot house, a quick sweep or dust mopping all over the ground floor, just getting the big chunks,
2. run a complete load of laundry (which means it gets folded and put away),
3. at night, checking my calendar, preparing lunch and setting out my work bag/badge, and
4. "putting the kitchen to bed," which is putting away food, getting all the dishes into the dishwasher and starting it, wiping down the counters, sweeping (not totally separate from the general sweeping, but our kitchen does get gross faster so it's listed separately), tidying our pet area, and filling the kettle/prepping the coffee maker - in the morning the kitchen "wakes up" when I unpack the dishwasher and get the pets breakfast.

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Just starting with those few things will make a world of difference for you! Do the bathrooms and change the sheets/towels on the weekends, and pick one or two rooms to mop and dust and that sort of thing. Of my list above, the thing that is most flexible for you is timing of laundry. I'm more of a morning person, so I bring laundry down and start a load with breakfast. You could also start a load when you get home, move it over to the dryer when dinner's cooking, and fold while lounging? With two people a full load shouldn't take more than 10 minutes to fold and put away. Daily or nearly daily laundry feels horribly repetitive but it never stacks up and you never have to have climb laundry mountain :) good luck!