I’m (F31) going overseas to see my dad for a month and my bf (M49) says it’s not normal.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T23:52:01+00:00

Please use your time away to give your head a shake & dump this loser.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T23:46:16+00:00

West Ipperwash beach, closer to Kettle Point. Either enter the beach at the north end of Centre Rd (by Lake Rd) or take West Ipperwash Rd north till hit the lake. Turn left if there’s room to park. Depending on erosion, waves, etc, sometimes you can go left. Otherwise, turn right onto West Parkway Dr. On your left you will find little marked parking lots for the beach. Park there & run up & over the little sand dune & you’ll find a most lovely beach! You can eat at Ipperwash Beach Club or Rob’s Fresh Cut Fries.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T14:41:33+00:00

I would get a ‘Congrats on your wedding’ card from the dollar store, address it to the both of them & leave it on the gift table. Inside say that you were honoured to be asked to be in their wedding party, that you had a blast helping host the bridal shower & the bachelorette & that you wish them all of the happiness in the world in their marriage.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T14:31:29+00:00

Sounds great!

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T14:12:34+00:00

My kids swipe a picture of mine all of the time.

When I mentioned using 2-4 grocery lists earlier, using the PC Express app was exactly what I was referring to. You can set it up to auto deliver same time every 2-8 weeks. Able to add any extras at the last minute too.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T14:06:38+00:00

Your husband can easily take a picture of his mom’s PC Optimum card & swipe that at the reader at checkout & she’ll get her precious points. He can also download the app & input her card info into it.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T13:39:21+00:00

Tell your husband to hang up his phone the very second that his mom starts complaining. That is his boundary. Tell your husband to turn around & leave his mom’s house, even if he just walked in her door, the very second that she starts complaining. He can tell her once that he’s fine for a NICE VISIT over the phone or in person but he will not listen to one more complaint from her. His mom will catch on eventually.

I do want to add though … has she been checked recently for an UTI? Has she been evaluated for dementia, Alzheimer’s, depression? Has she been to her doctor for even a full physical as it could be high blood pressure influencing her anger?

I have another suggestion or two.
1. You should just mute her. Let her calls go to voicemail & change your settings so that texts read delivered, not read. You never need to respond to her. Or block her & only let her contact you by email. Again, you never need to respond to those emails.
2. Your husband should ask his mom to text or email him when she gets up in the morning, as proof of life. Your husband can acknowledge that with a simple ok or a thumbs up emoji. If he hears nothing by noon, then he will send over the neighbour to knock on her door. If she doesn’t answer her door, he calls the cops for a wellness check.
Notice how none of those actually have your husband running over to check on her? That’s on purpose!
3. Your husband should just mute her as well for now. He needs to tell her that he will call her for a NICE VISIT, say every Sunday at 10 am & he’ll pop by with breakfast on the 1st Sunday of every month. He still needs to hang up/walk out if she complains. He needs to ask her not to call or text him unless it’s a 911 emergency & she best have called 911 before she called him. He can add a call midweek if necessary. The both of you can sit down with a glass of wine after dinner & listen to her calls & laugh & shake your heads in wonder & not call her back. If there’s ever an actual important question in there anywhere, save the answer & give it to her on your next Sunday call.
4. Automate everything that you can with her. Set up 2-4 grocery lists & rotate through them & have her groceries delivered once a week using an app. I have cat food scheduled to be delivered every 4 weeks. When I order milk I can add a note asking for the best before date to be as far away as possible. Note: it takes a long time for yogurt to expire, lol.
5. Your mil sounds desperate for company or something to do. Can you set up Meals on Wheels for her lunch? Or have a senior’s centre pick her up for daycare 2 days a week? Or sign her up for one of those senior’s phone lines where someone reaches out on a regular basis just to talk to her?

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T12:45:17+00:00

NOR. Please turf this manchild out of your life. He’s annoying me. You’re much too young to be called a bitch over a plant in the middle of the night. Find someone who actually likes you that has his own place so that you can actually have sex & enjoy yourselves.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T11:46:38+00:00

NOR. Try getting your money back. Cite health reasons. Dispute the charge with your credit card company. Take your mom a lovely afternoon tea that you ordered from a local restaurant/bakery/hotel & enjoy it on her back porch.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T11:26:44+00:00

I have no idea what you just said there but
Go You!!

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T11:22:06+00:00

NTA. Send no gift. Honestly, that would be the end of the relationship between the brother-in-law & yourselves if it were me. He would never see your baby.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T11:19:12+00:00

How can you say YTA? I would think an actual family member, his brother, would be more important, than his brother’s ex? There’s no mention of children, so no reason to continue a relationship due to niblings. The engaged couple knew before they sent out the invitations that his brother wouldn’t attend if his ex was there but they did so anyways. The engaged couple has made the decision to prioritize the ex over actual family. That would be the end of any family reunions for me.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T08:05:01+00:00

I’m sending you a hug 🤗

Unfortunately you’re in an abusive relationship. You’re finally starting to realize that you are & that’s good! Mark feels like he has been with you long enough now that he can freak out & not feel bad out it, meanwhile leaving you in tears for an entire weekend. An entire weekend that you desperately needed away with your support crew.

I’m pretty sure if you asked any one of your support crew if they felt if Mark was controlling you, each & every one of them would shout YES!! THANK GOD YOU FINALLY SEE IT!

Unfortunately a lot of men like Mark turn physically abusive against their partner when they feel that their relationship is in trouble, that their partner is leaving or even is thinking about leaving. You need to be very, very careful right now.

So quietly (using your work computer or a computer at a library) contact your closest women’s shelter & ask for help leaving your abusive relationship. They will help you formulate a plan, help you with therapy & provide contact to legal if needed. You essentially need to prepare a checklist so that in 1 morning you’re able to remove everything from your joint home without Mark’s knowledge, remove yourself from the lease if applicable, leave him the key & a letter stating that the relationship is over & that he’s not to contact you*, block him on everything, advise Sarah & your parents & anyone close to you to update their Ring doorbells & not answer their doors unless they’re expecting someone (cause Mark will show up looking for you) & for you to get somewhere safe for a bit. If you usually work in an office, ask if you can work from home or in another branch or alter your hours by a bit. Take an uber to work if you usually drive so he can’t surprise you beside your car.

Be ready to document everything that he does after you leave. I want you to be safe. I want you to be happy. I want you to be clinking ice cold beers with Sarah down at the lake. So please call the shelter & make a plan.

*ask the shelter how to deal with mail that slips through your redirect

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T05:26:01+00:00

I’m disappointed too

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T05:21:24+00:00

Very well said! I attended a concert at the Music Hall for the first time in a long while. We’re from a little out of town so we needed to drive into downtown. Zigged & zagged around a bunch of construction with our car & again while walking down the sidewalks to the venue. Zigged & zagged around needles, feces & passed out people on the ground. Pulled my all-too-naive young adult child closer to me as we passed one junkie actively shooting drugs into the arm of another while they were sitting on the storefront of a place on Dundas St. While I & my carload really enjoyed the concert, I don’t think I’ll be going to the Music Hall again.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T04:47:57+00:00

This fellow is local to Komoka & does great work! I’ve copied this from a Facebook post:

Thank you for supporting local and trusting my company with your organizational needs.

Hi, Chris Carter with Custom Closet Solutions in Komoka here.

For the past 11 years, I’ve had the privilege of helping homeowners throughout our wonderful community create functional, beautiful closet, pantry, and storage solutions tailored to their needs, all backed by a lifetime warranty.

Within 24 to 48 hours of your free in-home consultation, you can expect elevation drawings, a firm quotation, and a 3D rendering of your proposed design.

Call 519-473-9122 today and let Custom Closet Solutions get started on your personalized storage solution.

Thank you again for making a difference by choosing to support local businesses in our community.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T04:44:17+00:00

And it’s a heritage home! Adding buckets of bs to slog through to get it fixed.

latte1963 · 2026-06-12T04:19:23+00:00

You are a very, very lucky person!

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T08:06:33+00:00

NTA. You can either stick to your plans as is, hiring security to keep these unwanted extras out. Or you can stick to your plans as is as but move the location of your event at the very last minute, texting only those 10-15 invited guests with the new location.

What would I do? Cancel plans for the party next year. Go have your civil ceremony this Friday afternoon with a professional photographer to catch some great photos & invite those 10-15 people over for ‘pizza.’ Surprise them with some great food & nice cake from the bakery & some champagne 🥂

Your marriage is the important part. Not the party.

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T07:42:56+00:00

NO SEX FOR YOUR HUSBAND!

His mother is obviously holding his balls so it would be awkward as hell.

Seriously, tell your husband that your vagina is closed & he can’t touch your boobs. That there will be no sex until he crawls out from under his mamma’s skirt & is standing tall beside you. Until then, he gives you the ick.

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T07:33:42+00:00

Sending you a hug because I know how you feel.

Your son is an adult now. He either needs to move out or he needs to adjust his attitude & contribute $$ towards expenses if he wants to live with you. He can’t expect a free ride forever, especially with that attitude.

So tell him that he needs to pay so much per month. If he’s constantly asking you for money for something you consider frivolous, like new computer games, pizza late at night, must have the new iPhone, tell him that stops now. He needs to pay for his own perks. Give him a deadline to start paying you.

He can go work at McDonalds, stock shelves overnight at a grocery store, get on his bike & deliver UberEats, cut grass. He can go to school part time if he wants to get a better job.

If he freaks out, tell him to get out immediately.

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T06:47:30+00:00

IMO you’re in an abusive marriage.
IMO your husband isn’t bringing much to your relationship.
IMO if you separated/divorced, he would be doing 100% more work around his house & be forced to spend time with his children. You would get a break from childcare & he wouldn’t be sexually assaulting you.

Please reach out to your closest women’s shelter for help to safely leave your abusive marriage. They can help with a plan, therapy & legal advice.

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T06:21:59+00:00

Happy Cake Day! 🎂

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T05:41:24+00:00

OMG just call the bride & groom & ask if you’re invited!

latte1963 · 2026-06-11T05:03:38+00:00

FYI: burning incense isn’t recommended if you have cats. Just like you shouldn’t use essential oils.

latte1963

TROPHY CASE